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Does she have a house, hubby and kids? If so some things that were helful for us was that one group of friends got a cleaning service for us (this was more useful the weeks after, we didn't let a lot of people in our house during because of germs, but I know I am a freak like that.

A lawn service with edging and hedge services...that really helped DH and allowed us to spend more time together on the weekends.

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I'm sorry I keep posting, things keep popping in my head. If it's ok, I will keep posting the things that we received at home that helped. If I get overbearing or annoyiibg feel free to say so.


OOh I never followed up. If she has kids offer to take them off her hands for 8 days (pne day a week while she is on chemo) or offer 8 days of day care (although she might not love that idea cause kids come home with a lot of germs and stuff from day cares, it's just human nature)

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OOh, does she have an ipod? If so, maybe get her small one so she can listen to the music she wants during chemo? Or get her the really upscale one where she could download games and tv shows and movies from itunes or maybe just an itunes gift card

8 bottles pf hand sanitizer?

ummmmm still thinking

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I am bad when it comes to creative ideas but I just wanted to say that I think this is one of the nicest things I have ever heard.

How sweet of you and your sister to be so kind, caring and considerate. She is very lucky to have friends like you guys!

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what about a portable DVD player and some of her favorite movies to watch during Chemo?

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thanks for all of your help everyone!!!

didnt even think about the manis... ill hold off on that..

she already has a cleaning lady...
her daughter is in full time camp starting next week...she has a younger daughter..

deb- i get her mags for every chemo treatment- it is a LONG day for her.

she is exhausted mentally, physically and emotionally... kelly came up with a great idea!

kelly hope you are making a list!!!!!

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Maybe some gift certificates to something like Peapod so she doesn't have to go out to go grocery shopping.

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Is that her in your avi?

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I probably wouldn't get her food because I think they feel very sick afterwards.

I think accessories are the way to go. Scarves, sunglasses, bags, shoes. I would love that.

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Since she has a daughter - maybe give your friend a certain amount of 'coupons' for sleep overs for her daughter - maybe over your house or your sisters?

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Everyone has already listed things I would think of...but I am thinking of more....

I just wanted to say that you ladies are very sweet.

How about offering to babysit her daughter for a few days?

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Posted by dooodles

Your friend is lucky to have you both!

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I agree your friend is VERY lucky to have you!

I'm not great with creative ideas, but I WILL be thinking of things.

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Kell and Kris - I can't think of anything different right now than any other the other great ideas that have been posted but I just wanted to give you both hugs You are two wonderful woman and wonderful friends and I know how difficult this is for all of you. You are loving and caring and I'm proud to call you both my friends.

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thanks again guys for all of the suggestions and ideas.

i cannot even begin to tell you the helplessness i feel as her friend. I know i am there for her as much as i can be but to watch her go through this, it truly is heartbreaking.

we have always been close, this has brought us even closer and i see the pain.. i spent time with her at sloan while she was getting her chemo...its so surreal to me sometimes...

it doesnt help that she started the year off with losing her dad suddenly to a heart attack...

what a freakin year!!!!!

sorry had to vent!!!!

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What about 8 days of prepared meals (or whatever # you can manage).

When my mom went through radiation, people from her church had a calendar that people signed up on for bringing over a hot meal. It was a Godsend for my dad and me, because we never had to think about dinner for about a month and a half. She may not eat the food, but it will free up time and energy for the family.

for your friend.

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Vent away anytime you need - that's why we're here

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Posted by mrswask

Kell and Kris - I can't think of anything different right now than any other the other great ideas that have been posted but I just wanted to give you both hugs You are two wonderful woman and wonderful friends and I know how difficult this is for all of you. You are loving and caring and I'm proud to call you both my friends.

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If you wanna do something really over the top - if it's financially feasible - maybe send her and DH to a B+B for a weekend, or something like that, and watch the kids to celebrate the end of chemo...

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Posted by dpli

What about 8 days of prepared meals (or whatever # you can manage).

When my mom went through radiation, people from her church had a calendar that people signed up on for bringing over a hot meal. It was a Godsend for my dad and me, because we never had to think about dinner for about a month and a half. She may not eat the food, but it will free up time and energy for the family.

for your friend.

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What about a few pairs of really nice/cute comfy sweats or pjs?

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is she crafty? maybe some skeins of yarns and some needles to make something? 1 skein would make a hat, 2 a scarf . . . 8 or so for a blanket.