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Reward system for 3-6 yr olds

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snowboardgirl
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Christine

Reward system for 3-6 yr olds

Hello everyone! I haven't been on this website in a while. It's nice to be back!

I was wondering if anyone has tried a reward system with stickers? It is mainly for my 3.5 year old who is an ANGEL at school, but not at home. I bought 2 nice binders and a bunch of nice stickers- big ones and little ones, but all either 3D or have something special about them.

I just don't know how and when to give them. I don't want it to be complicated, and I want something that I will be able to follow through with. I tried using 'X's on a chalk board to count bad behavior. so at the end of the day they either had three stickers for no 'Xs. two stickers for one 'X'. three 'X's gets no sticker.

Do time-outs mean no stickers that day at all? do they get one big sticker when they don't get a time out, or have bad behavior three days in a row? these are my questions. I tried this with tiny stickers, and at the end of the road map they got a prize, but that was expensive, and the real reward was too far away. That's why I am trying the nice stickers in a scrapbook idea.

Has anyone tried this? how did you tally up the sticker rewards?

Message edited 1/16/2014 3:15:51 PM.

Posted 1/16/14 3:12 PM
 
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Kelly9904
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Re: Reward system for 3-6 yr olds

I use stickers with my 6yo, he loves being rewarded for his actions and beign able to see it visually makes him happy.

So basically I reward individual behaviors, and after he gets X amount of stickers he gets a reward. For example right now he isnt allowed to play his wii u because of his attitude (talking back) so I told him to earn is back he needs to earn 4 stickers. Or he may get to stay up an extra 10 minutes if he earns stickers in a day. (which is very hard because he is in school all day!) Or he gets to pick a restaurant as a reward. I no longer do gifts as rewards because honestly I am tired of all the STUFF. So I change it up, I may give him a $1 as a reward etc.

He rarely gets time outs at this age. But you really need to see what works for you. My 2.5yo (3 in april) could give a rats you know what about being rewarded or applauded for good behavior, so things like this have no affect on him. So I am still figuring it out there.

DS1 however has always loved being told what a good job he did or getting a reward. I use the sticker chart when we go through bad sleeping spells etc.

My friend used to use the 3x method. She basically had 3 magnets on her fridge and a paper with 3 spots. If they got 3 magnets on their sheet, it was no stories, or no dessert that night. But if they were good during the day they could earn the removal of a magnet. She said it really worked for her girls!

Posted 1/16/14 3:38 PM
 

MrsO
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Name:
Maureen

Re: Reward system for 3-6 yr olds

Posted by Kelly9904

I use stickers with my 6yo, he loves being rewarded for his actions and beign able to see it visually makes him happy.

So basically I reward individual behaviors, and after he gets X amount of stickers he gets a reward. For example right now he isnt allowed to play his wii u because of his attitude (talking back) so I told him to earn is back he needs to earn 4 stickers. Or he may get to stay up an extra 10 minutes if he earns stickers in a day. (which is very hard because he is in school all day!) Or he gets to pick a restaurant as a reward. I no longer do gifts as rewards because honestly I am tired of all the STUFF. So I change it up, I may give him a $1 as a reward etc.

He rarely gets time outs at this age. But you really need to see what works for you. My 2.5yo (3 in april) could give a rats you know what about being rewarded or applauded for good behavior, so things like this have no affect on him. So I am still figuring it out there.

DS1 however has always loved being told what a good job he did or getting a reward. I use the sticker chart when we go through bad sleeping spells etc.

My friend used to use the 3x method. She basically had 3 magnets on her fridge and a paper with 3 spots. If they got 3 magnets on their sheet, it was no stories, or no dessert that night. But if they were good during the day they could earn the removal of a magnet. She said it really worked for her girls!



Do they lose stickers for bad behavior. What if he was great all morning and got his stickers but then before bed he was a nightmare - how do you handle that situation. I am thinking about devising a reward system for my boys.

Posted 1/16/14 3:44 PM
 

ourhappysurprise2012
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Member since 9/12

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Name:
Lori

Re: Reward system for 3-6 yr olds



Do they lose stickers for bad behavior. What if he was great all morning and got his stickers but then before bed he was a nightmare - how do you handle that situation. I am thinking about devising a reward system for my boys.




I do behavior charts at my job all the time - so what I would suggest is 1) f the behavior is really bad they should get a sticker removed, thus losing the reward or 2) give him the reward, after a discussion about how his behavior was unacceptable but how proud you are of him makig good choices earlier in the day. Maybe start the next day with a x, that he can quickly get rid of with good behvavior. Kids are kids and sometimes its hard to go a whole day with good behavior. Also, if you find this is happening often, you may need 2 rewards - at noon and bedtime, maybe the whole day is too much

Posted 1/16/14 3:50 PM
 

snowboardgirl
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Member since 8/05

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Name:
Christine

Re: Reward system for 3-6 yr olds

My stickers will be put into their scrapbooks. That's the problem with removing them.

Posted 1/16/14 3:56 PM
 

nferrandi
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Member since 10/05

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Name:
Nicole

Re: Reward system for 3-6 yr olds

Keep the stickers attached to the original backing- just cut them all out. TShe can only put them in her book right before bed. That way you don't need to remove them throughout the day. Or if bedtime is the issue, she can put her stickers in the book every morning that dye earned from the previous day.

Posted 1/16/14 5:41 PM
 
 

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