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Salason

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by olive98

Posted by stinger

Posted by Hofstra26

My DH has a very high paying, demanding job and there is a noticeable difference in what his company expects of him as he's moved from being a Senior Electrical Engineer to Manager of Engineering to Director of Engineering. I expect once he gets a VP position, the workload will increase yet again. Thankfully, he doesn't do much travel so that is good.

By nature, his profession is very demanding but now that he's an executive the expectation is that you're pretty always available. There have been times when we're away on vacation where he's had to take a call, a phone conference, etc and because his work emails are tied into his phone, they expect he'll respond to any email quickly wherever he is.

I think generally speaking, the more you earn the greater the demand is of your time. Companies aren't going to pay you north of $200K and not expect a certain level of time commitment. It's a hard balance, I get frustrated sometimes when he has to stay late or work from home on the weekends but in turn, the money is great and we have a nice life.



This is totally different and you cant compare to OP because you’re describing a man with a stay at home wife. The original post seems like the difficulty stems from having a demanding job and being a mother.


Yes I agree- Cant compare. Totally different situation



Is it though? Aren't job demands the same regardless of your personal situation (marital status, children, commute, etc)?

Posted 3/15/18 10:17 AM
 
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I used to work for an investment bank and if I had stayed I would have been making very good money... I just couldn't do it- the long hours and the travel was taking a toll on me and I didn't even have kids at the time. My bosses had no kids, it is hard to when you are constantly on the road... so i switched industries and I don't make a lot of money now but I work a standard 8 hour day and my boss affords me some flexibility which is important to me, especially since I have a special needs child that demands more of my time.

Posted 3/15/18 10:32 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by stinger

Posted by Hofstra26

My DH has a very high paying, demanding job and there is a noticeable difference in what his company expects of him as he's moved from being a Senior Electrical Engineer to Manager of Engineering to Director of Engineering. I expect once he gets a VP position, the workload will increase yet again. Thankfully, he doesn't do much travel so that is good.

By nature, his profession is very demanding but now that he's an executive the expectation is that you're pretty always available. There have been times when we're away on vacation where he's had to take a call, a phone conference, etc and because his work emails are tied into his phone, they expect he'll respond to any email quickly wherever he is.

I think generally speaking, the more you earn the greater the demand is of your time. Companies aren't going to pay you north of $200K and not expect a certain level of time commitment. It's a hard balance, I get frustrated sometimes when he has to stay late or work from home on the weekends but in turn, the money is great and we have a nice life.



This is totally different and you cant compare to OP because you’re describing a man with a stay at home wife. The original post seems like the difficulty stems from having a demanding job and being a mother.



It is not really different AT ALL. I interpreted the OP asking about the demands of a high paying job which TBH, isn't much different whether you're a man or a woman. (a job doesn't care about your personal life) I think regardless, when you're talking about making a healthy six-figure salary there will ALWAYS be a certain expectation when it comes to your time and work output and that doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, mother or father.

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Posted 3/15/18 10:35 AM
 

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Q for highly compensated women !

I feel that most people who are in that position are either working really hard now or worked really hard at one point in their career to get to where they are now (and fell into something a bit less demanding and surrounded themselves with good staff to assist).

There are women I know with families who work those kind of hours but, most of them seem to put their career first - and either their husband is the more active parent or they have a full time nanny.

Posted 3/15/18 10:48 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by Salason

Posted by olive98

Posted by stinger

Posted by Hofstra26

My DH has a very high paying, demanding job and there is a noticeable difference in what his company expects of him as he's moved from being a Senior Electrical Engineer to Manager of Engineering to Director of Engineering. I expect once he gets a VP position, the workload will increase yet again. Thankfully, he doesn't do much travel so that is good.

By nature, his profession is very demanding but now that he's an executive the expectation is that you're pretty always available. There have been times when we're away on vacation where he's had to take a call, a phone conference, etc and because his work emails are tied into his phone, they expect he'll respond to any email quickly wherever he is.

I think generally speaking, the more you earn the greater the demand is of your time. Companies aren't going to pay you north of $200K and not expect a certain level of time commitment. It's a hard balance, I get frustrated sometimes when he has to stay late or work from home on the weekends but in turn, the money is great and we have a nice life.



