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yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

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MarathonKnitter
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yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

drum roll, please... "how much should i give?" Chat Icon



the parameters to this gift are:
* my coworker, who i have been getting along with amazingly, invited me to her little sister's quinceanera.
* i will not be able to attend and she knows this.
* i would like to send the birthday girl a greeting card with a token gift.

what should said token gift be???

* a gift card? if so, what store, how much?
* a check? if so, how much?

no. i have never met the birthday girl.

i have a dollar amount in my mind, but was wondering if it fell within "normal" range.
and yes, i will give what i can afford, but just wondering on opinions/ideas.

Posted 2/28/20 11:20 AM
 
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chilltocam
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yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

I would think $25-$50 (but have never been to a quinceanera and don't know what a "normal" gift would be)

Posted 2/28/20 11:32 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

I think of it as the equivalent of a bat mitzvah, so between 50 to 100 for an adult who cannot attend. I am in the process of planning my son's bar mitzvah, and just the food is $145 per adult if that gives you an idea for current costs and you are into the cover your plate thing, which is entirely up to you. Of course, how much someone decides to spend is up to them, and don't think a guest needs to cover their plate and then some because otherwise you are spending at least $300 a couple and that seems a lot for not attending.

Posted 2/28/20 11:36 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

I would say $50-100 depending on why you could afford or if you know an good nail place they go to maybe a GC to there to make it more personal and she can use it the day before to get her nails done.

Posted 2/28/20 11:46 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

You are not planning to go so they are not paying for a plate (if you are going by that). It is not the coworkers daughter, it is her younger sister whom you have never met. I would say the most $30.

Posted 2/28/20 11:56 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by chilltocam

I would think $25-$50 (but have never been to a quinceanera and don't know what a "normal" gift would be)



This since you are not going.

Posted 2/28/20 11:59 AM
 

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yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Yeah, I think in the $25-$30 range. I'd just do cash or a check.

Posted 2/28/20 12:01 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

I would do $50/$75

Posted 2/28/20 12:08 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

$25. You aren't going and you don't even know the girl. I think any gift is beyond necessary.

Posted 2/28/20 12:29 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

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Message edited 3/19/2020 10:19:08 AM.

Posted 2/28/20 12:40 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by LSP2005

I think of it as the equivalent of a bat mitzvah, so between 50 to 100 for an adult who cannot attend. I am in the process of planning my son's bar mitzvah, and just the food is $145 per adult if that gives you an idea for current costs and you are into the cover your plate thing, which is entirely up to you. Of course, how much someone decides to spend is up to them, and don't think a guest needs to cover their plate and then some because otherwise you are spending at least $300 a couple and that seems a lot for not attending.



omg that is insane. That seems like alot for a 15 year old bday. $300 for a couple is like a wedding gift

Posted 2/28/20 12:45 PM
 

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yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

I guess I'm the only cheapskate b/c if I never met her and I'm not going, I wouldn't give anything. Since you want to send a token gift, I would think $25 would be enough. Maybe a gift card to a teen clothing store.

Posted 2/28/20 1:05 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by Funkybutt

I guess I'm the only cheapskate b/c if I never met her and I'm not going, I wouldn't give anything. Since you want to send a token gift, I would think $25 would be enough. Maybe a gift card to a teen clothing store.



OMG - I was thinking the same thing.

Posted 2/28/20 1:38 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

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Posted by Funkybutt

I guess I'm the only cheapskate b/c if I never met her and I'm not going, I wouldn't give anything. Since you want to send a token gift, I would think $25 would be enough. Maybe a gift card to a teen clothing store.



OMG - I was thinking the same thing.



Same here.

Posted 2/28/20 1:39 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

I'd say $30 with max of $50. You dont know them and its very kind of you to think of her on her special day.

I think Id go the cash route b/c you don't know what she likes.

Posted 2/28/20 1:46 PM
 

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yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

You dont know them. I would give nothing. I'd feel weird if someone I didnt even know gave me a gift..

Posted 2/28/20 1:59 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by PitterPatter11

Posted by Funkybutt

I guess I'm the only cheapskate b/c if I never met her and I'm not going, I wouldn't give anything. Since you want to send a token gift, I would think $25 would be enough. Maybe a gift card to a teen clothing store.



OMG - I was thinking the same thing.



This is what I would do- MAYBE up to $50- depends on how close I am with the co-worker.

Posted 2/28/20 2:17 PM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by StaceyWill

Posted by PitterPatter11

Posted by Funkybutt

I guess I'm the only cheapskate b/c if I never met her and I'm not going, I wouldn't give anything. Since you want to send a token gift, I would think $25 would be enough. Maybe a gift card to a teen clothing store.



OMG - I was thinking the same thing.



Same here.



I agree...not to mention it’s not even her daughter, it’s her sister. That seems like a gift grab invite.

Posted 2/28/20 3:11 PM
 

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$25. You aren't going and you don't even know the girl. I think any gift is beyond necessary.



Exactly this

Posted 2/29/20 3:00 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by olive98

You dont know them. I would give nothing. I'd feel weird if someone I didnt even know gave me a gift..



This. You don't know them at all. Totally weird for you to be invited and it would be totally weird to give a gift or even a card to someone you never met!!!!!

Posted 2/29/20 9:50 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Wait, she invited you knowing you can't attend?? That's a total gift grab. It's weird for her to even invite you in the first place even if you were attending because it's her SISTER not her daughter. So weird. Who invites a coworker to a sibling's event?? $25 cash is more than generous considering you've never met her.

Posted 2/29/20 9:53 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by MC09

Wait, she invited you knowing you can't attend?? That's a total gift grab. It's weird for her to even invite you in the first place even if you were attending because it's her SISTER not her daughter. So weird. Who invites a coworker to a sibling's event?? $25 cash is more than generous considering you've never met her.



no.
she invited me.
i then, after about a week, realized i couldn't attend. i just stated it as a fact that my not attending would be putting her out my plate.

Posted 2/29/20 11:20 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

While it's not necessary, I think $25 is a nice token gift.
A Visa gift card or maybe iTunes or Amazon

Posted 2/29/20 11:35 AM
 

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Re: yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

Posted by MarathonKnitter

Posted by MC09

Wait, she invited you knowing you can't attend?? That's a total gift grab. It's weird for her to even invite you in the first place even if you were attending because it's her SISTER not her daughter. So weird. Who invites a coworker to a sibling's event?? $25 cash is more than generous considering you've never met her.



no.
she invited me.
i then, after about a week, realized i couldn't attend. i just stated it as a fact that my not attending would be putting her out my plate.



Ok, I thought that was pretty ballsy to invite you if she knew you couldn't go lol you'd be surprised but I know people who've done that just for a gift . My favorite is when they invite out of towners knowing full well they can't attend just so they get a check in the mail.

Posted 2/29/20 11:58 AM
 

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yes, yes, yes... ANOTHER gift question... but with a little twist

I would send a $25 Starbucks card. Every girl goes there and she'll use it for herself. That is more than enough for someone you don't know and aren't going to the party.

Posted 2/29/20 3:15 PM
 
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