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Anyone been in this situation before?
Having an issue with my sons school
We aren’t eligible for regular bussing based on how close we live to school
Our oldest son is eligible for bussing based on his IEP and has been getting special transport bussing since kindergarten. He is going into fourth grade.
Our middle son is starting kindergarten.
He is not able to go on the bus with our oldest because he doesn’t have an IEP.
We are trying to get our middle son on the special transport bus with our oldest son
Has anyone dealt with this or know where I can find more information on this topic?
Any advice or where to turn is appreciated
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Posted 8/27/19 5:53 PM  |
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LSP2005
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Unfortunately they will likely not budge. We have friends with this situation and the parent has to drive the other child. They also had the option to pay for subscription bussing.
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| Posted 8/27/19 6:06 PM |
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KarenK122
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Anyone been in this situation before?
They will not allow siblings to ride the mini bus without an IEP. I would try to hook up with some neighbors and get a car pool going for your younger son.
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| Posted 8/27/19 6:13 PM |
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Such bs.
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| Posted 8/27/19 6:13 PM |
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ali120206
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Anyone been in this situation before?
A family in our district had this issue. Their kindergartener was eligible for a bus but their second grader wasn’t. The district wouldn’t budge.
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| Posted 8/27/19 6:48 PM |
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KarenK122
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by anonymoususer
Such bs.
Actually it's not. The children are on a bus for a reason, not to make it easier for the parents. Maybe you should be talking to your BOE on why they are not budgeting for transportation for all children, especially those in the primary grades.
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| Posted 8/27/19 7:46 PM |
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I understand what you’re saying
But I also feel bad for both my kids
What am I supposed to tell them- Hey big guy there’s something a little off here that doesn’t allow for you to walk to school safely so you have to take a bus
Hey little guy, sorry you’re fine but you can’t ride the school bus that you’ve been waving to every morning and afternoon for four years with your big brother, that was the only way you stopped feeling nervous about going to kindergarten
Sorry about the inflexible laws
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Not trying to sound like a bitchh.
Just.....sigh
What’s even more frustrating is that my big guys bus takes my big guy, and one other kid in his grade and his sister, who my little guy plays sports with. And they’re the only kids on the bus. Three kids.
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I think you should email the superintendent and speak out at next school board meeting. My kids won’t get the bus in 5th and 6th for same reason but they expect the kids to cross 2 very busy intersections without a crossing guard. It puts a hardship on parents who don't drive and puts the kids in an unsafe situation
ETA I didn’t realize your kindergarten gets bus. Unfortunately you will have to put your little one on regular bus. Don’t think they will change that
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| Posted 8/27/19 9:37 PM |
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My little one can’t go on the regular bus
Cuz we live so close to the school that we don’t qualify for bussing but like you, my kids would have to cross two busy intersections, no crossing guard
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| Posted 8/27/19 9:56 PM |
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M514
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Anyone been in this situation before?
Can you just drive both of them?
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| Posted 8/27/19 10:22 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
You will have to drive them or ask of you can pay for bussing.
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| Posted 8/27/19 11:17 PM |
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Posted by anonymoususer
I understand what you’re saying
But I also feel bad for both my kids
What am I supposed to tell them- Hey big guy there’s something a little off here that doesn’t allow for you to walk to school safely so you have to take a bus
Hey little guy, sorry you’re fine but you can’t ride the school bus that you’ve been waving to every morning and afternoon for four years with your big brother, that was the only way you stopped feeling nervous about going to kindergarten
Sorry about the inflexible laws
?
Not trying to sound like a bitchh.
Just.....sigh
What’s even more frustrating is that my big guys bus takes my big guy, and one other kid in his grade and his sister, who my little guy plays sports with. And they’re the only kids on the bus. Three kids.
So if you’re driving to school, just drive them both now. Then nobody feels different.
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| Posted 8/28/19 5:54 AM |
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klingklang77
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by Katareen
Posted by anonymoususer
I understand what you’re saying
But I also feel bad for both my kids
What am I supposed to tell them- Hey big guy there’s something a little off here that doesn’t allow for you to walk to school safely so you have to take a bus
Hey little guy, sorry you’re fine but you can’t ride the school bus that you’ve been waving to every morning and afternoon for four years with your big brother, that was the only way you stopped feeling nervous about going to kindergarten
Sorry about the inflexible laws
?