This is totally different and you cant compare to OP because you’re describing a man with a stay at home wife. The original post seems like the difficulty stems from having a demanding job and being a mother.


Yes I agree- Cant compare. Totally different situation



Is it though? Aren't job demands the same regardless of your personal situation (marital status, children, commute, etc)?



I agree the work demands and salary (based on how both posts described) may be aligned for OP and Hofstras DH. However I read OP (even her user name shows she has 3 kids) as posting the question because the demands of home and work are not aligning. Huge difference if you have a spouse that stays home IMO. Very few 2 parent working households are 50-50 when it comes to home/family/kids. Women still do more in general.

Posted 3/15/18 10:50 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by Hofstra26

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Posted by Hofstra26

My DH has a very high paying, demanding job and there is a noticeable difference in what his company expects of him as he's moved from being a Senior Electrical Engineer to Manager of Engineering to Director of Engineering. I expect once he gets a VP position, the workload will increase yet again. Thankfully, he doesn't do much travel so that is good.

By nature, his profession is very demanding but now that he's an executive the expectation is that you're pretty always available. There have been times when we're away on vacation where he's had to take a call, a phone conference, etc and because his work emails are tied into his phone, they expect he'll respond to any email quickly wherever he is.

I think generally speaking, the more you earn the greater the demand is of your time. Companies aren't going to pay you north of $200K and not expect a certain level of time commitment. It's a hard balance, I get frustrated sometimes when he has to stay late or work from home on the weekends but in turn, the money is great and we have a nice life.



This is totally different and you cant compare to OP because you’re describing a man with a stay at home wife. The original post seems like the difficulty stems from having a demanding job and being a mother.



It is not really different AT ALL. I interpreted the OP asking about the demands of a high paying job which TBH, isn't much different whether you're a man or a woman. (a job doesn't care about your personal life) I think regardless, when you're talking about making a healthy six-figure salary there will ALWAYS be a certain expectation when it comes to your time and work output and that doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, mother or father.



I disagree. Yes the individuals you are talking about (your DH and the OP) are both in demanding jobs but no they are not equal when it comes to home life. Women as mother typically still do more for kids/home/family even in 2 parent working homes and employers aren’t always supportive. Our society isnt there yet....

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Posted 3/15/18 10:53 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by stinger

Posted by Hofstra26

My DH has a very high paying, demanding job and there is a noticeable difference in what his company expects of him as he's moved from being a Senior Electrical Engineer to Manager of Engineering to Director of Engineering. I expect once he gets a VP position, the workload will increase yet again. Thankfully, he doesn't do much travel so that is good.

By nature, his profession is very demanding but now that he's an executive the expectation is that you're pretty always available. There have been times when we're away on vacation where he's had to take a call, a phone conference, etc and because his work emails are tied into his phone, they expect he'll respond to any email quickly wherever he is.

I think generally speaking, the more you earn the greater the demand is of your time. Companies aren't going to pay you north of $200K and not expect a certain level of time commitment. It's a hard balance, I get frustrated sometimes when he has to stay late or work from home on the weekends but in turn, the money is great and we have a nice life.



This is totally different and you cant compare to OP because you’re describing a man with a stay at home wife. The original post seems like the difficulty stems from having a demanding job and being a mother.



It is not really different AT ALL. I interpreted the OP asking about the demands of a high paying job which TBH, isn't much different whether you're a man or a woman. (a job doesn't care about your personal life) I think regardless, when you're talking about making a healthy six-figure salary there will ALWAYS be a certain expectation when it comes to your time and work output and that doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, mother or father.



I see what you’re saying but I think the difference lies in the fact that you are home and the OP’s husband is not (at least I don’t think he is, I could be wrong). Your husband does not have the stress of childcare, meals, cleaning, etc on his plate. That makes a world of difference in terms of stress levels.

Posted 3/15/18 10:54 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by stinger

Posted by Hofstra26

My DH has a very high paying, demanding job and there is a noticeable difference in what his company expects of him as he's moved from being a Senior Electrical Engineer to Manager of Engineering to Director of Engineering. I expect once he gets a VP position, the workload will increase yet again. Thankfully, he doesn't do much travel so that is good.

