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AGabs
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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Do you ever feel your doctor isn’t doing what’s in your best interest? That you don’t have feelings and actually want to have a baby. That you're just a patient and someone to make money off of?

Sorry for the vent, feeling discouraged...

Posted 6/30/14 11:49 AM
 
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ANewDayHasCome
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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

I changed drs within RMA. I started off with someone for my first two medicated cycles and she left. I changed my dr and even though it still took 2 more iuis and two rounds of Ivf I trusted him. And he was confident he would get me pregnant, and he did. I just knew. He's my hero. Not only that he understood the emotional side of it. And out up with my emails. Lol

Posted 6/30/14 12:06 PM
 

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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

I never felt that way, to be honest. I worked with Dr. Grunfeld at RMA and truly felt like he had my best interests in mind. Whenever I had a bad day, and was crying or freaking out at work, I'd call him and he'd get on the phone or call me back. He never passed me off to a nurse. And after 2 failed clomid cycles, I asked to move onto injectables, and that's how I got my BFP. He even let me make suggestions during my cycles, and always listened to what I felt. We'll be returning to him for DC#2.

In my opinion, if you feel like your dr isn't doing what's in your best interest, you probably haven't found the right fit.

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Posted 6/30/14 12:08 PM
 

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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

To be perfectly honest I think you should change doctors within RMA. They have all your info and it's the same practice, but the doctors within the practice vary greatly in personality and approach.

Posted 6/30/14 12:10 PM
 

AGabs
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by NYCGirl80

I never felt that way, to be honest. I worked with Dr. Grunfeld at RMA and truly felt like he had my best interests in mind. Whenever I had a bad day, and was crying or freaking out at work, I'd call him and he'd get on the phone or call me back. He never passed me off to a nurse. And after 2 failed clomid cycles, I asked to move onto injectables, and that's how I got my BFP. He even let me make suggestions during my cycles, and always listened to what I felt. We'll be returning to him for DC#2.

In my opinion, if you feel like your dr isn't doing what's in your best interest, you probably haven't found the right fit.

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This is awesome!! I do NOT feel this way about Flisser. If I call I get a nurse calling me back and the last one wasn't my favorite. When i made suggestions the nurse got very annoyed with me "we know what is best for you". I haven't been given any suggestions on take this vitamin, try accupuncture, have your husband take this.

Good luck with #2!!!

Message edited 6/30/2014 12:20:52 PM.

Posted 6/30/14 12:17 PM
 

AGabs
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by ANewDayHasCome

To be perfectly honest I think you should change doctors within RMA. They have all your info and it's the same practice, but the doctors within the practice vary greatly in personality and approach.



Good idea!! Maybe i'll see if I can change my appointment on the 7th to a new doctor within RMA. It makes me nervous though but I doubt Flisser could pick me out of a lineup...

Posted 6/30/14 12:20 PM
 

ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by AGabs

Posted by ANewDayHasCome

To be perfectly honest I think you should change doctors within RMA. They have all your info and it's the same practice, but the doctors within the practice vary greatly in personality and approach.



Good idea!! Maybe i'll see if I can change my appointment on the 7th to a new doctor within RMA. It makes me nervous though but I doubt Flisser could pick me out of a lineup...



I wasn't a fan of his even in the few times I had him for monitoring. And who cares even if he didn't recognize you. You have to do what's right for you, not worry about hurting his feelings which I'm sure wouldn't any.

Posted 6/30/14 12:34 PM
 

NYCGirl80
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by AGabs

Posted by ANewDayHasCome

To be perfectly honest I think you should change doctors within RMA. They have all your info and it's the same practice, but the doctors within the practice vary greatly in personality and approach.



Good idea!! Maybe i'll see if I can change my appointment on the 7th to a new doctor within RMA. It makes me nervous though but I doubt Flisser could pick me out of a lineup...



He'll know you changed because they all meet to talk about all of their patients together. But who cares if he knows? Just find a dr you're comfortable with.

Posted 6/30/14 1:26 PM
 

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My original doctor was like this. I felt like he treated me like a child with no knowledge of IVF. He kept wanting to do the same protocol over and over again, but I was not having it. I switched to Dr. Mukherjee at RMA and was pleased with the care I was given.

Posted 6/30/14 1:45 PM
 

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Also - it's business not personal (who cares if he knows you switched) so I think you need to find the doctor who best clicks with you and your needs.

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Posted 6/30/14 1:46 PM
 

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Posted by PitterPatter11

Also - it's business not personal (who cares if he knows you switched) so I think you need to find the doctor who best clicks with you and your needs.





This. I left Rsny for many reasons but I was just a number there without a doubt. I get undivided personal care at SIRM. Best move ever!

Posted 6/30/14 6:30 PM
 

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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

I see Dr. Styne at RMA and I am very happy with her. After my last failed IUI, she called me to see how is was doing and spoke to me for a half hour. I think RMA has quite a few good doctors. If you aren't 100% happy, switch!

Posted 7/1/14 7:35 AM
 

AGabs
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by munchkinfacemama

I see Dr. Styne at RMA and I am very happy with her. After my last failed IUI, she called me to see how is was doing and spoke to me for a half hour. I think RMA has quite a few good doctors. If you aren't 100% happy, switch!



Dr. Styne did my last iui. She's the one I cried happy tears to.

Posted 7/1/14 9:03 AM
 

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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

people switch doctors all the time. if you're not comfortable, switch.