Not trying to sound like a bitchh.
Just.....sigh
What’s even more frustrating is that my big guys bus takes my big guy, and one other kid in his grade and his sister, who my little guy plays sports with. And they’re the only kids on the bus. Three kids.
So if you’re driving to school, just drive them both now. Then nobody feels different.
I agree. The spots are there for the children that need it. You say there are only three children on the bus, but what if they get students who need the bus mid-school year? If they make an exception for you, then other parents might want the same.
I know it must suck, but try to see alternatives.
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| Posted 8/28/19 6:52 AM |
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queensgal
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Katareen
Posted by anonymoususer
I understand what you’re saying
But I also feel bad for both my kids
What am I supposed to tell them- Hey big guy there’s something a little off here that doesn’t allow for you to walk to school safely so you have to take a bus
Hey little guy, sorry you’re fine but you can’t ride the school bus that you’ve been waving to every morning and afternoon for four years with your big brother, that was the only way you stopped feeling nervous about going to kindergarten
Sorry about the inflexible laws
?
Not trying to sound like a bitchh.
Just.....sigh
What’s even more frustrating is that my big guys bus takes my big guy, and one other kid in his grade and his sister, who my little guy plays sports with. And they’re the only kids on the bus. Three kids.
So if you’re driving to school, just drive them both now. Then nobody feels different.
I agree. The spots are there for the children that need it. You say there are only three children on the bus, but what if they get students who need the bus mid-school year? If they make an exception for you, then other parents might want the same.
I know it must suck, but try to see alternatives.
This. And what if you were told the oldest couldn’t go on the bus because it was filled due to siblings in the other family.
Either drive both of them or start explaining that life isn’t fair. Always a good lesson. They aren’t both going to be invited to the same bday parties or always treated the exact same.
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| Posted 8/28/19 7:53 AM |
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mommy2be716
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I noticed in one of your replies you said something about walking- So does that mean you're within walking distance of the school? I guess that's why they won't provide bussing for your kindergartener. I would talk to neighbors and friends in your area, or maybe there is an older girl on the block that can walk your younger one to school.
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| Posted 8/28/19 8:07 AM |
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by anonymoususer
I understand what you’re saying
But I also feel bad for both my kids
What am I supposed to tell them- Hey big guy there’s something a little off here that doesn’t allow for you to walk to school safely so you have to take a bus
Hey little guy, sorry you’re fine but you can’t ride the school bus that you’ve been waving to every morning and afternoon for four years with your big brother, that was the only way you stopped feeling nervous about going to kindergarten
Sorry about the inflexible laws
?
Not trying to sound like a bitchh.
Just.....sigh
What’s even more frustrating is that my big guys bus takes my big guy, and one other kid in his grade and his sister, who my little guy plays sports with. And they’re the only kids on the bus. Three kids.
Reread what you wrote about your kids. You don't mean to sound like a bittch but you do. The school isn't purposely trying to make life hard for you but they aren;t goint to make it easy just for you eaither. Every other parent has to figure it out. Same for you.
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Calm down everyone. SHE'S VENTING!! She clearly understands why it's probably not going to happen, she's just disappointed. Give her a break.
If my youngest spent years waiting to ride a bus that his older brother and some friends were all on, only to find out it was never going to happen, I'd be disappointed too. I'd probably be a tiny bit heartbroken for him as a matter of fact.
If you don't have a useful suggestion, give her a  or move on.
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| Posted 8/28/19 9:42 AM |
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by anonymoususer
I understand what you’re saying
But I also feel bad for both my kids
What am I supposed to tell them- Hey big guy there’s something a little off here that doesn’t allow for you to walk to school safely so you have to take a bus
Hey little guy, sorry you’re fine but you can’t ride the school bus that you’ve been waving to every morning and afternoon for four years with your big brother, that was the only way you stopped feeling nervous about going to kindergarten
Sorry about the inflexible laws
?