By nature, his profession is very demanding but now that he's an executive the expectation is that you're pretty always available. There have been times when we're away on vacation where he's had to take a call, a phone conference, etc and because his work emails are tied into his phone, they expect he'll respond to any email quickly wherever he is.

I think generally speaking, the more you earn the greater the demand is of your time. Companies aren't going to pay you north of $200K and not expect a certain level of time commitment. It's a hard balance, I get frustrated sometimes when he has to stay late or work from home on the weekends but in turn, the money is great and we have a nice life.



This is totally different and you cant compare to OP because you’re describing a man with a stay at home wife. The original post seems like the difficulty stems from having a demanding job and being a mother.



It is not really different AT ALL. I interpreted the OP asking about the demands of a high paying job which TBH, isn't much different whether you're a man or a woman. (a job doesn't care about your personal life) I think regardless, when you're talking about making a healthy six-figure salary there will ALWAYS be a certain expectation when it comes to your time and work output and that doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, mother or father.



I see what you’re saying but I think the difference lies in the fact that you are home and the OP’s husband is not (at least I don’t think he is, I could be wrong). Your husband does not have the stress of childcare, meals, cleaning, etc on his plate. That makes a world of difference in terms of stress levels.



Exactly. Im assuming hofstra (“we have a nice life”) and her DH decided she stay home in order to support the balance of his demanding job and having children.

Posted 3/15/18 10:58 AM
 

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Posted by Momof3boys

Hi! I hope this question isn't offensive, but I need to hear from others in my position. I work extremely hard and under a lot of pressure. It is draining. Do you have to work yourself into the ground in order to make a good living? Curious to hear from others let just say in the the 200k vicinity. Do you work 9-5 or is it just not possible or frowned upon if you make this level of income? I am simply curious about the quality of life for those in this income range! Feel free to PM as well! Thanks!



Quoting to show, there was no mention of family demands. In fact, I believe someone even responded who when making such a salary had no husband or children. Therefore, the OP seems to be inquiring about the "general quality of life" and work demands for someone making a $200K salary.

To that end, having a parent be at home or not or whether it's a man or woman making the high salary doesn't change the reality which is at that at that salary (regardless of your home life) there will be compromises, demands on your time and usually a lot of pressure compared to someone in a lesser role. $200K+ is a lot of money, with that money is going to come a certain level of work chaos.

So again, I don't think it matters if you're a man, woman, mother or father. If we're talking STRICTLY about what it takes to work a job at that salary, my comment is applicable.

Posted 3/15/18 11:00 AM
 

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Q for highly compensated women !

I’d also like to say that while not exactly 50/50, DH and I are pretty damn close when it comes to splitting the responsibilities at home BUT I most certainly carry the “mental load.” I’m the one who knows when diapers have to go to daycare, where her St. Paddy’s outfit and class treats are for tomorrow, when/where his family obligations are. He takes out the trash, he loads the dishwasher, helps DD get dressed but I’m the one who shops for the food that produces the garbage, plans the meals that dirty the pots and buys and lays out the clothes he dresses her in.

Posted 3/15/18 11:00 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Momof3boys

Hi! I hope this question isn't offensive, but I need to hear from others in my position. I work extremely hard and under a lot of pressure. It is draining. Do you have to work yourself into the ground in order to make a good living? Curious to hear from others let just say in the the 200k vicinity. Do you work 9-5 or is it just not possible or frowned upon if you make this level of income? I am simply curious about the quality of life for those in this income range! Feel free to PM as well! Thanks!



Quoting to show, there was no mention of family demands. In fact, I believe someone even responded who when making such a salary had no husband or children. Therefore, the OP seems to be inquiring about the "general quality of life" and work demands for someone making a $200K salary.

To that end, having a parent be at home or not or whether it's a man or woman making the high salary doesn't change the reality which is at that at that salary (regardless of your home life) there will be compromises, demands on your time and usually a lot of pressure compared to someone in a lesser role. $200K+ is a lot of money, with that money is going to come a certain level of work chaos.

So again, I don't think it matters if you're a man, woman, mother or father. If we're talking STRICTLY about what it takes to work a job at that salary, my comment is applicable.



