Need help (again) with MOH's Baby Shower!!!

I know I have not posted much on here, I spend most of my time on LIW. But I thought I'd come back here for this one.

Okay, my MOH's mom called me about a week ago to start brainstorming for the baby shower. MOH is due Dec 15, but we all think she's going to go early, so we're had decided the shower would be in end of Oct. Her mom and I decided on Sunday Oct 23 either 12-4 or 1-5. Fine.

MOH lives in W. Babylon, her mom and I live in Queens (but I work in Suffolk), and I offer to check out some restaurants for the shower. The guest list is small (20-25), so her mom thought a restaurant would be great. She said no alcohol and wants to stay under $1000. Fine. I make some calls and planned on going to some places this week.

MOH comes to work Tues saying that her mom (who had been staying with them all weekend) was insisting on going to see a place w/ MOH's husband's mom (who is up visiting from FL), but she (husband's mom) was busy and MOH's mom got upset and made the husband take her.

Today the husband calls me to see if MOH's mom had called me, I tell him yes, a week ago. He said "No, since last night?" Then goes on to tell me that they went to a place and she left a deposit. Okay. I then ask when and where... Here's the kicker...
It's now on Saturday (she knows I work Saturdays until at least 2pm) from 1-4pm at the Chinese Buffet in North Babylon.

Please forgive me, I am not knocking the place (it'd be in a pvt room), but come on, my MOH is 36 (37 in Dec) and this is her 1st child! He told me it was $10/pp. I am a little upset b/c I wanted to be SOMEWHAT involved. PLUS...MOH made it VERY clear she did not want the shower in Sept, b/c it's TOO soon. Hello?!?! It's practically in Sept now! The husband did say that it's earlier b/c his mom will still be here from FL. Fine.

SO, now I want to call and go to some other places then call her (she doesn't know the husband called me) and say "Okay, here is what I found and they are holding the date for me" FYI, I called Villa Lombardis (just for kicks) their shower pkg is $29.95/pp! Even if we have 25 people, that is under $1000 INCL tax and grat!

PLEASE!!! Any suggestions!?!?!?! TIA!!!!!

-Jill

Re: Need help (again) with MOH's Baby Shower!!!

I think that was a little rude of the MIL to do everything without consulting everyone else. Esp. if she knows how involved you have been and she still put it on a Sat. when you work.

I think villa lombardis sounds great!! and I am sure you know your MOH better then the MIL does. Tell her you really don't think your friend would be crazy about the chinese food idea ( tell her since she is PG the smell of chinese makes her sick! lol) and since its her first baby and going to be the only shower she ever gets you just want to make sure its really nice and that your MOH will love it.

ETA: I would even go so far as to say you gave a non refundable deposit b/c it was such a great deal and you KNEW how much your MOH would love it.

Message edited 8/18/2005 1:03:50 PM.

Re: Need help (again) with MOH's Baby Shower!!!

Thank you so much for your input.

I am calling places and going to see some today. I will call her mom tonight and see how it goes.

If she insists on staying with the Chinese Buffet, I will just have to instil my creativity skills and make it work!