DH is stressing me out!!

So my DH has been pretty good at being supportive during this whole TTC extravaganza... we are on our 10th cycle, and everytime AF comes I get all upset and he is right there to hold me and tell me not to worry, it will happen for us, we just have to be positive, etc, etc. I will tell him that AF is here, i will see a quick half a second glimpse of disappointment on his face and then he is calm, supportive, and hopeful for the next month.

so i was a little surprised - and hurt - today when he comes up to me all stressed looking to tell me that his friend and his wife are pregnant with their second LO. dh says "we should be pregnant already, they are already on their second and we dont even have one yet" he looked me up and down and said." i hope nothing is wrong" i felt so crappy. and broken.

of course this led to an argument, and i got upset, he apoligized, and then we were eventually ok with eachother again. but geez, talk about adding stress!!

in a way though, it was kind of interesting to see HIM get a little bit envious of another couple getting pregnant...when it seems like its always us ladies that get hit the hardest with that kind of stuff. i guess it shows just how much he wants US to be pregnant and for him to be a daddy

thanks for reading, and for letting me vent!!

Re: DH is stressing me out!!

It sounds like you have a pretty great DH there! Once in a while it's nice to see that they're as emotionally invested as we are! Glad you worked it out...

Message edited 12/23/2009 8:33:06 AM.

Re: DH is stressing me out!!

Posted by yeah-yeah


It sounds like you have a pretty great DH there! Once in a while it's nice to see that they're as emotionally invested as we are! Glad you worked it out...

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Posted by zoe282

Posted by yeah-yeah


It sounds like you have a pretty great DH there! Once in a while it's nice to see that they're as emotionally invested as we are! Glad you worked it out...

I agree here..I think we as women forget that our husbands hurt like we do..that they want this as much as we do. We want them to be our rock and our support...but sometimes they need support too..I totally get where you are coming from though..

I read this blog written by a man who's wife had trouble getting pregnant. It was eye opening to read these words and hear it from his side..just thought you'd like to read it. I know i did.

his side

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Re: DH is stressing me out!!

thanks ladies. it's true, i forget that he is also anxiously awaiting pregnancy; not just me.

jen- very interesting blog, thanks for sharing!

well at least for the next few days, we will be so busy with holiday stuff we won't really have time to worry about ttc stuff!

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It's so hard when you realize DH is really invested too. My DH doesn't say too much, similar to your DH...just supportive and says we'll try next month. Out of the blue a couple weeks ago he said, "I really wish you were pregnant right now." UGH!