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Coping with leaving a job

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TwinMommyToBoys
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Coping with leaving a job

I’m staring my new job in a week and now that my last day is approaching I’m very sad and doubting myself that I’m making a mistake. I know this change will be good but I’ve been at my job 7 years. My coworkers are wonderful and I’m going to miss this, I can’t help but doubt myself Chat Icon

Posted 10/4/18 3:28 PM
 
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alli3131
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Allison

Coping with leaving a job

I had the same thing about a year ago. I had been at my job for almost 8 years in the city. I moved to a job 10 mins from my house. I loved my coworkers but was starting to hate my actual job. It made so much sense to work close to home but I still have days where I miss my old job. I have learned so much over the las these though.

Posted 10/4/18 6:17 PM
 

Mmm777
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Coping with leaving a job

I actually loved my old job. But they screwed the old timers while new where hired for more than 33 to 40 percent more pay. it was my first job and I was so sentimental..
Moved on to another place. Still s lot of anxiety as I am only working few days a month ( per diem) but its been okay
We never know until we leave , what the market is and how much value we have
I actually am not making more , but this is closer. And I am working days now which I really needed to

Posted 10/4/18 6:51 PM
 

TwinMommyToBoys
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Re: Coping with leaving a job

Posted by Mmm777

I actually loved my old job. But they screwed the old timers while new where hired for more than 33 to 40 percent more pay. it was my first job and I was so sentimental..
Moved on to another place. Still s lot of anxiety as I am only working few days a month ( per diem) but its been okay
We never know until we leave , what the market is and how much value we have
I actually am not making more , but this is closer. And I am working days now which I really needed to



This is how I feel. I’ve been there so long, my whole career since college. It’s far from home, benefits have decreased overtime but my boss is awesome, but nearing retirement. The demands are sometimes beyond reasonable and it’s a work 24/7 mentality regardless of your role.
My new job has state benefits which I technically don’t need since my husband has them, has a pension, hours are better, and it’s 3 miles from home whereas now I’m 1-1.5 hours.

I’m very comfortable where I am very flexible, I mean VERY flexible no one cares if I come and go as long as the work is done. BUT I don’t feel fulfilled, day in and day out I feel no fulfillment, every now and then something good happens and it’s great but day to day no.
I don’t know how I will feel I guess until I get there but I know to grow I need the change. And if I didn’t take it I would regret it. But these coworkers of mine have been a part of my successes and failures professionally and personally, the place I had the most support going through my fertility treatments and being a mom, and it’s hard to think of not having them there but at the same time, nothing says they won’t move on in the future too Chat Icon

Posted 10/4/18 8:59 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Member since 7/14

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Coping with leaving a job

I left a job I loved 2 years ago because of the commute. I'm on my second job since leaving- the first was a disaster and this one is ok. I don't love it but it's close to home, the people are nice and it is extremely low stress.

I still miss it every day. However, almost no one from my original team is left. We have all stayed in touch and see each other when we can. We all agree that we may have moved on but there is nothing anywhere like the old crew. I miss the job itself, too. It was very high stress, but it was interesting and fulfilling.

But, there usually comes a time to move on and that's a good thing. You'll adjust and may love this job just as much, if not more. And if you don't, that's ok, too. Your first job is kind of like your first love. It's sweet and nostalgic and you'll usually see it through rose colored glasses for all eternity, but that doesn't mean it was meant to be.

Posted 10/4/18 10:21 PM
 

MrsS2005
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Member since 11/05

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Brooke

Re: Coping with leaving a job

Change is always scary. I was comfortable in my old job and wasn’t looking for another one at the time. An opportunity presented itself that I couldn’t pass up, but I was scared to make the leap. I had mixed feelings, but now almost 2.5 years later, it was absolutely the right decision. I miss the people and still keep in touch with some, but I don’t regret the move. Good luck!

