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ANewDayHasCome
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Speaking of bullying
A middle school girl in our area committed suicide yesterday. Breaks my heart.
My 4 year old came home from nursery school today telling me a girl told her she didn't like her. This is the same snot nose kid that has always been mean.
I just can't with the bullying. To any point, but the point that kids are taking their lives. It needs to stop.
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OMG!!!! May that little girl RIP.
Ugh. MY DD went in Pre-K last year and LOVED it. Then after a few months, she started saying she hated school. Talking with her, there is this one kid that is just so mean to everyone. She's in K now and the kid is in her class again, and she says she hates school this year too. She's fukking 5!!!!! It just kills me.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by StaceyWill
OMG!!!! May that little girl RIP.
Ugh. MY DD went in Pre-K last year and LOVED it. Then after a few months, she started saying she hated school. Talking with her, there is this one kid that is just so mean to everyone. She's in K now and the kid is in her class again, and she says she hates school this year too. She's fukking 5!!!!! It just kills me.
how are children that young, 4 years old, mean?
Are they born mean?
I don't get it
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StaceyWill
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Re: Speaking of bullying
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Posted by StaceyWill
OMG!!!! May that little girl RIP.
Ugh. MY DD went in Pre-K last year and LOVED it. Then after a few months, she started saying she hated school. Talking with her, there is this one kid that is just so mean to everyone. She's in K now and the kid is in her class again, and she says she hates school this year too. She's fukking 5!!!!! It just kills me.
how are children that young, 4 years old, mean?
Are they born mean?
I don't get it
I know. It's nuts.
I will say that her mother is not the nicest person in the world from what I've seen of her, so maybe just being around that for 4 years...That sounds horrible, but who knows? It's just so sad.
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WannaBeAMom11
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Speaking of bullying
We had an issue at the beginning of the year. A liittle boy called my dd a *****. They are 4. I took immediate action and there have been no further incidents.
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by StaceyWill
OMG!!!! May that little girl RIP.
Ugh. MY DD went in Pre-K last year and LOVED it. Then after a few months, she started saying she hated school. Talking with her, there is this one kid that is just so mean to everyone. She's in K now and the kid is in her class again, and she says she hates school this year too. She's fukking 5!!!!! It just kills me.
how are children that young, 4 years old, mean?
Are they born mean?
I don't get it
I know. It's nuts.
I will say that her mother is not the nicest person in the world from what I've seen of her, so maybe just being around that for 4 years...That sounds horrible, but who knows? It's just so sad.
Bc she has a nasty mom and a dad who enables her and lets her be a spoiled brat. It all comes back to the parents.
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Speaking of bullying
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
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Speaking of bullying
SO sad!!  I posted on that thread, too about a middle school girl in my town in NJ who committed suicide in June. The story is heartbreaking!!! her mom was aware of the bullying, and was in the school pretty much once a month for a meeting about it...poor girl was getting text messages saying " why don't you just kill yourself??"
its beyond sad what these kids go through!!! I think so many people have kids and then don't put the effort into actually parenting them and teaching them basic things like kindness
Prayers for that girl, and your town as they go through this!
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by ml110
SO sad!! I posted on that thread, too about a middle school girl in my town in NJ who committed suicide in June. The story is heartbreaking!!! her mom was aware of the bullying, and was in the school pretty much once a month for a meeting about it...poor girl was getting text messages saying " why don't you just kill yourself??"
its beyond sad what these kids go through!!! I think so many people have kids and then don't put the effort into actually parenting them and teaching them basic things like kindness
Prayers for that girl, and your town as they go through this!
This is where I get lost on how we even begin to address this. How in the world a kid gets to the point that they tell someone else to kill themself is beyond my understanding. What in the world are they thinking?
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by MrsT809
Posted by ml110
SO sad!! I posted on that thread, too about a middle school girl in my town in NJ who committed suicide in June. The story is heartbreaking!!! her mom was aware of the bullying, and was in the school pretty much once a month for a meeting about it...poor girl was getting text messages saying " why don't you just kill yourself??"
its beyond sad what these kids go through!!! I think so many people have kids and then don't put the effort into actually parenting them and teaching them basic things like kindness
Prayers for that girl, and your town as they go through this!
