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cdunn
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by itsagoodlife
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Totally agree with this.
It’s not like the kids are being left alone with no adult.
IMO your DH is being ridiculous
Thank you!!!
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cdunn
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Re: Am I wrong or right
I did like an hour later and took my sweet time. I just left too without telling him but he saw me leave.
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| Posted 1/21/18 6:00 PM |
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beachgirl
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Re: Am I wrong or right
A mom called me this morning to see if my DS could go to their house for a play date. I dropped him off and the dad was home...I ran into the mom at the store and she was not home the entire time. I was fine with it as I know both parents and trust the Dad.
To be honest it would depend on the kids ages and how well I knew both parents. If I did not know the dad or my DS did not him and only knew the mom then I would feel a bit uncomfortable for my DS.
Maybe your DH was tired and in a crappy mood - we all have them...I would be a little pissed if he was home and laying on the couch but I would let it go.
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luvmykids8
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Am I wrong or right
As long as I knew the Dad and trusted him I wouldnt care if my child was having a play date and the mom left. If I didn’t feel comfortable that’s a different story.
Message edited 1/21/2018 8:17:35 PM.
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LuckyStar
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by GoldenRod
I often arrange a lot of DC's play dates, but no matter who arranges them, as long as one of us is home, it doesn't matter who goes out and runs errands.
And when DC go to friend's houses, I don't care which of the parents are at the house, regardless of who arranged the play date.
This. Why on earth would the mother have to be home if the father is there? As long as there is an adult, what difference does it make?
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cdunn
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by beachgirl
A mom called me this morning to see if my DS could go to their house for a play date. I dropped him off and the dad was home...I ran into the mom at the store and she was not home the entire time. I was fine with it as I know both parents and trust the Dad.
To be honest it would depend on the kids ages and how well I knew both parents. If I did not know the dad or my DS did not him and only knew the mom then I would feel a bit uncomfortable for my DS.
Maybe your DH was tired and in a crappy mood - we all have them...I would be a little pissed if he was home and laying on the couch but I would let it go.[/QUOTE
]yes he is cranky because he has a cold. Well get over it!!! I was sick last week and still took care of everyone and went to work and he didn't lift a finger. He's starting on about other stuff as we speak.
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ChilisWife
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Just out of curiosity, for the people who agree with the OP, would you feel comfortable dropping your 9 year old off at his/her friend's house if you didn't know and never met either parent until the drop off?
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Katareen
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by GoldenRod
I often arrange a lot of DC's play dates, but no matter who arranges them, as long as one of us is home, it doesn't matter who goes out and runs errands.
And when DC go to friend's houses, I don't care which of the parents are at the house, regardless of who arranged the play date.
This. Why on earth would the mother have to be home if the father is there? As long as there is an adult, what difference does it make?
My DD has a friend who has a very bizarre father. I’m sure he’s harmless but I wouldn’t love it if he was the one in charge of her well-being. He seems completely clueless.
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lululu
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I would be annoyed if my husband let my son invite a friend over and then left to go to the store. So yeah i would be annoyed if I was your husband but if he does that to you, then I think that it's fine that you do that to him. If my husband asked if I was okay with keeping an eye out while he ran to the store, I would of course say "no problem" unless I was in the middle of something important.
I wouldn't give a second thought to someone having a problem with my husband watching the kids. And I wouldn't think twice if I knew that a mom left my child with her husband while on a playdate. I do tend to know almost all of the parents that my children play with. Honestly, I'm more concerned with knowing there are no firearms in the house than I would be with not trusting a dad....
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LuckyStar
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by Katareen
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by GoldenRod
I often arrange a lot of DC's play dates, but no matter who arranges them, as long as one of us is home, it doesn't matter who goes out and runs errands.
And when DC go to friend's houses, I don't care which of the parents are at the house, regardless of who arranged the play date.
This. Why on earth would the mother have to be home if the father is there? As long as there is an adult, what difference does it make?
My DD has a friend who has a very bizarre father. I’m sure he’s harmless but I wouldn’t love it if he was the one in charge of her well-being. He seems completely clueless.
I guess, but either parent could be bizarre, no? It's not just dads.
Stuff like this always makes me feel so sad because I know my own DH would be so upset if DD had a friend over and the parents didn't trust him just because he's her dad.