OP screen name is momof3boys Chat Icon

We can let her respond but id be shocked if her being burnt out at work has nothing to do with demands of parenting.

Message edited 3/15/2018 11:06:00 AM.

Posted 3/15/18 11:04 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by LuckyStar

I’d also like to say that while not exactly 50/50, DH and I are pretty damn close when it comes to splitting the responsibilities at home BUT I most certainly carry the “mental load.” I’m the one who knows when diapers have to go to daycare, where her St. Paddy’s outfit and class treats are for tomorrow, when/where his family obligations are. He takes out the trash, he loads the dishwasher, helps DD get dressed but I’m the one who shops for the food that produces the garbage, plans the meals that dirty the pots and buys and lays out the clothes he dresses her in.



Yes mental load! The thinking worrying and planning!

Posted 3/15/18 11:05 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Momof3boys

Hi! I hope this question isn't offensive, but I need to hear from others in my position. I work extremely hard and under a lot of pressure. It is draining. Do you have to work yourself into the ground in order to make a good living? Curious to hear from others let just say in the the 200k vicinity. Do you work 9-5 or is it just not possible or frowned upon if you make this level of income? I am simply curious about the quality of life for those in this income range! Feel free to PM as well! Thanks!



Quoting to show, there was no mention of family demands. In fact, I believe someone even responded who when making such a salary had no husband or children. Therefore, the OP seems to be inquiring about the "general quality of life" and work demands for someone making a $200K salary.

To that end, having a parent be at home or not or whether it's a man or woman making the high salary doesn't change the reality which is at that at that salary (regardless of your home life) there will be compromises, demands on your time and usually a lot of pressure compared to someone in a lesser role. $200K+ is a lot of money, with that money is going to come a certain level of work chaos.

So again, I don't think it matters if you're a man, woman, mother or father. If we're talking STRICTLY about what it takes to work a job at that salary, my comment is applicable.



I have to respectfully disagree. I think the demands are implied when discussing quality of life. I’m not even assuming that the all the chores and childcare fall to her because she’s a woman but at least some of them do because she has a family. That surely affects her quality of life. It’s all tied together.

Posted 3/15/18 11:05 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by LuckyStar

I’d also like to say that while not exactly 50/50, DH and I are pretty damn close when it comes to splitting the responsibilities at home BUT I most certainly carry the “mental load.” I’m the one who knows when diapers have to go to daycare, where her St. Paddy’s outfit and class treats are for tomorrow, when/where his family obligations are. He takes out the trash, he loads the dishwasher, helps DD get dressed but I’m the one who shops for the food that produces the garbage, plans the meals that dirty the pots and buys and lays out the clothes he dresses her in.



Same here (but, we have our responsibilities split differently).

It's hard since DH doesn't see the mental load, or carry it, to realize how taxing it can be.

My job was actually eliminated (I think partially because I worked 8-5 every day and didn't go above and beyond like everyone is now expected to) and I'm looking forward to having some time to just focus on home before I go back to work.

Posted 3/15/18 11:07 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by stinger

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Momof3boys

Hi! I hope this question isn't offensive, but I need to hear from others in my position. I work extremely hard and under a lot of pressure. It is draining. Do you have to work yourself into the ground in order to make a good living? Curious to hear from others let just say in the the 200k vicinity. Do you work 9-5 or is it just not possible or frowned upon if you make this level of income? I am simply curious about the quality of life for those in this income range! Feel free to PM as well! Thanks!



Quoting to show, there was no mention of family demands. In fact, I believe someone even responded who when making such a salary had no husband or children. Therefore, the OP seems to be inquiring about the "general quality of life" and work demands for someone making a $200K salary.

To that end, having a parent be at home or not or whether it's a man or woman making the high salary doesn't change the reality which is at that at that salary (regardless of your home life) there will be compromises, demands on your time and usually a lot of pressure compared to someone in a lesser role. $200K+ is a lot of money, with that money is going to come a certain level of work chaos.

So again, I don't think it matters if you're a man, woman, mother or father. If we're talking STRICTLY about what it takes to work a job at that salary, my comment is applicable.



