Naming Baby

Did you tell everyone the names you had picked out for the baby? Or did you leave it a surprise?...

My husband and I wont tell anyone the names we have picked out until the baby is born....we havent been asked too many times yet (as Im only in my 14th week) but we have received mixed reviews re:waiting to tell...

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We told everyone.

I didnt see the point in not telling.

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We told... It had always annoyed me when people "refused" to tell- I mean, what's the big secret? It felt kind of pompous to me- like they're SO important that we mere mortals aren't worthy of knowing their child's name......

HOWEVER, one friend did tell me that the reason she wished she didn't tell anyone is because after choosing and telling the name, she started having second thoughts around the time of her shower. At her shower, she got a bunch of things monogrammed with the baby's name, so she felt like she "had" to stick with her original name.

SO- I can now understand not telling for fear that you might change your mind......

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We're not telling.

Mostly because we can't agree on one right now!!

We have a couple other reasons too:

We feel like that's the one surprise we have left for everyone since they already know it's a boy.

We are considering using a couple family names that will be very sentimental and we feel like that will be a nice gift to our families when he gets here.

And lastly people have very strong opinions on names and feel the need to comment on choices. I don't want doubt creeping into my head on a choice.

If he's already born and named that, people are less likely to comment.

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We've told some people, we're waiting to tell everyone else mainly because we have gotten a few comments on the name and I feel like if I hear one more person say they don't like it I am going to take a swing at them!

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We've told some people, we're waiting to tell everyone else mainly because we have gotten a few comments on the name and I feel like if I hear one more person say they don't like it I am going to take a swing at them!


I think that is a big part of why we want to wait...

We are also using some family names and want it to be a surprise for my husbands mother...if anyone else knew it could come out and then it wouldnt be a surprise..

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we probably won't tell anyone, because both of our families are very "opinionated" - and to be honest, i have no desire to hear any of their comments about the names we choose.

we figure that once the baby is born and we announce the name, the topic won't be open for discussion or debate.

we want people to keep their opinions to themselves, and figured that this is the way to do it.

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we told bc it is all over her room anyway!!!

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We've told everyone and anyone who asked.

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We're not telling anyone. I like the idea of telling everyone when the baby is born, just to add to the excitement of not knowing the gender too. No one seems to mind that we haven't told the names yet. Totally a personal decision though.

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Still TTC but we have discussed this. I can see opinions coming from both ends. I know we have to honor certain people, according to my faith, in Hebrew. We will choose thenames we like in English. Frankly, I can forsee certain family members getting all in a huff. I dont think it is anyone's business but the parents as to who names a child and what that name will be.

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The baby's gender will not be a surprise but the name will. I don't like the idea of a lot of people referring to a baby by name before it is born. It's a superstition of mine. When the baby is born and the naming is said and done, there are not going to be as many comments as there would have been during the preceeding months.

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I want to tell everyone...I kind of want to "claim" the name since so many of our friends are having babies.

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we tell when we're asked

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I never really thought about not telling before, but maybe it would have been a good idea since everyone we know has been really annoying with trying to come up with nicknames for DS.

He will have the same name as DH and my sister is telling everyone to call him "Topher" and my SIL is trying to campaign to misspell any nickname that I LIKED.

I don't know what is so hard about calling our son "Christopher"?

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We told the names we have picked out for a boy and a girl. Neither family would ever tell either of us what to do. Not that we would listen anyway.

I agree with Poruss, if I "hold back" it seems like, what, you think it really matters to the rest of the world oh that much?? Not.

Anyway, I have no fear either of my names being "stolen" - we are the last of our family and friends to have kids. The nieces and nephews will be the next ones starting families, probably real soon.

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Posted by leighla

We're not telling.

Mostly because we can't agree on one right now!!

We have a couple other reasons too:

We feel like that's the one surprise we have left for everyone since they already know it's a boy.

We are considering using a couple family names that will be very sentimental and we feel like that will be a nice gift to our families when he gets here.

And lastly people have very strong opinions on names and feel the need to comment on choices. I don't want doubt creeping into my head on a choice.

If he's already born and named that, people are less likely to comment.

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We found out the sex and decided to leave the name as a surprise. Before we decided the sex, ppl started to ask and we offered a few names we were considering. Well, we didn't like the feedback we were getting (let's just say rude), so we took someone's advice that told us it's better to wait until the baby is born. The reaction is mixed-- some completely understand and think it's fun to leave something as a surprise and others literally HARASS us on why we are keeping it a surprise and want at least clues......

Honestly, from the couple of ppl that recently had babies that we know, I actually enjoyed not knowing the babies' names until he or she was born....it was part of the excitement for us when we found out the baby had finally arrived!

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Posted by leighla

We're not telling.

Mostly because we can't agree on one right now!!

We have a couple other reasons too:

We feel like that's the one surprise we have left for everyone since they already know it's a boy.

We are considering using a couple family names that will be very sentimental and we feel like that will be a nice gift to our families when he gets here.

And lastly people have very strong opinions on names and feel the need to comment on choices. I don't want doubt creeping into my head on a choice.

If he's already born and named that, people are less likely to comment.

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We won't tell anyone. The main reason is that there are 5 other people in our family that are pregnant and while I don't think that anyone would chose the same name...I have seen it happen where very similar names were chosen. So obvious that it struck me even when I wasn't preggo.

On top of that - we decided that this would be the surprise since we wanted to find out the sex. Plus DH and I like that we are the only ones that know - it's our secret and only we call her by her name. Silly but it makes us smile.

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We have told people our thoughts, but we haven't narrowed the names down yet, we can't agree on a boy's name at all, I am not sure if we are going to tell people once we do decide

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we are starting to tell

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We are keeping our lips shut. MIL keeps trying to guess, which makes me laugh.

Everyone has an opinion. In my family, my brother had to deal with such hostility about his child's name for months before the baby was born. If anyone has a problem with our choice, then they can't try to change our mind. It'll be done.

Message edited 3/12/2007 9:59:03 AM.