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cj7305
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by itsagoodlife
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Totally agree with this.
It’s not like the kids are being left alone with no adult.
IMO your DH is being ridiculous
Totally agree! Especially at this age. As long as there's an adult at home if god forbid something happened, who cares if it's the mom or dad?! And running to CVS, not like you're going away for the day.
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by cdunn
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Now if you could tell my DH this, this would be helpful. 
He arranges play dates and goes places and I don't bark about it.
wait so he does and you can't. Oh no that would not go over well and I would be going in a heart beat.
Also for anyone saying that they would be bothered by this why would you ever leave your child at someones house if you were not comfortable with both sets of parents  if I felt uncomfortable I wouldn't be leaving my child at all.
Honestly (and I will probably get yelled at about this) sounds kind of sexist to me that a dad can't be responsible for watching over a play date!!!
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ChilisWife
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Its not about gender or mom v dad at all. For me, its just about knowing and trusting the person you leave your child with. Id be less concerned as the child gets older.
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RainyDay
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by GoldenRod
I often arrange a lot of DC's play dates, but no matter who arranges them, as long as one of us is home, it doesn't matter who goes out and runs errands.
And when DC go to friend's houses, I don't care which of the parents are at the house, regardless of who arranged the play date.
This. Why on earth would the mother have to be home if the father is there? As long as there is an adult, what difference does it make?
Because the father didnt want the responsibility of watching someome else's kid? I can see his point. She shouldnt be making plans and then expecting him to have to pick up the responsibility.
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MsSissy
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Damn..so much for teamwork in parenting.
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You planned it, you stay. The parent who allowed their child over expects you to be there. Unless it's a family friend, or someone who actually personally knows your DH.
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longislemom
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Am I wrong or right
Absurd?
The op asked a question and everyone respectfully took time to give their own take/opinions.
Not because people don't think alike makes it absurd.
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EricaAlt
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by PearlJamChick
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
WORD!
This!! I know my kid's parents by now. You want to go run out for an errand and your DH is home... I'm totally fine with that. I cannot believe some of these answers! There is a responsible parent there watching the kids if there's an issue while you're out!
I trust my DH with my children 100%. One of the reasons I married him was bc I knew he'd be a great dad. Why would I not trust him to keep an eye on kids playing?!
I know my kid's friend's parents pretty well. I have dropped them off when just a father was there. Did not think twice about it. Just bc a mom made the playdate she knows she or her DH will be home. That's ALL that matters.
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busymomonli
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Am I wrong or right
If I planned the play date, I would not leave. DH didn't ask to be stuck home and maybe he has things to do. My idea, I stay.
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Sixofus
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Am I wrong or right
My dc's friends' parents all know that I have a bunch of kids and am constantly running in and out ferrying them about. And they still are always asking to come over. As long as there is a responsible adult there I don't see a problem. But it seems your dh doesn't want to be responsible, which wouldn't fly at all with me since they are his kids too. And you said they are 9 and 11-not even little. You are totally right to be annoyed.
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Peainapod
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yesterday DS had his 2 friends over, granted one lives right next door and the other is across the street. But I had a nail appt so I left them with DH. He was OK with that.
I think the kids are old enough where they would be OK with you going to a store for a quick errand and DH staying to watch them. I mean, one of them is HIS kid ..sheesh.
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Momma2015
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Oh please. He's a parent, too, and is perfectly capable of keeping an ear out. I'm sure it infringed on his super important couch surfing... 
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I wrong or right
If dad's weren't allowed to be alone with the kids for play dates, we'd never have anyone over since he is home with DD and I work.
Not sure why it would be an issue to have a DH at home during a play date while the mom ran out.
Are all men sexual predators or something?
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klingklang77
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I don’t think there is a right or wrong in this situation exactly. It’s what works for you, OP. Obviously, it didn’t work for you and I’d probably talk to him about it. Maybe he was just sick? I know, I hate man colds, too.
I personally would not stand for that.
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MsSissy
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by NervousNell
If dad's weren't allowed to be alone with the kids for play dates, we'd never have anyone over since he is home with DD and I work.
Not sure why it would be an issue to have a DH at home during a play date while the mom ran out.
Are all men sexual predators or something?
Unless he set it up it's not acceptable. Pay attention 
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are you friggin kidding me?! He's got some set!!