Posted 7/1/14 11:38 AM
 

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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

I consulted with many different RE's throughout my process.
I saw Dr. Sung, and consulted with Saketos, Trivax and Halfen who are all in the same practice lol it was awkward bc Sung is the main Dr always there but honestly, she understood and really didn't care bc I stuck with her in the end.
Then I consulted with Dr. Palter, Braverman and Dr. Tortoriello from SIRM, who I ended up seeing for my last IVF.
I had a pretty complex case being 32 with stage 4 endo, blocked tube, DOR, multiple miscarriages and DH having a varicocele and MF so we couldn't just go with basic game plans. It took many consults to figure out what will give us the best chances to have a successful pregnancy and we knew staying with one view will not give us all of the information. My last IVF failed, even with the most promising protocol and best Dr and even he admitted that he never saw this happen and he didn't know why. That scared us but again, it was what we heard many times.
If you feel that you are not getting adequate treatment, by all means go for consults. Getting other opinions can open your situation to different testing and a successful outcome.

Posted 7/1/14 9:30 PM
 

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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

I went with my gut and left my dr and practice of RS of NY and went to RMA because I felt like a number in a baby factory. Best decision I've ever made. What a difference in care, at least in my case.. Unfortunately We have to be our own advocate and be proactive.

As far as RMA. I've loved every dr I've come to deal with except Flisser. I didn't particularly care for his bedside manner and attitude. But everyone else in the practice I've dealt with is phenomenal!!

Posted 7/1/14 10:37 PM
 

AGabs
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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Thanks so much ladies!!! Our only issue is MF and I asked what other testing we could do to see if there were any other issues but he seemed to think everything else was ok. Hopefully our next doctor will be a little more thorough.

I've called RMA twice about switching doctors and I still haven't heard back from them. I have a follow up with Flisser on Monday to discuss IVF and I really don't want to meet with him.

I forgot to share the best part... his nurse didn't call in my prescription on Friday and when I went to pick it up Saturday it wasn't there. I had to have service page the nurse to call it in. She admitted she forgot (wonderful) and called it in. The pharmacist called me to call her back because she only left a voicemail and he couldn’t understand her (double wonderful).

Posted 7/2/14 9:50 AM
 

NYCGirl80
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by AGabs

Thanks so much ladies!!! Our only issue is MF and I asked what other testing we could do to see if there were any other issues but he seemed to think everything else was ok. Hopefully our next doctor will be a little more thorough.




What testing did they do on you?

Posted 7/2/14 10:22 AM
 

AGabs
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by NYCGirl80

Posted by AGabs

Thanks so much ladies!!! Our only issue is MF and I asked what other testing we could do to see if there were any other issues but he seemed to think everything else was ok. Hopefully our next doctor will be a little more thorough.




What testing did they do on you?



2 Water sonos, HSG and bloodwork. FSH levels are good, progesterone levels are good. There's been no discussion of possible endo.

Posted 7/2/14 10:40 AM
 

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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

How severe is the MFI?

Posted 7/2/14 1:45 PM
 

AGabs
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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Posted by PitterPatter11

How severe is the MFI?



He has low count and motility. His last sample was was 21 million!!! So I don't think it's all that bad. Our first two iui's he had around 10 million. I don't remember the percentages though.

Posted 7/2/14 1:48 PM
 

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Posted by AGabs

Thanks so much ladies!!! Our only issue is MF and I asked what other testing we could do to see if there were any other issues but he seemed to think everything else was ok. Hopefully our next doctor will be a little more thorough.




What testing did they do on you?



2 Water sonos, HSG and bloodwork. FSH levels are good, progesterone levels are good. There's been no discussion of possible endo.



Sounds about right. Unless you have reason to believe you have endo, I think this sounds like the right testing for dealing with MFI. If you've only had 3 IUIs and each time you only had 1 follie, I'd push for injectables to try to get multiple follies. I got my BFP on injectables. 3 follies = DS!

Posted 7/2/14 3:46 PM
 

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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

Trust your gut. Do not waste time with a doctor that you do not feel 100% comfortable with. I went on A LOT of consults - I think I went to at least 4. It was important to me that I trusted the Dr completely and felt he really had my best interests in mind. I knew my Dr was the one after our consult but still went to 2 more just to be sure!

Posted 7/2/14 8:03 PM
 

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Re: Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

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Posted by AGabs
2 Water sonos, HSG and bloodwork. FSH levels are good, progesterone levels are good. There's been no discussion of possible endo.



Sounds about right. Unless you have reason to believe you have endo, I think this sounds like the right testing for dealing with MFI. If you've only had 3 IUIs and each time you only had 1 follie, I'd push for injectables to try to get multiple follies. I got my BFP on injectables. 3 follies = DS!



ITA. We dealt with MFI and those are the tests I had as well.

Posted 7/2/14 8:34 PM
 

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Knowing your doctor isn't the one...

I feel that way and struggle with it all the time. I'm not sure if I feel they are just taking my money,,, yes at times. I have paid out of pocket and they do seem to try and help. I 'm not a cookie cutter pt, which I think is difficult for my RE. I have lots of medical issues to deal with and wonder if my RE every really considers any of that or cares about my over all health during the process. They seem to forget to ask for updates from my other Drs. and blood work...
I always feel as if I am missing information, even about my canceled FET. No on ever went over the process prior or the schedule they had planned for me regarding my timeline for transfer. I didn't know I was missing that info until I started the process, and feel stupid for not knowing and not knowing I should have asked. Which left me to forced to stop the process

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Posted 7/3/14 10:01 AM
 
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