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PennyCat
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Posted by MM2004

Having to go for a D&C after losing a baby at 14 weeks at Good Sam.

The surgical floor takes you right by the maternity ward and nursery so being wheeled up on a gurney you get to see all the babies and pregnant women waiting to give birth. While in the holding room, you get to watch all the women having c-sections being wheeled by into the surgical rooms.



I can so much identify with that. In my first pregnancy, my baby was extremely sick and I was told he would not make it. We went for a second opinion and to get where I needed to be, we had to walk by the maternity floor of a hospital. While I laid for the sono confirming what I already knew, a woman came in with her triplet newborn babies and I heard the women outside saying what cute hands and feet they had, while I starred back at my baby whose hands and feet were partially amputated, among many many other terrible issues. We lost him exactly a week later.

Posted 5/25/17 2:50 PM
 
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NervousNell
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Posted by PennyCat

Posted by MM2004

Having to go for a D&C after losing a baby at 14 weeks at Good Sam.

The surgical floor takes you right by the maternity ward and nursery so being wheeled up on a gurney you get to see all the babies and pregnant women waiting to give birth. While in the holding room, you get to watch all the women having c-sections being wheeled by into the surgical rooms.



I can so much identify with that. In my first pregnancy, my baby was extremely sick and I was told he would not make it. We went for a second opinion and to get where I needed to be, we had to walk by the maternity floor of a hospital. While I laid for the sono confirming what I already knew, a woman came in with her triplet newborn babies and I heard the women outside saying what cute hands and feet they had, while I starred back at my baby whose hands and feet were partially amputated, among many many other terrible issues. We lost him exactly a week later.



You know, you would think that in this day and age hospitals would be a bit more sensitive to situations like this and maybe have separate areas for those tests and treatments that need to be done for women who are having miscarriages or problems in their pregnancy, rather than making you witness newborns when you are going through something like that.
It's really so cruel.
I'm sorry you both had to go through such awful traumatic experiences.
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Posted 5/25/17 3:01 PM
 

MrsT809
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Posted by MrsG823

Losing my brother suddenly two weeks after his 25th birthday.



Same here aside from the two weeks part.

Posted 5/25/17 6:27 PM
 

FranM
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

My husbands sudden death and having to tell my then 11 year old son

Posted 5/25/17 7:31 PM
 

FSWNAG
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Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Waking up to my dog barking at 3am on a Monday morning and finding 2 people Trying to push their way into the house as I was trying to
hold the door shut on the other side calling 911. Thank God for my dog or they would have gotten in.

9/11-- watching my brother cry when he found out his best friend was gone. I'll never forget.

Posted 5/25/17 8:18 PM
 

PennyCat
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by PennyCat

Posted by MM2004

Having to go for a D&C after losing a baby at 14 weeks at Good Sam.

The surgical floor takes you right by the maternity ward and nursery so being wheeled up on a gurney you get to see all the babies and pregnant women waiting to give birth. While in the holding room, you get to watch all the women having c-sections being wheeled by into the surgical rooms.



I can so much identify with that. In my first pregnancy, my baby was extremely sick and I was told he would not make it. We went for a second opinion and to get where I needed to be, we had to walk by the maternity floor of a hospital. While I laid for the sono confirming what I already knew, a woman came in with her triplet newborn babies and I heard the women outside saying what cute hands and feet they had, while I starred back at my baby whose hands and feet were partially amputated, among many many other terrible issues. We lost him exactly a week later.



You know, you would think that in this day and age hospitals would be a bit more sensitive to situations like this and maybe have separate areas for those tests and treatments that need to be done for women who are having miscarriages or problems in their pregnancy, rather than making you witness newborns when you are going through something like that.
It's really so cruel.
I'm sorry you both had to go through such awful traumatic experiences.
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I so very much agree. It's surprising that these days there aren't protocols in place. I did make a complaint to someone at that hospital about some related issues but it never went beyond that.

At the time my sono took place and all this was happening, my dh actually stepped outside and asked that the people admiring the newborns please step away from right outside our door.

So much horrific crap is out of our control... but there's no excuse for human insensitivity.

Posted 5/25/17 8:54 PM
 

Chai77
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Multiple miscarriages.

Hearing "There's no longer a heartbeat" the first time was such a shock. I was alone, thinking I would have a routine visit.

But then when I lost the next baby, I was on the exam table having a sonogram a few days before Christmas. We saw the baby had no heartbeat, then actually saw it pass out of my body on the screen- I lost the baby right there. It was horrifying. Then having to pretend everything was normal on Christmas in front of my other two children was so hard. Especially knowing we were going to tell them about the baby on Christmas morning and it was all ripped away without warning just days earlier.

Posted 5/26/17 12:36 AM
 

Milerose
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Posted by FranM

My husbands sudden death and having to tell my then 11 year old son



I sympathize with you so much I know the feeling but I havent' told my son much yet he dosent understand he is only 4.

Posted 5/26/17 9:04 AM
 

chilltocam
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Losing my dad when I was 7 yrs old and losing my mom 10 years ago.

