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PitterPatter11
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Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Schools often do not fulfill requests like that. It can be a logistics nightmare.
Additionally, I would not take what the parent said as the school policy. Things can be easily be passed along wrong in a "game of telephone".
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Mrs213
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Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
It’s not strange
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| Posted 10/7/19 9:39 PM |
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LiveItUp
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Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
My dds school only honors requests of which kids you DON'T want to be placed in a class with your child. So if a kid is a bully to your child, or they don't get along, have fights, etc, and you feel you want them to be separated for the school year, the school will make every effort to honor that. But they do NOT allow teacher requests or friend requests. It's just too hard to begin with to distribute the students into classes evenly based on factors like gender, behavior, academic ability, etc, plus honoring the requests to keep certain kids apart. Plus, I dont think it's bad for kids to be split up from their friends because it gives them a chance to make even more friends and they will still see their old friends plenty at recess and other school activities.
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| Posted 10/8/19 3:01 AM |
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Mags1227
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Posted by Momma2015
Posted by newlywedT
I don't understand the "we'll MAKE SURE they are not together". that almost seems vindictive. Like "how dare you request this, we'll make sure you get the opposite of what you want"
Yeah, that seems a little petty, but I would never have asked her to be placed with certain kids anyway. I don't think that's appropriate.
i didn't take it as vindictive.
looking at it from a teacher point of view, i wouldn't want a clique of kids in my class. they would talk to each other and disrupt class too often.
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| Posted 10/8/19 7:52 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
No I don’t agree. .. kids are going to be ok and can live without a supposed BFF who isn’t really bff. I believe in teaching kids to say hi to everyone and make new friends at an early age.
Regardless of the schools message, unless the parent has a valid reason to make a request, they’re the problem. Then we wonder why this generation complain and whine about everything. My son included.
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| Posted 10/8/19 8:07 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Posted by Sash
No I don’t agree. .. kids are going to be ok and can live without a supposed BFF who isn’t really bff. I believe in teaching kids to say hi to everyone and make new friends at an early age.
Regardless of the schools message, unless the parent has a valid reason to make a request, they’re the problem. Then we wonder why this generation complain and whine about everything. My son included.
All of this!
DD was so upset that none of her friends were in her class this year and that most of them were together with the exception of her.
Well she still sees them all at lunch, recess, gym class, and music lessons.
And she has connected with some kids in her class who she never really got to know in previous years. So it turned out to be the best thing for her.
In life you are always going to have less than ideal situations. Shittyy bosses, shittyy jobs, shittyy coworkers etc.
It's better they start learning how to adapt and cope with things that aren't perfect at an early age.
Message edited 10/8/2019 8:42:03 AM.
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| Posted 10/8/19 8:41 AM |
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jcbrownie
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
I disagree with this. My DD has anxiety centered around school. Having a couple of friends in her class has eased the transition each school year and helped alleviate some of her symptoms. Her school has always been accommodating to her needs.
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| Posted 10/8/19 12:32 PM |
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seaside
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Good for the school. When you reward squeaky, entitled wheels, you GET squeaky, entitled wheels.
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| Posted 10/8/19 2:59 PM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by FirstMate
I think their verbiage is off and does sound punitive.
I have made the request before. My reason is that I am very reliant on a parent for help with after school. It would be easier for her if my DS has the same homework and assignments as her son. When I made the request, I made it about the teacher...as in my DS should be with Mr. Smith because.... It makes it hard for them to say no.
Our district sends out explicit verbiage each year that we can not request particular teachers, at any grade, unless there was an older sibling that had that teacher before. Making it about the teacher won't work in our district.
Same with us. They don't even entertain it all and I don't blame them. Can you imagine if every parent did this? It would be impossible for the school to make classes. And what if there is a teacher that nobody wanted? So she has 0 kids in her class while the other teachers have double the normal class size?
Honestly it should be a zero tolerance policy. Any requests for teacher or not to have certain teachers should be automatically tossed in the garbage.
It's a logistical nightmare.
In my personal situation, I requested AFTER the class assignments were made so it was just a matter of moving him. I think if the requests are made after all the assignments are handed out, its easier for them to make the moves.
The school's policy is that you can only request who you do not want your child with. They ask for those requests in June for the following year.
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| Posted 10/8/19 9:09 PM |
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Katareen
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Posted by FirstMate
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by FirstMate
I think their verbiage is off and does sound punitive.
I have made the request before. My reason is that I am very reliant on a parent for help with after school. It would be easier for her if my DS has the same homework and assignments as her son. When I made the request, I made it about the teacher...as in my DS should be with Mr. Smith because.... It makes it hard for them to say no.
Our district sends out explicit verbiage each year that we can not request particular teachers, at any grade, unless there was an older sibling that had that teacher before. Making it about the teacher won't work in our district.
