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WannaBeAMom11
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Fuc$&@" cancer
I just need to vent. I hate cancer. There is no rhyme or reason to who it hits. It doesn't matter if the person is the healthiest person alive or treats their bodies like crap.
I lost 3 relatives to breast cancer in my 35 years of life.
I've known 4 people who've beat breast cancer in the past 5 years.
I know someone who has been living with cancer for 10 yrs
My dh's bf's dad was just diagnosed with stage 4 intestinal and liver cancer. He has has numerous blood tests due to an injury for the last couple of years and I don't understand how they haven't caught it till now. This man is a 2nd dad to Dh and I. Yesterday at the hospital when they said it was stage 4 I just wanted to break down and cry but I had to hold it together, act positive.
Dh is numb, his bf is a mess but trying to hold it together. I just hugged bf, got everyone dinner, helped with my nephews. Who are too young to understand how sick grandpa is.
I'm praying that Sloan can do something but all the people I know who have had stage 4 died quickly and pretty painfully, including my mom. I'm at a loss. I know there is nothing I can do but be there.
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dianadrw
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Fuc$&@
I feel your pain. We lost FIL in August to pancreatic cancer and two years ago I lost my beloved aunt to ovarian cancer which she fought for almost 5 years. I also have a HS friend who's 15 year old son is fighting leukemia for the second time in his young life. Cancer effing sucks!!!! I don't understand how we don't have better treatments for being such an advanced country.
Hang in there. Hopefully Sloan can give your friend's dad some hope.
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| Posted 1/19/14 8:54 AM |
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
Stage 3 breast cancer fighter here.
It fcking sucks. You are right...cancer does not discriminate.
I know a couple of people who had different types of cancer in stage 4 and they beat it. You really never know!
"Being there" doesn't SOUND like much but it really is a lot - you could help watch your nephews, pack lunches for them to bring to school, offer to do laundry or grocery shopping, prep meals that can be frozen and reheated easily, things like that. It will alleviate things for your DH's friend and give him some extra time to bring his dad to appointments.
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| Posted 1/19/14 8:58 AM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Fuc$&@
You're right. It sucks and makes me incredibly angry. I lost my mom to a stage 4 cancer. She had 4 months between diagnosis and passing. She lost her mom to cancer when she was only 13.
My two uncles had it, my dh's aunt has it. It really affects everyone, everywhere.
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babyvibes
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
I'm sorry for what you're going through and I can totally relate.
My dad is the oldest of 6. 5 of them, including my dad, have/had cancer. We've lost 3 out of the 5. Thank God my dad has been cancer free for around 2 years now. My grandfather, their father, also died of cancer--I never got to meet him.
My best friends grandmother, who was like another grandmother to me, beat cancer twice, breast and colon. She was cancer free for more than 5 years and we just found out last week that she now has tumors everywhere. She's 90 years old now and can't go through chemo or anything.
Unfortunately, it doesn't stop there. There's been so many other people I know affected by this terrible disease. I HATE CANCER.
Don't give up hope 
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babymakes3
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
I agree. Fu$:@/&! cancer!!
Prayers for your loved ones!
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| Posted 1/19/14 3:46 PM |
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Adri
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
I understand! Lost my dad to lung cancer almost 24 years ago. Lost my aunt to breast cancer 12 years ago. BIL got prostate removed last summer for a tumor. A couple of friends dealt with mastectomy. Hate cancer and I'm very scared of it!
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lvdolphins
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
Posted by babymakes3
I agree. Fu$:@/&! cancer!!
Prayers for your loved ones!
100% I HATE it!
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Many (((hugs)))
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ChilisWife
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
There is no rhyme or reason to who it hits. It doesn't matter if the person is the healthiest person alive or treats their bodies like crap.
Yes for the most part this is true. Recently several people close to me have been diagnosed and it really makes you think. It's so scary.
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jgl
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
Hate isnt even a strong enough word
My mil was dx with stage 4 ovarian cancer this summer. She just finished chemo. Praying for her. She means the world to my boys and us.
Dhs father had lung cancer. He seems to be doing fine now
My father has prostate cancer. Luckily early and will get radiation and should be fine.
I just live in a constant state of fear. Anyone could be next :(
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sunnyflies
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Fuc$&@
I am so sorry for you, your DH, his best friend and family. It's is truly awful. Unfortunately, the outcome does not sound hopeful, but "being there" is valuable beyond price. Do what you can do to support the family emotionally, and as another poster above said, help out where you feel you can.
