Helping toddlers deal with insults from friends

My 2.5 year old is in daycare full time, and is overall super happy. She always talks about her friends and school, and tells me about playing with them, etc. She is potty training and doing well, but yesterday had a #1 accident. She told me later that one of her friends called her a baby. I asked her what she said and she said she called her a baby back. I asked her if this happened when she had her accident and she said yes.

The friend in question has an older brother and I'm guessing he probably says that to her, so she said it to DD. I was kind of at a loss for how to advise her to handle situations like this. Any advice? I know they aren't even three, and they don't really know what they're saying and how it impacts other kids, but I could tell that it did upset her. I ended up basically telling her she should tell her friend that it made her sad when she said that, but I'm not sure that was the right thing either!

Again, overall she is a super happy, well-adjusted child, not being bullied or anything, just I know she is sensitive about the potty training accidents when they do happen...

Helping toddlers deal with insults from friends

I wouldn't worry about it. I think it's something for the kids to sort out on their own, and the kind of social lessons that kids learn how to deal with over time.

My son keeps telling me that he is no longer his best friend's BEST friend because they had a fight, and he gets sad when he brings it up. I'm aware of the fight, his friend's parents are aware of the fight, they still play together constantly and are friends, so I'm just letting him sort through it himself. We talk about it, but that's just to discuss his feelings. I assume in time it will blow over.

Message edited 11/2/2018 2:09:45 PM.

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DD is the same age. I'd probably tell her that's not a nice thing to say and that she's a big girl but accidents happen.. even to mommies. I don't think I'd tell her to say anything back.

My DH on the other hand, would tell her to karate chop the other kid. He thinks it's funny... until I get a notice home that she's beating kids up at daycare.

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That’s probably what that kid’s mom says to her when she has an accident. I’ve heard it MANY times.

That said, tell your kid that she’s a big girl and that it’s ok. Don’t put too much emphasis on it.

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Helping toddlers deal with insults from friends

I have a DD around the same age and I get reports of kids being mean every day. I don't think they completely understand yet. I would probably explain that it's ok to have an accident and tell her to ignore the friend, though tbh, I don't know that DD would understand the concept of ignoring.

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Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by nycgirl

That’s probably what that kid’s mom says to her when she has an accident. I’ve heard it MANY times.

A baby back?
As in baby back ribs?
I have never heard of that! It doesn't even make sense.
Or baby back as in- you're bringing baby back by pissing in your pants? Like bringing sexy back?
LMAO

This is amazing Nell

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Posted by SnickNNick

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by nycgirl

That’s probably what that kid’s mom says to her when she has an accident. I’ve heard it MANY times.

A baby back?
As in baby back ribs?
I have never heard of that! It doesn't even make sense.
Or baby back as in- you're bringing baby back by pissing in your pants? Like bringing sexy back?
LMAO

This is amazing Nell

Haha OMG I meant she said the same thing back to her, called her a baby. Not a baby back!

This morning she ate a booger (which I told her was gross) and she told me another friend "Gavin" eats his boogers all the time. He pretends they're food. haha...oh man, life with 2 year olds.