OP screen name is momof3boys Chat Icon

We can let her respond but id be shocked if her being burnt out at work has nothing to do with demands of parenting.



I saw her screen name, but you're making an assumption. I read her post as specifically asking about the demands of the job. Maybe she can clarify.

Message edited 3/15/2018 11:09:32 AM.

Posted 3/15/18 11:08 AM
 

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Just gonna put this out there. The subject line of the OP is “Question for highly compensated WOMEN” Chat Icon

Posted 3/15/18 11:14 AM
 

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Q for highly compensated women !

But back to the OP, it sounds like craziness is part of the gig when you have a high paying salary. I don’t know what your thoughts are in terms of potentially taking a pay cut to improve your quality of life. There is no right or wrong answer to that.

I just want to say that I think it’s so wonderful you have such a powerful, successful career. I’m sorry the quality of life stinks, but in a world of unequal pay for women it makes me so happy to not just hear about, but celebrate women who can rule the boardroom AND the playroom. Your SN makes me think you don’t have daughters, but what an amazing example for you to set for your boys- you’re showing them that women can do and be anything.

Posted 3/15/18 11:15 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by shadows

Just gonna put this out there. The subject line of the OP is “Question for highly compensated WOMEN” Chat Icon



But, the question is about working yourself into the ground and do you work a 9 to 5 at that salary sooooooo...........

Look, there is no sense in arguing. I gave my perspective, that's all. I think ANYONE who makes that level of salary is going to have to make compromises. The demands of the actual job don't change whether you're a man or woman, the demands at home might. But that aside, a job that pays $200K is going to be a bigger stress job and a bigger demand on your time. That's all.

Have to run, enjoy your day ladies. Chat Icon

Posted 3/15/18 11:19 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by LuckyStar

But back to the OP, it sounds like craziness is part of the gig when you have a high paying salary. I don’t know what your thoughts are in terms of potentially taking a pay cut to improve your quality of life. There is no right or wrong answer to that.

I just want to say that I think it’s so wonderful you have such a powerful, successful career. I’m sorry the quality of life stinks, but in a world of unequal pay for women it makes me so happy to not just hear about, but celebrate women who can rule the boardroom AND the playroom. Your SN makes me think you don’t have daughters, but what an amazing example for you to set for your boys- you’re showing them that women can do and be anything.



Yes times 100!
I don't make anywhere near that, but I hustle daily and work my ass off and went back to work when DD was only 8 weeks old because I had no choice.
And she only knows that. She only knows that mommy works.
I love that i can set the example that a woman CAN have both- a career AND a family.
And it may not be easy, but you can do it.

Message edited 3/15/2018 11:24:34 AM.

Posted 3/15/18 11:23 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

But back to the OP, it sounds like craziness is part of the gig when you have a high paying salary. I don’t know what your thoughts are in terms of potentially taking a pay cut to improve your quality of life. There is no right or wrong answer to that.

I just want to say that I think it’s so wonderful you have such a powerful, successful career. I’m sorry the quality of life stinks, but in a world of unequal pay for women it makes me so happy to not just hear about, but celebrate women who can rule the boardroom AND the playroom. Your SN makes me think you don’t have daughters, but what an amazing example for you to set for your boys- you’re showing them that women can do and be anything.



Yes times 100!
I don't make anywhere near that, but I hustle daily and work my ass off and went back to work when DD was only 8 weeks old because I had no choice.
And she only knows that. She only knows that mommy works.
I love that i can set the example that a woman CAN have both- a career AND a family.
And it may not be easy, but you can do it.



Yes! Something we can all agree on Chat Icon

Nothing makes me happier than a woman shattering the glass ceiling. OP, this doesn’t answer your question AT ALL but I hope you can steal 5 minutes for yourself today to have a drink and toast how freaking awesome you are.

And the rest of us should do the same cause we’re all pretty freaking awesome!

Posted 3/15/18 11:36 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

But back to the OP, it sounds like craziness is part of the gig when you have a high paying salary. I don’t know what your thoughts are in terms of potentially taking a pay cut to improve your quality of life. There is no right or wrong answer to that.