Not trying to sound like a bitchh.
Just.....sigh
What’s even more frustrating is that my big guys bus takes my big guy, and one other kid in his grade and his sister, who my little guy plays sports with. And they’re the only kids on the bus. Three kids.
I completely get what you are saying however, I agree with the school not budging. And believe me there are going to be plenty of times when things don't seem "fair" for one kid or another. It's better they start understanding this now.
But I agree with the other posters who suggested just driving both of them or walk them both yourself. Kindergarteners don't typically walk to school themselves unless they are with an older sibling and even then I think it's rare.
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| Posted 8/28/19 9:45 AM |
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SecretlyTTC14
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Not the exact same, but my old neighbor (with 3 kids in elementary school) moved mid-year and the new address was zoned for a different elementary school in the same district. She spoke to the offices and after being told numerous times that the kids would have to change schools, she wrote a letter and went to the district office. She got them to not only keep her kids in the current elementary school, but they get to stay until they move up to the middle school (they even send a small bus to pick up her kids). The point of my long story is, you never know until you try. Write letters, go to the district office. Be polite and nice when you explain your situation and you might find someone willing to make an exception. If not, at least you tried.
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| Posted 8/28/19 10:26 AM |
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
I can understand now wanting to have two separate modes of transportation to the same school. But can you imagine how many calls the school would get from parents of other walkers that catch wind of your child getting the bus when they are walking to school across busy roads in the winter or rain??
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| Posted 8/28/19 10:47 AM |
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by Pomegranate5
Calm down everyone. SHE'S VENTING!! She clearly understands why it's probably not going to happen, she's just disappointed. Give her a break.
If my youngest spent years waiting to ride a bus that his older brother and some friends were all on, only to find out it was never going to happen, I'd be disappointed too. I'd probably be a tiny bit heartbroken for him as a matter of fact.
If you don't have a useful suggestion, give her a or move on.
Ummm everyone DID give her a suggestion. Call the superintendent, contact BOE, find a carpool, drive both kids...I don’t think anyone said anything that was nasty or wasn’t helpful.
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| Posted 8/28/19 10:48 AM |
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busymomonli
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Can you have it written into his IEP that his brother is of comfort to him and should be with him?
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| Posted 8/28/19 11:04 AM |
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Posted by busymomonli
Can you have it written into his IEP that his brother is of comfort to him and should be with him?
Now that is a great idea
Unfortunately his iep meeting was in the spring
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| Posted 8/28/19 11:10 AM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Pomegranate5
Calm down everyone. SHE'S VENTING!! She clearly understands why it's probably not going to happen, she's just disappointed. Give her a break.
If my youngest spent years waiting to ride a bus that his older brother and some friends were all on, only to find out it was never going to happen, I'd be disappointed too. I'd probably be a tiny bit heartbroken for him as a matter of fact.
If you don't have a useful suggestion, give her a or move on.
Ummm everyone DID give her a suggestion. Call the superintendent, contact BOE, find a carpool, drive both kids...I don’t think anyone said anything that was nasty or wasn’t helpful.
Ummm, I see at least three responses that were definitely unhelpful and not particularly kind either.
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Re: Anyone been in this situation before?
Posted by Pomegranate5
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Pomegranate5
Calm down everyone. SHE'S VENTING!! She clearly understands why it's probably not going to happen, she's just disappointed. Give her a break.
If my youngest spent years waiting to ride a bus that his older brother and some friends were all on, only to find out it was never going to happen, I'd be disappointed too. I'd probably be a tiny bit heartbroken for him as a matter of fact.
If you don't have a useful suggestion, give her a or move on.
Ummm everyone DID give her a suggestion. Call the superintendent, contact BOE, find a carpool, drive both kids...I don’t think anyone said anything that was nasty or wasn’t helpful.
Ummm, I see at least three responses that were definitely unhelpful and not particularly kind either.
I see nothing unhelpful. It’s constructive. She was given advice by carpooling, driving both kids to school, etc. I’m sorry she didn’t like the advice, but that was what was given. If you don’t want to take the advice, then don’t do it. But life isn’t fair all the time, unfortunately.
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