My DH will not let me get a OPK..

He thinks it is a waste of money.

I got into a brawl with him at Target yesterday. He refuses to let me buy it- He says if the man upstairs wants it to happen, it will happen.

I hate men.

Message edited 11/19/2007 8:16:32 AM.

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My DH and I haven't brawled about this yet BUT, he didn't want me to go off BCP until we were ready to TTC (we going to start in January, this is my first cycle off BCP) and eyebrows were raised when I came home with a BBT.

They just don't get it!

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They really don't get it...Mine thinks if it's meant to be it's mean to be. I got really excited when I got a positive OPK (I bought one during lunch at work ;) ) and he's like huh, they just don't get it, he thinks we can just BD anytime we want and poof it happens....like a child himself

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Posted by pickles16

They really don't get it...Mine thinks if it's meant to be it's mean to be. I got really excited when I got a positive OPK (I bought one during lunch at work ;) ) and he's like huh, they just don't get it, he thinks we can just BD anytime we want and poof it happens....like a child himself

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OH, well I got my DH at that one....I made him BD every day this week and he was EXHAUSTED!!!! He realizes that its not at easy as it sounds..granted he works really long days, but he is coming around to the fact that it may not be as easy as it thinks, but he still has no clue...this is our first month really really trying, last month we weren't preventing, so I'm crossing my fingers..I haven't started charting yet, I want to give it a few more months before I do that...My periods have been pretty regular thank g-d!!! OH, and we also used preseed this month, that he actually LOVED

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I used CD's to determine firstmonths O date, after that DH said he doesn't want toknow when I O, it is too much pressure. So I bought it and didn't tell him!

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well since we are only fertile for about 1.5 minutes a month, that's foolish.

I'm joking of course but there are reasons for these tools and we need them.

Hey, use the tool analogy.

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a lot of people dont understand what the chances are with ONE egg!!!

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1st-do not tell him
2nd-do you have a job and your own money
3-see above if this is true he has nothing to say about it

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i was going to suggest a compromise. ask him if you may purchase what you feel you need for TTC and promise not to share your over analysis with him (when you ovulate, etc). my DH would definitely go for this one.

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Also, I know with my DH he doesn't like to feel the added pressure, so keeping him in the dark isn't a bad idea...

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Well I can understand why he feels that way. If you are just starting out he doesn't want making a baby to feel like a chore, which it starts to when you know the precise moment you are ovulating and know you have to BD that second.
If you have no reasons to worry (no preexisting conditions and you are under 35) I do not see an issues with just trying for the sake of trying for a month or two.
But if you really want to use OPKs then use them, and when you get your surge, seduce your DH. He will have no problems with that, trust me.

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My husband was the same way. "If it's met to happen, it will" But realize there will come a point when they are going to realize its much more complicated than that. For me it was month five was when my DH started to realize maybe something's wrong and started to understand why it is that I do what I do. Wait a bit, either you will get pregnant and that would be the end of it, or you wont, and then your DH will start to think more proactively.

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my dh actaully bought me one a while ago, Ive yet to even try it , or use it. Way confusing for me

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Posted by hopin4baby

Well I can understand why he feels that way. If you are just starting out he doesn't want making a baby to feel like a chore, which it starts to when you know the precise moment you are ovulating and know you have to BD that second.
If you have no reasons to worry (no preexisting conditions and you are under 35) I do not see an issues with just trying for the sake of trying for a month or two.
But if you really want to use OPKs then use them, and when you get your surge, seduce your DH. He will have no problems with that, trust me.

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Clearly your DH has no clue that women have just about 2 days (at most) to get PG.

These are necessary tools to help with the process of getting PG.

Have you explained this to him?

I understand the notion of "if it happens, it happens" but if you're really serious about getting PG why wouldn't he want to do everything possible to do so?

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Never told DH

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