Posted 10/5/18 4:30 AM
 

NYCGirl80
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Re: Coping with leaving a job

In 2007 I left a job that I LOVED. I literally cried as I left the building. It's been 11 years and I still miss it. It's kind of like the one that "got away." Who knows what would have happened if I stayed. I do know that all these years later I would not have been doing exactly what I did then anyway. And people would have come and gone. I could not have frozen that job in time to stay in an enjoyable environment. I had to focus on the reasons I decided to leave.

You can't look back. You made the decision to leave and just focus on the future now.

Good luck!

Posted 10/5/18 8:52 AM
 

HeyJude
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Member since 9/07

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p

Re: Coping with leaving a job

Change is hard even if you know it is needed. I was at my last job for 14 years. My old coworkers were with me through my wedding, babies, miscarriages, sooooo many life changing events, I miss them. My new job is great, but it takes awhile to create those close relationships. I just focus on doing a good job and reminding myself of all the things that are so much better for me (and my family)in my new place. it is ok to feel sad but try not to dwell on it, congratulations and good luck!!

Posted 10/5/18 9:42 AM
 

NervousNell
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Re: Coping with leaving a job

I know you you feel.
I wasn't happy at my old job at the end because my boss had left and the new regime wasn't great- I didn't trust them like I trusted him, he always had my back etc.
However, when it came time to leave and go work for him again, I was defintiely sad.
Was I making the right choice?
What if the new place was awful?
I was comfortable and had my little routine at the old job.
Not to mention I was 7 months pregnant...who makes a move that far along? I was giving up all my accrued time off, I'd have to have to be unpaid my whole time off with the baby and come back in 8 short weeks.
Ugh it was tough.
Add to that the hormones of a woman 7 months pregnant and I was crying at the thought of turning in my laptop.
LOL

But in the end, it was the best decision I ever made. I'm still here now and this place has been amazing.
I thank God I didn't stay at the old place.

So it's normal to feel sad, to worry, to wonder if you made a mistake.
Just like with all other life changes- moving, getting married, getting divorced, having a baby....any huge life change will leave you feeling all upside down.

But I bet you in a year or so you will look back and say, wow, I was upset for nothing!

Good luck!


Message edited 10/5/2018 9:47:26 AM.

Posted 10/5/18 9:46 AM
 

TwinMommyToBoys
LIF Adult

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Re: Coping with leaving a job

Posted by NYCGirl80

And people would have come and gone. I could not have frozen that job in time to stay in an enjoyable environment.

Good luck!



Thank you for this. This makes it hit home for me. I needed to hear this!

Posted 10/5/18 9:50 AM
 

drpepper318
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Member since 6/07

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me

Re: Coping with leaving a job

Change is hard but necessary. I had to leave my position a couple of years ago for a promotion and had to switch to a different location for the new title. I dreaded leaving my friends, leaving Manhattan & my comfortable routine, having to learn a new job, etc. At first it sucked but 2 years later I’m so much happier where I am now... I got a transfer close to home and make a lot more $$$ than I would have been had I not taken the promotion when I really did NOT want to at first. Things have a way of working out! It’ll be great. There’s a reason you’re doing this and you will see that & be happier for it!

Posted 10/5/18 3:37 PM
 

marycpa
LIF Adolescent

Member since 7/07

627 total posts

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Mary

Re: Coping with leaving a job

Just went through the same thing in February. I worked with them for 18 years. It was so hard to leave my co-workers and I still miss them.

Adjusting is hard. However, I get so much more opportunity here. So career wise this was a smart move.

I see them for lunch often!

Message edited 10/6/2018 4:46:29 PM.

Posted 10/6/18 4:45 PM
 

MST9106
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Re: Coping with leaving a job

7 years? Time to move on. A job is just a job. I understand that sometimes we meet people that we get along with and click but you need to think about yourself and your career. What made you apply for a new position to begin with? I think its good to change jobs/careers every few years for financial and personal growth. It's good to get out of your comfort zone, it's what makes you grow as a person and your career. Don't doubt yourself, embrace it and good luck!

Posted 10/10/18 5:20 PM
 
 

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