This is where I get lost on how we even begin to address this. How in the world a kid gets to the point that they tell someone else to kill themself is beyond my understanding. What in the world are they thinking?
This is what I don't get... In that case in NJ, it was not just one girl bullying her. There were multiple girls. How is it that all of those girls jumped on that bandwagon without any repercussions from their parents or the school (prior to the suicide)? And the same with the GC boy. When it's more than 1 being a bully, it's harder to hide. How can the schools not properly deal with these scenarios? They know who it is. I don't care what they say. Especially when it comes to girls. Girls love to talk so I'm sure it's well known who the problems are. Yes, it stems from home, but schools also have the ability to discipline. Now an 8th grader in Dix Hills? Terrible
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Re: Speaking of bullying
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Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
This is harsh
Nobody is saying it's acceptable. But the child again is 4.
Most first experience in a school setting
I do t think every 4 year old who called another 4 year old a poop head has shittty patents and the kid is a bully
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Speaking of bullying
A mother called my 2yr old a "crybaby" because she cried when her 4yr old called my daughter a butt. My 2 yr old is old enough to know it was mean and hurtful, so the 4 yr old should know too IMO. However he's clearly being raised in a house where that behavior is acceptable.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
I'm not sure where anywhere in my post did I call her a bully?! Nice try though.
I did mention bullying about the 8th grader who committed suicide. Is it okay in your book to call it bullying in middle school? Or still no?
And yes, it's the parents. Which I'm seeing here by downplaying the behavior. As a mom of a 4 year old I can assure you she would never act like that. And if she did I wouldn't make excuses for it and downplay it. You know, because she's only 4. It starts somewhere, no?
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
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Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
I'm not sure where anywhere in my post did I call her a bully?! Nice try though.
I did mention bullying about the 8th grader who committed suicide. Is it okay in your book to call it bullying in middle school? Or still no?
And yes, it's the parents. Which I'm seeing here by downplaying the behavior. As a mom of a 4 year old I can assure you she would never act like that. And if she did I wouldn't make excuses for it and downplay it. You know, because she's only 4. It starts somewhere, no?
Listen - I’m not looking to argue with you. It wasn’t my intention to anger you. You brought up bullying and in the same Post mentioned the incident with your child. You are right, you did not outright call her a bully but the implication was there in my opinion.
I will again reiterate that I was simply responding to your post about 4 year olds. The middle school bullying that occurs is absolutely a whole other issue - it’s very sad.
I just want to remind everyone that very young children are still learning and we should be careful not to label them. I know lots of children who have said mean things to my dd and their parents are lovely people. I am constantly reminding my dd to be kind to everyone but I can’t guarantee she’s never excluded another child from playing unintentionally and upset someone.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
I'm not sure where anywhere in my post did I call her a bully?! Nice try though.
I did mention bullying about the 8th grader who committed suicide. Is it okay in your book to call it bullying in middle school? Or still no?
And yes, it's the parents. Which I'm seeing here by downplaying the behavior. As a mom of a 4 year old I can assure you she would never act like that. And if she did I wouldn't make excuses for it and downplay it. You know, because she's only 4. It starts somewhere, no?
Ita! It does start somewhere! 4,5,9 who cares. When a kid is rude and targets the same child or children thats a bully in my eyes.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
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Posted by ml110
SO sad!! I posted on that thread, too about a middle school girl in my town in NJ who committed suicide in June. The story is heartbreaking!!! her mom was aware of the bullying, and was in the school pretty much once a month for a meeting about it...poor girl was getting text messages saying " why don't you just kill yourself??"
its beyond sad what these kids go through!!! I think so many people have kids and then don't put the effort into actually parenting them and teaching them basic things like kindness
Prayers for that girl, and your town as they go through this!
This is where I get lost on how we even begin to address this. How in the world a kid gets to the point that they tell someone else to kill themself is beyond my understanding. What in the world are they thinking?