Losing my mom literally shook my world to the point that I could feel my attachment to the planet disappear - I felt like all my life I didn't know it, but was attached to the earth by a string and after she passed, that string was cut and I was left drifting on my own Chat Icon

Posted 5/26/17 10:13 AM
 

Mmm777
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Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Having a child with lot of behavioural problems, I am still depressed and fear what will happen once I die..who will take car of him etc..
In 7 years haven't been to a movie, haven't eaten out with family and enjoyed it , some times I wonder that I just exist going through the motions of it all...

Posted 5/26/17 11:02 AM
 

Xelindrya
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Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

My father dying - by far the worst thing in my whole life so far
9/11 - at least my father was alive then

If not for my daughter, I am not sure what I would live for after my Dad died. People just don't seem to understand that. It's impossible to describe or explain. But I move on and live the socially correct life. I remember very clearly telling my husband, if anything happens to AJ, I will just die. I mean it. Until that time, no one will notice. I owe that to her.

Posted 5/26/17 12:23 PM
 

Superkat
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Finding my dad's dead body when I was 6 years old.

My husband having a heart attack at 39 years old.

Losing two uncles in less than 6 months from heart attacks.

Heart issues seem to follow me. They are the cancer of my family.

Posted 5/26/17 12:50 PM
 

Bearcat
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Having to make the decision to terminate a pregnancy that I wanted so badly.

Posted 5/26/17 1:04 PM
 

Alexandra17
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Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

My aunt passing away from pancreatic cancer at 39.

Posted 5/26/17 1:29 PM
 

Jacksmommy
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Liz

Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

The worst thing that has happened to me so far is that I had a stroke and the resulting medical issues that have come along with that. However, reading this thread has made me realize how incredibly lucky I truly am, because this is nothing compared to some things you women have been through. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/26/17 7:13 PM
 

worrywort
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meghan

Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Losing my eyesight in my right eye and 16 from a brain tumor and the radiation and side effects

Surgery to remove my optic nerve and the realization that I would never look "normal"

Our first miscarriage and the days following

The PPD with my second D.C. That ripped the rug from under my feet. Hugs to all of you!!

Posted 5/26/17 8:15 PM
 

LIRascal
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Michelle

Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

My father's sudden passing
Being diagnosed with MS (at first it didn't bother me)
Suddenly being disabled with three little ones

Posted 5/27/17 12:07 AM
 

aim
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

My miscarriage and final reality that I won't have a baby.

Posted 5/27/17 3:50 PM
 

ready2go
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Going through a D&E and losing my baby at 20 weeks. I think about him every single day of my life. He was one of 4 MC's I had in 16 months.

Posted 5/27/17 9:33 PM
 

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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Posted by Mmm777

Having a child with lot of behavioural problems, I am still depressed and fear what will happen once I die..who will take car of him etc..
In 7 years haven't been to a movie, haven't eaten out with family and enjoyed it , some times I wonder that I just exist going through the motions of it all...



I am very sorry. I can relate to not taking anytime for yourself and being stressed to the max. My youngest has autism and most days I feel like we are just surviving. And yes, I often think about what will happen to him when we get old.

Hell I think about it now, just bringing him to the potty can be a full blown wrestling match and I wonder what will happen as he gets older and stronger. Most days I feel like I got the crap kicked out of me.

I joined a parent support group. It has helped me tremendously. If you haven't done it, I really recommend it. It's been helpful with resources, just bouncing questions off others who get it, and sometimes just to say I've had a ****** week (we meet once per month).

Just wanted to tell you, you are not alone. IChat Icon

Posted 5/27/17 9:42 PM
 

babydreams21
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Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

The death of my father as a child is by far the worst thing to happen to me. As an adult the worst thing is my struggle with infertility. It has been a rough ride.

I read each of your stories and am so sorry for what you all have been through. Life is so unfair.

Posted 5/27/17 10:47 PM
 

gina409
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

Posted by Mmm777

Having a child with lot of behavioural problems, I am still depressed and fear what will happen once I die..who will take car of him etc..
In 7 years haven't been to a movie, haven't eaten out with family and enjoyed it , some times I wonder that I just exist going through the motions of it all...



So many hugs for you

Please fm me if you ever want to talk/vent

Posted 5/28/17 3:18 PM
 

MrsA1012
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Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

So many hugs to everyone on here, life is brutal.

Posted 5/30/17 9:29 AM
 

ourlivesstartnow2012
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Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

My mom going through breast cancer.
Living with Cluster Headaches...before and after my surgery, they still makes life extremely challenging.
My PPA/PPD with my 1 DC.

I am sitting at my desk, crying for each and everyone of you! Virtual hugs to all!

Posted 5/30/17 3:21 PM
 

apwmjc
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Re: Worst Thing That Has Happened To You

The day my older brother was murdered and having to go through a long, torturous trial.

My twin brother having a diabetic seizure and being in a coma for a couple of months. Now seeing him in a vegetative state in a nursing home. It's been so hard on my parents and I feel so sad for what they've been through.

Posted 5/30/17 7:20 PM
 
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