I just want to say that I think it’s so wonderful you have such a powerful, successful career. I’m sorry the quality of life stinks, but in a world of unequal pay for women it makes me so happy to not just hear about, but celebrate women who can rule the boardroom AND the playroom. Your SN makes me think you don’t have daughters, but what an amazing example for you to set for your boys- you’re showing them that women can do and be anything.



Yes times 100!
I don't make anywhere near that, but I hustle daily and work my ass off and went back to work when DD was only 8 weeks old because I had no choice.
And she only knows that. She only knows that mommy works.
I love that i can set the example that a woman CAN have both- a career AND a family.
And it may not be easy, but you can do it.



Yes! Something we can all agree on Chat Icon

Nothing makes me happier than a woman shattering the glass ceiling. OP, this doesn’t answer your question AT ALL but I hope you can steal 5 minutes for yourself today to have a drink and toast how freaking awesome you are.

And the rest of us should do the same cause we’re all pretty freaking awesome!



Yes! Its great for your kids OP you are a star and role model!

My work will be done if my kids see (and remember) me as HAPPY and if they grow up to be HAPPY!

Posted 3/15/18 11:44 AM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Prior to having children I had a high paying job in a very demanding industry. Up until the last two years when I got EXTREMELY lucky and got an 8:30-6:00 job I was at work close to 70 hours a week. I worked late every night and at least one day per weekend if not two. I got used to it, I liked what I did and so it was fine. However I was single, then newly married without children and my husband had the same job in the same industry so it was fine. I was always expected to check my emails and respond to them or respond to calls. My husband has always been expected to be available after he has left for the day, on weekends, on vacation etc. To me that is not so abnormal. It actually surprises me when I hear someone complain about something like that because to me your career should require some level of commitment beyond 9-5.

This is completely a side note but I found that my peers who were not making very much money would always tell me how "lucky" I was! I always found it so odd that they didn't realize that they could have my same good "luck" if they were willing to spend 70 hours a week at work!

Anyway, I now work from home and make about 1/8th of what I used to make but I only work 10-15 hours a week and I can work in my pajamas!

Posted 3/15/18 12:03 PM
 

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Q for highly compensated women !

OP- If I understand your question correctly, it is, if, as a woman it is possible to work a 9-5 non stressful job and still make upwards of 200K. I think in some cases, either by luck or because of working really hard to get to the more "cush' position later on it is possible. However most of the time in my experience woman who make that kind of money *(and men) do usually have to put the hours and sweat equity in keeping their jobs. A lot of professional moms I know at those higher incomes, leave work at 5 and then log back in and work from home. As for my own experience I work part time and make slightly less than half of that. I have an advanced degree and work in a relatively high paying field. Because of the combination of bad luck, lack of contacts and the unwillingness to put in the really long hours when I was single, I never got the 200+ jobs that some of my colleagues did at that time and continue to make well over that amount now. Again-- they put in the long hours and dedication for years and still log in after their kids go to bed etc. Sometimes I wish I had gone down that path and still consider it and other days I think I want to quit my job entirely to be a FT SAHM, I am fortunate that my job is most of the time not stressful bc I have a lot of flexibility and bc my boss understands my home demands and doesn't bother me on weekends, evenings and my days off. Because of that I also take a "pay cut" compared to what I could be making elsewhere. My stress mostly comes from managing work/life balance as it does with any working mom and not specifically work demands.

Posted 3/15/18 12:18 PM
 

jlm2008
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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Posted by shadows

Just gonna put this out there. The subject line of the OP is “Question for highly compensated WOMEN” Chat Icon



Now don't go bringing logic into this!!!! You know CERTAIN posters must ALWAYS tell us about their DH and his job and how much money he makes.Chat Icon

Posted 3/15/18 12:27 PM
 

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Re: Q for highly compensated women !

Of the 15 VPs at my job, one is a woman. She works her azz off but I feel like she also works harder than some of the men - maybe she feels the pressure? I'm not sure exactly.. maybe it's her personality type. Either way, she has no children and isn't married. I think it is possible to strike a balance, especially in my field. I've seen many women managers put in crazy hours during busy season when their spouses step up with the kids but then they have it easy the rest of the year and are making 6-plus figures although probably not $200K.

Posted 3/15/18 12:32 PM
 
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