This is what I don't get... In that case in NJ, it was not just one girl bullying her. There were multiple girls. How is it that all of those girls jumped on that bandwagon without any repercussions from their parents or the school (prior to the suicide)? And the same with the GC boy. When it's more than 1 being a bully, it's harder to hide. How can the schools not properly deal with these scenarios? They know who it is. I don't care what they say. Especially when it comes to girls. Girls love to talk so I'm sure it's well known who the problems are. Yes, it stems from home, but schools also have the ability to discipline. Now an 8th grader in Dix Hills? Terrible
Exactly!!! the school apparently just kept sweeping it under the rug like "oh, we'll talk to them..." that kind of thing. The parents are now suing the school district because they have a paper trail of all the meetings and how nothing ever changed. and because many of the SnapChat things took place during the school day or at school functions. AND Mallory's mom even called the mom of the "main" bully to try to work together to stop it. That mom basically said "oh, its fine- they're just being kids. what can i do about it?" kind of thing. there were no repercussions for the girl at home or in school. The parents didn't even take her phone/ social media away! When you hear that your kid is telling another kid to kill themselves, how do you not do anything about it?!?! So sad and something has to change!!
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It’s terrible And totally ignored in schools. Teachers instead focus on the kid not becoming a target.
My sister’s 4 year old is getting bullied.
I got bullied by the same person from K through middle school (very viciously... she was not a sane person and is not doing well today but was very popular).
I find recess, while good for kids, is completely unsupervised. Kids were making fun of my 7 yr old when he missed a shot and so he hit one of them (which is wrong)... of course I yelled at him, got a call from the teacher and told him hitting is never right.... BUT where was the teacher? Inside. Where was the aid? Dealing with a kid who was punched in the stomach. It’s Lord of the Flies.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
I'm not sure where anywhere in my post did I call her a bully?! Nice try though.
I did mention bullying about the 8th grader who committed suicide. Is it okay in your book to call it bullying in middle school? Or still no?
And yes, it's the parents. Which I'm seeing here by downplaying the behavior. As a mom of a 4 year old I can assure you she would never act like that. And if she did I wouldn't make excuses for it and downplay it. You know, because she's only 4. It starts somewhere, no?
So you're saying any 4 year old who says something mean is being raised wrong at home
It's great your 4 year old has never said a mean thing to another kid. But most 4 year olds have said you're a poopy head etc to another kid
Most have said no I don't like oh when not wanting to share
Sometimes it's more. Yes. Sometimes the parents don't monitor Yes
But sometimes it is kids being 4
And to automatically jump on the parents of a 4 year old is not cool imo
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by Laraaidan
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
I'm not sure where anywhere in my post did I call her a bully?! Nice try though.
I did mention bullying about the 8th grader who committed suicide. Is it okay in your book to call it bullying in middle school? Or still no?
And yes, it's the parents. Which I'm seeing here by downplaying the behavior. As a mom of a 4 year old I can assure you she would never act like that. And if she did I wouldn't make excuses for it and downplay it. You know, because she's only 4. It starts somewhere, no?
Ita! It does start somewhere! 4,5,9 who cares. When a kid is rude and targets the same child or children thats a bully in my eyes.
But that's it. Targeting another child over and over is different from a 4 year old saying I don't like you
And it's never ok to downplay it but to automatically go it's the parents at home anytime a 4 year old says a mean thing is not fair
My kid had had his hair pulled in k
He also pushed another kid once
He was spoken to and had a privilege away at home
But according to this I am downplaying this at home and am a shit parent
I didn't question the parent for one second of the kid who pulled my kids hair. If it happened over and over that's a different story
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by gina409
Posted by Laraaidan
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
I'm not sure where anywhere in my post did I call her a bully?! Nice try though.
I did mention bullying about the 8th grader who committed suicide. Is it okay in your book to call it bullying in middle school? Or still no?
And yes, it's the parents. Which I'm seeing here by downplaying the behavior. As a mom of a 4 year old I can assure you she would never act like that. And if she did I wouldn't make excuses for it and downplay it. You know, because she's only 4. It starts somewhere, no?
Ita! It does start somewhere! 4,5,9 who cares. When a kid is rude and targets the same child or children thats a bully in my eyes.