Bringing an occasional meal, guiding them to counseling - MSK offers excellent counseling, asking specifically how you can help - run an errand, throw some wash through, etc. - all would be wonderful.
I have just been through extensive cancer treatment at MSK and can tell you that it can hit families that have never had cancer in it. I am the first one in mine on any side, and for as far back as anyone can tell. Who knows why, is it just horrible luck, or did something in the environment cause it? Who knows.
I do know that, should anyone need it, the grief counseling at MSK is excellent. Just be sure that close friends are also recorded as being close so that they are eligible later. I brought a friend there after she lost her former boy friend to colon cancer and it saved her sanity and probably her job.
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WannaBeAMom11
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
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Thank you.
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| Posted 1/19/14 9:10 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
My sister had stage four and won her fight....so far. She is doing well, cancer free.
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peanutbutter2
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
I'm so sorry you are going through this.
Cancer sucks. I lost all of my grandparents either directly due to cancer or cancer-related ailments (ie. my Gramps, essentially, died of strep throat b/c his body couldn't fight it because of the cancer).
My mom has been battling breast cancer since 1999 and brain cancer since 2011. She recently had a stroke, and she is expected to be in a nursing home for years b/c the therapy is SO difficult for her b/c of the cancer.
It's just a terrible, terrible, terrible disease.
I don't even know if I want to have biological children because I feel like I'm just a breeding ground for cancer.
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SusiBee
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
It sucks big time.
My aunt, 59 years old, colon cancer stage 4,but she ignored her symtoms for over 2 years.
My mom, 72 years, uterine canced, stage 2. Fatal in only 10% of cases. Mom was in that 10%.
My MIL, 82 years old, lung cancer stage 4. Survived 4 years before succumbing. She could not take the treatments anymore and stopped. The cancer did not.
Be a shoulder to lean on, for your DH as well. From experience, guys take it harder, they don't know how to deal with this.
Stage 4 is not always bad. A positive attitude helps.
Good luck and FLUCK CANCER !
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Naner325
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
F Cancer is right! I am so sorry for what you are going through
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babyfever24
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
I feel your pain. No rhyme or reason it just sucksssss
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StaceyWill
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Fuc$&@
Someone once wrote on here that they wish Cancer got Cancer. I couldn't agree more.
My mother had melanoma over the summer (she had a very large tumor on her arm, in a mole). I was 100% sure she was going to die. Thankfully, they removed the mole and the cancer had not spread. She has to go for scans every 3 months for the rest of her life. My uncle was diagnosed with throat cancer a few months ago. He has his last round of daily chemo treatments in a few days.
Cancer can kiss my ass.
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juanvi
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
Many prayers and yes effff cancer
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Lillies
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
My friend lost his Dad and Brother one year apart to cancer. My Dad is battling it now and is a fighter! I honestly am scared at how many young people I know are being diagnosed in the last two years. Is it a rise in cancer or are we just getting older and is it a normal thing to start losing people as you get older. Overall, we are terrified.
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
Posted by PearlJamChick
"Being there" doesn't SOUND like much but it really is a lot - you could help watch your nephews, pack lunches for them to bring to school, offer to do laundry or grocery shopping, prep meals that can be frozen and reheated easily, things like that. It will alleviate things for your DH's friend and give him some extra time to bring his dad to appointments.
This, x1000. I currently am fighting breast cancer as well and everything above is the best you can do. Unless you own a time machine, there's not much else to offer so just offer yourself. Sickness, not just cancer, is random and unfair.
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PrettyPeonies
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Fuc$&@
I am so sorry. It is insane how cancer has invaded most everyone's sense of safety. I lost my brother, my best friend, to brain cancer. I am a very strong believer in the theory that LI is a major cancer cluster due to our environment and pesticides that were sprayed over the years. Like others have mentioned, I have seen ppl come back from stage 4 and live healthy lives. Attitude and Outlook is so important.
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AdoptedCalm
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
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That's aweeeeesome
Yeah cancer sucks. My mother has stage 3b lung cancer and my cousin is battling stage 4 brain and skin cancer.
It's a battle and struggle and all we can do is be there for eachother. I'm sorry this is happening.
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JAPH23
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Re: Fuc$&@" cancer
I hate cancer.
I am a stage 3 breast cancer survivor. It really does not discriminate. What I hate the most though is when i see something about a child with cancer. I can't even handle it 
Sending hugs and prayers for your loved ones. So sorry this is happening.
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