I AM DONE.

I'm done.

I can't do this anymore.

There is just too much stress and pressure. This is not easy. This is not fun. There is nothing but waiting, anticipation, and disappointment.

We BD'd on Thursday. Friday was my O date. We tried twice and DH could not finish. We tried again this morning and same thing.

I just can't do this anymore

How can we get pregnant this way? The months we do everything right, it never works. The months like this when are timing is horrible are just a waste of our time.

I'm upset, angry, frustrated, tired, annoyed, and heartbroken. DH is hating himself, feeling guilty, and upset. It brings us together and it tears us apart.

I'm done... I'm done

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I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. I understand it all to well after yet another BFN this morning. I don't understand how everything can be timed just right & things can seem perfectly in order & yet we all end up being not pregnant. It's so frustrating especially since it reminds us that we really have no control.

I don't think this month is a waste at all. If you did BD on Thursday & Oed on Friday, you are definately still in the game!

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You are still in the game if you bd'd Thursday. There is so much pressure, I know-but it will happen. You are in my prayers:)

As far as Dh goes-it is a lot for them. Why don't you stick to everyother day for now on to make things a little easier.

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Oh sweetie im so sorry youre felling so frustrated. I know i wouldnt know what to do if i didnt have this board to vent to, so vent as much as you need.

Right now you know youre doing everything right. Im annoyed your dr is making you wait until the 1 yr trying mark bc you still have 4-5 mons til that point. Maybe you and DH should go for a nice dinner and have a few drinks so he (and you) can loosen up and just have SEX and then maybe it can be a BD too.

Feel better my friend

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Posted by ANON4NOW


I agree with both points.

Anyway of trying to change up it a bit in the bedroom so it feels less like BDing and more like sex? Maybe more foreplay?

Maybe give him a BJ until he is ready and then hop on top?

I'm sorry you're feeling so discouraged. I'm hoping/praying this will happen soon for all of us.

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Maybe take a break? I know it sounds silly but what about just stopping the TTC process now and just "play it by ear". Take 1-2 months off, go away on the weekends, and just relax. BD when you guys want to and once you have taken a break maybe you'll want to start again.....PLEASE FM if you need to talk. You support has encouraged me in ways you cannot imagine....if I can help you in any way please let me know

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I'm sorry you are feeling this way

Maybe it would be good for both you and DH to just take some time off from TTC?

Good luck this month. I hope you get your BFP soon!!

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I am so sorry you are feeling like this. I think all the PPs have made great suggestions and I hope one of them works for you. I will keep you in my thoughts!

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Posted by conigs25

Posted by ANON4NOW


I agree with both points.

Anyway of trying to change up it a bit in the bedroom so it feels less like BDing and more like sex? Maybe more foreplay?

Maybe give him a BJ until he is ready and then hop on top?

I'm sorry you're feeling so discouraged. I'm hoping/praying this will happen soon for all of us.

Once i told DH that i need to go on clomid and there will be specific BD times, he got very uncomfortable. He feared he was turning to a machine and the sex we once had will tun into "baby making time".

Youre a sexy, cute little thing. Go get some HOT azz lingerie and seduce the pants off that handsome man of yours!!!

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It is so hard, I know how you feel, that is exactly why I decided to take a break in the first place (that and the weight issue) but I do love the idea of not getting all the highs and lows month after month. Maybe take 2-3 months off to just relax and see what happens.
I hope everything works for you

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im sooo sorry your feeling this way. I can totally relate with how your feeling. We spend month after month timing and making eveyrthing is a go then the time comes to BD and DH and cant do more than one day. I cant help but get angry. It is just as stressful for everyone.. I no dont tell dh what we are doing and try to stay the same all month as far as BD schedule to keep him in the loop. Can you switch docs that would possibly let you see an RE earlier? Chin up... You are still in the game. My friend just told me this weekend she is 10wk preg and only BD the day of her smiley because he DH couldnt finish as well. So there is a very good chance.

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I'm writing you an FM right now.

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I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart to every person who posted a message or sent me an FM.

The amount of support on this board is just breathtaking, and I can't even express how much it means to me and DH.

I read him each and every FM and story of success.

We are both beginning to feel a lot better about things and have decided that we will take a break next month from TTC.

Thank you everyone!

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I've felt this way, too and this BFP happened when I least expected it.

This past cycle, dh and I bd'd five days leading up to "o", day of "o", and two days after. Bam. There it was - my long-awaited BFP.

You always have us here to cry with, scream at, and laugh with. Don't lose hope.

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First off . FM me if you want some tricks to help with the pressures of BDing on command.

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Already FM'ed you but just wanted to say- it only takes once That's how this little one happened- we weren't even supposed to BD. It is possible you could even be pregnant right now

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Sounded like you both are super stressed from this whole process.

I agree with the previous posts, take a break for 2 months. It gets to be too much. Then buy some lingerie, light some candles and go for it. Don't do every night if it's too much pressure, BD once or twice.

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I'm sorry. TTC can be so frustrating. The waiting and wondering is so stressful. I took a month off(from using opks, obsessing, etc.) and found it helped.

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I have been there. I have had 2 MC. I have not been on this bd that much becuase I am so sick of obsessing about it.Everyone on this bd is great, just sometimes you need a break from the B'ding. Just try to take some time off, and make some couple time. That is what DH and I are going to do , we have planned 2 trips- and we are trying to focus on our house and when the time is right it will happen, if I have to we will go further and get more testing. Feel free to FM mail me if you need to talk. and some