But that's it. Targeting another child over and over is different from a 4 year old saying I don't like you
And it's never ok to downplay it but to automatically go it's the parents at home anytime a 4 year old says a mean thing is not fair
My kid had had his hair pulled in k
He also pushed another kid once
He was spoken to and had a privilege away at home
But according to this I am downplaying this at home and am a shit parent
I didn't question the parent for one second of the kid who pulled my kids hair. If it happened over and over that's a different story
I completely agree with this. I am a teacher and during training we are taught that bullying is REPEATED mean behavior target towards the same person by another child or group of kids.
A one time spat between 4/5 years old is not bullying. By saying that it is, you are downplaying actual bullying. If Suzy called Sally a butthead or a meanie one time, Suzy is not being a bully. She definitely said something hurtful, but she is not bullying. Now if Suzy repeatedly targeted Sally, then she would be a bully.
To the person who got all upset that someone called her 2 year old a cry baby because he was upset over being called a butt. Yes that mom was being a $%TCH , but to practically crucify a 4 year old over one mean comment is ridiculous.
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Speaking of bullying
For all those directing their posts to me, it is REPEATED. and it is TARGETED.
Im done here. I stand by saying it stems from the parents.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
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Ita! It does start somewhere! 4,5,9 who cares. When a kid is rude and targets the same child or children thats a bully in my eyes.
The problem with thinking rude behavior is bullying, is that actually bullying then gets ignored.
Bullying is a pattern of negative behavior normally directed toward one specific child. It is not being rude, or disrespectful. In girls, bullying is very different. Often it manifests itself by a group of girls excluding one individual girl. AKA - the "mean" girls. It is not one girl, on one day, saying I don't want to play with you. It could be one girl, every day telling the same girl, I don't want to play with you. Social isolation and exclusion are very often overlooked by adults, or not perceived as bullying. It's a scary world out there for our kids, and social media and the inability to get away from name calling etc is making it far worse than it was when I was growing up.
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Re: Speaking of bullying
Posted by gina409
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Cacarina
I think we should all keep in mind that 4yos are still small children and we shouldn’t put labels on them at such a young age. They are still learning
how to form friendships and what may seem like “bullying” is just normal childhood disagreements.
Or their parents haven't done their job by teaching them manners. Name calling is NEVER acceptable and is bullying NOT simply a child disagreement
I’m simply responding to the OP calling a FOUR year old who said “I don’t like you” a bully, a snot nosed kid and a spoiled brat. I just think we need to be careful not to over use the word bully. That incident on its own is not bullying. That’s not saying parents don’t need to constantly be teaching their children how to be kind and thoughtful. But I just think we need to, as the adults!, be careful with labeling and name calling children. It starts with us.
I'm not sure where anywhere in my post did I call her a bully?! Nice try though.
I did mention bullying about the 8th grader who committed suicide. Is it okay in your book to call it bullying in middle school? Or still no?
And yes, it's the parents. Which I'm seeing here by downplaying the behavior. As a mom of a 4 year old I can assure you she would never act like that. And if she did I wouldn't make excuses for it and downplay it. You know, because she's only 4. It starts somewhere, no?
So you're saying any 4 year old who says something mean is being raised wrong at home
It's great your 4 year old has never said a mean thing to another kid. But most 4 year olds have said you're a poopy head etc to another kid
Most have said no I don't like oh when not wanting to share
Sometimes it's more. Yes. Sometimes the parents don't monitor Yes
But sometimes it is kids being 4
And to automatically jump on the parents of a 4 year old is not cool imo
Thank you. One I think the term bullying gets thrown around too much. If your kid gets made fun of once it's not bullying mean yes rude yes but they weren't bullied.
Two I am so sick of hearing it's the parents fault. Guess what even if a parent disciplines and does what they can to try to make a kid stop the kid can guess what still do it. There is only so much a person can do.
My family perfect example me and my brother were raised together and guess what he did a lot more bad things than I ever. So what does that make my parents only half a bad parent cause one child was good but the other wasn't. When they did everything they could to make him behave.
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