Same with us. They don't even entertain it all and I don't blame them. Can you imagine if every parent did this? It would be impossible for the school to make classes. And what if there is a teacher that nobody wanted? So she has 0 kids in her class while the other teachers have double the normal class size?
Honestly it should be a zero tolerance policy. Any requests for teacher or not to have certain teachers should be automatically tossed in the garbage.
It's a logistical nightmare.
In my personal situation, I requested AFTER the class assignments were made so it was just a matter of moving him. I think if the requests are made after all the assignments are handed out, its easier for them to make the moves.
The school's policy is that you can only request who you do not want your child with. They ask for those requests in June for the following year.
I’d think that would be harder, no? Wouldn’t your child moving into a class mean another kid had to move out and then is notified they suddenly have another teacher? Or is this before parents are officially notified?
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| Posted 10/8/19 11:24 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Posted by Katareen
Posted by FirstMate
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by FirstMate
I think their verbiage is off and does sound punitive.
I have made the request before. My reason is that I am very reliant on a parent for help with after school. It would be easier for her if my DS has the same homework and assignments as her son. When I made the request, I made it about the teacher...as in my DS should be with Mr. Smith because.... It makes it hard for them to say no.
Our district sends out explicit verbiage each year that we can not request particular teachers, at any grade, unless there was an older sibling that had that teacher before. Making it about the teacher won't work in our district.
Same with us. They don't even entertain it all and I don't blame them. Can you imagine if every parent did this? It would be impossible for the school to make classes. And what if there is a teacher that nobody wanted? So she has 0 kids in her class while the other teachers have double the normal class size?
Honestly it should be a zero tolerance policy. Any requests for teacher or not to have certain teachers should be automatically tossed in the garbage.
It's a logistical nightmare.
In my personal situation, I requested AFTER the class assignments were made so it was just a matter of moving him. I think if the requests are made after all the assignments are handed out, its easier for them to make the moves.
The school's policy is that you can only request who you do not want your child with. They ask for those requests in June for the following year.
I’d think that would be harder, no? Wouldn’t your child moving into a class mean another kid had to move out and then is notified they suddenly have another teacher? Or is this before parents are officially notified?
I can't imagine they move someone out. They probably just add an extra kid.
Teacher assignments are a big thing and the kids get all excited to find out who they have and who is in their class. If they start messing with that after everyone finds out..because someone requested a new teacher... I would imagine that would cause a mutiny .
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klingklang77
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
I don’t think it is strange because this is what you heard from a friend of a friend, not the school. If the school actually did say that to you, then I would think it could have been worded differently and more politely. But since you didn’t get that wording from the school, then there is really no argument here.
FTR, I don’t think you should be able to request a teacher. Bullying I can understand, but requesting a teacher sounds a little bit like entitlement. That’s the last thing this future generation needs.
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| Posted 10/9/19 7:13 AM |
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Aries14
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Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
I don't think it's strange - its pretty standard not to take requests.
And I don't put a lot of weight into what another mom said the school said to her.
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| Posted 10/9/19 9:10 AM |
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LIRascal
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Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
If it's a school board, policy, they're going to follow the rules. As far as I'm concerned, the second part is hearsay. Even if it is true, it's hard to prove.
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| Posted 10/9/19 8:42 PM |
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PurpleC
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Re: Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Posted by newlywedT
whoops, I phrased it wrong.
I meant do you agree with this statement:
"if they get a request for a child to be placed with specific kids they will make sure the kids ARE NOT put together"
I understand the whole "not going along with the request" in the sense of "just ignore the request and we'll place kids based on XYZ criteria"
I don't understand the "we'll MAKE SURE they are not together". that almost seems vindictive. Like "how dare you request this, we'll make sure you get the opposite of what you want"
I find this a little vindictive and I don't agree with it but each district is different.
When my daughter entered kindergarten she was receiving speech and at her meeting I mentioned that there was only one one child from her nursery school going to that same school. They told me to write a letter and request that her friend be with her to help with the transition. She is quiet and a little shy and they felt this would help her. There are only two classes per grade in my school. I did the same for my youngest son, I wrote a letter explaining that there were 2 other boys he was friends with and would it be possible for him to have at least one of those boys in his class. I would only do this for kindergarten.
My daughters grade is very boy heavy and there are only a few girls so for first grade I was not worried about by friends by that point however I do request teachers. I don't say specific names but my kids have different learning styles so I felt that one first grade teacher fit the needs of my daughter better than my son. I have a K, 1st and 2nd grader.
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| Posted 10/10/19 10:17 AM |
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newlywedT
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Do you agree with this statement from DC's school?
Thanks for all the replies.
Yes it is true that the "We will MAKE SURE the children are NOT together if you request it" was told to me by a parent. The parent claimed the school told them that.
But parent 1 requested 4 kids to be together, none ended up together. Parent 2 requested 3 kids together and none are together.
So perhaps they are going out of their way to keep them separate when they get a request :)
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