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Pomegranate5
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Re: WWYD… update

I probably wouldn't have invited them at all TBH.

If I were your friends, I wouldn't want to give up an entire day of a holiday weekend, considering that you're not really that close. And to arrange childcare on top of that. Sorry to be brutally honest, but we would pass too.

Posted 4/13/22 1:03 PM
 
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EricaAlt
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Re: WWYD… update

Posted by Pomegranate5

I probably wouldn't have invited them at all TBH.

If I were your friends, I wouldn't want to give up an entire day of a holiday weekend, considering that you're not really that close. And to arrange childcare on top of that. Sorry to be brutally honest, but we would pass too.


I understand. It's not all day. Temple in the morning from 9:30 - 11:30AM then the party 8PM that night,

We are also good friends with them, but just not family friends with them. We do couples dinners together. They are allowed to respond no, but just trying to see their POV bc it seems more they are upset about the kids not being invited when we hardly get the kids involved and we weren't even invited to their son's communion.

Posted 4/13/22 1:55 PM
 

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Re: WWYD… update

Posted by windyweather21

Posted by nycbuslady

Posted by lululu

I missed the original thing but I am getting the jist of it. As long as they are not the only people invited without kids I think that what you did was completely appropriate. We were in a similar circumstance a few years ago. Invited to a Bat Mitvah, there were the friends of the girl getting bat mitvahed and family members children. The children of the parent's friends were not invited. It was fine. Also, if my kids were younger I would be happy they weren't invited to an event that doesn't even start until 8pm. TBH my kids would not want to be at a Bat Mitvah were they didn't know anyone. The thing that makes a Bat Mitvah fun for the kids is hanging out with their friends.

I wouldn't end a friendship over someone declining to attend a party for my child no matter what the reason though.



I agree with this. Even with weddings, you cut the list by "level". The kids of your siblings may be invited, but the kids of your cousins may not be invited. It sounds like the kids don't even know each other, so it's understandable that they weren't invited.



I think the main problem here is that the friends seem insulted but don't want to say it. There doesn't seem to be full communication so they don't know why they are declining when they usually hang out without the kids.



Thank you. THis is mainly it, but I have moved on. I think we were upset about the answer bc we saw them recently at a friend's mom's funeral and they all said they'd be there and was looking forward to it.

Posted 4/13/22 1:57 PM
 

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Re: WWYD… update

Posted by KarenK122

I think the friends are just confused on what is happening. I have been to plenty of events like this where we were invited as friends of the parents. My kids were not invited because they did not know each other. I went and had a great time!!!



Thanks

Posted 4/13/22 1:57 PM
 

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Re: WWYD… update

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by Pomegranate5

I probably wouldn't have invited them at all TBH.

If I were your friends, I wouldn't want to give up an entire day of a holiday weekend, considering that you're not really that close. And to arrange childcare on top of that. Sorry to be brutally honest, but we would pass too.


I understand. It's not all day. Temple in the morning from 9:30 - 11:30AM then the party 8PM that night,

We are also good friends with them, but just not family friends with them. We do couples dinners together. They are allowed to respond no, but just trying to see their POV bc it seems more they are upset about the kids not being invited when we hardly get the kids involved and we weren't even invited to their son's communion.



I do think they may be insulted since its a party for your kid, with other kids…but just not their kids. They eliminated the awkward factor by not inviting you or your kids to their child’s communion, which is fine.

Posted 4/13/22 3:04 PM
 

Pomegranate5
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Re: WWYD… update

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by Pomegranate5

I probably wouldn't have invited them at all TBH.

If I were your friends, I wouldn't want to give up an entire day of a holiday weekend, considering that you're not really that close. And to arrange childcare on top of that. Sorry to be brutally honest, but we would pass too.


I understand. It's not all day. Temple in the morning from 9:30 - 11:30AM then the party 8PM that night,

We are also good friends with them, but just not family friends with them. We do couples dinners together. They are allowed to respond no, but just trying to see their POV bc it seems more they are upset about the kids not being invited when we hardly get the kids involved and we weren't even invited to their son's communion.



I really do get it. I think I would have taken their cue from the communion and just not invited them to this particular event.

Maybe they just wanted to avoid an awkward conversation when you saw them at the funeral.

Posted 4/13/22 7:23 PM
 
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