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Punishment advice
So my 3 year old has not been listening. At night, I stay in his room until he falls asleep, which I don't mind at all - and he loves it. We told him that the next time he doesn't listen I will not stay with him until he falls asleep - that is his punishment. Today, he purposely didn't listen and was so defiant... I told him that because he didn't listen I am not staying in his room tonight. He is SO upset. It's really hitting home. He is being sooo good. Every now and then he will say, "Please stay with me tonight, mama." I tell him that I can't stay with him tonight because he didn't listen and he understands, but is really upset. Tell me I'm doing the right thing and that I should not stay with him tonight. Or tell me something else lol what do you think?
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Posted 8/31/13 1:40 PM  |
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InShock
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Re: Punishment advice
Follow through. 
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| Posted 8/31/13 1:59 PM |
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LSP2005
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Punishment advice
Follow through with it or he won't listen next time.
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| Posted 8/31/13 2:12 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Punishment advice
As hard as it is, I would follow through.
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| Posted 8/31/13 3:31 PM |
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MommaG
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Punishment advice
I would follow through but in the future, try to correlate the punishment to the offense (if you tell him to pick up his toys and he doesn't, then he doesn't get to play with the toys tomorrow, for example). That way he will relate it to what he did wrong.
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| Posted 8/31/13 3:49 PM |
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MrsH2009
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I agree with above. And truthfully don't even know if I would follow through. It seems a bit harsh to me.
You need natural consequences, that punishment is not related to his offense. If he acts up at the park, you leave the park. If he throws things, he cleans them up. He needs to see the relationship between what he did, and the punishment, a cause and effect. To see you are not being "mean", but teaching him.
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| Posted 8/31/13 4:03 PM |
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If you say it, it must be done. But next time pick a more immediate consequence, and have rewards for doing good listening as well!
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| Posted 8/31/13 4:08 PM |
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So what would be an appropriate consequence for going downstairs when I told him not to?
Typically, his punishments are related to his offense. But in this case it's a general listening problem so I wanted to do something that would affect him and make him understand how important listening is and that not listening to mommy and daddy will not be tolerated.
I've decided that I'm going to stick with the punishment. Thanks for your feedback!
Message edited 8/31/2013 4:50:33 PM.
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| Posted 8/31/13 4:36 PM |
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twicethefun
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I bet if you follow through tonight, he will listen. Sit outside his room and assure him you are still there and he is still safe, but follow thru
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| Posted 8/31/13 9:42 PM |
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patti08
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Re: Punishment advice
If there was no easy immediate consequence for DD to understand she would get a short time out and then I would get down on her level to discuss why.
We used a reward system for when bad behaviors got corrected.
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| Posted 9/3/13 11:40 AM |
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MrsO
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Re: Punishment advice
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So what would be an appropriate consequence for going downstairs when I told him not to?
Typically, his punishments are related to his offense. But in this case it's a general listening problem so I wanted to do something that would affect him and make him understand how important listening is and that not listening to mommy and daddy will not be tolerated.
I've decided that I'm going to stick with the punishment. Thanks for your feedback!
How did it go? I agree following through is important.
If this happened early in the day you could always let him earn it back by listening to you for the entire rest of the day until bedtime.
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| Posted 9/3/13 12:55 PM |
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It went well! He didn't like when I left the room and got really upset - but I can tell he is listening more! He doesn't like the punishment so he is trying to avoid it! I'd say it's working! Thank you 
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| Posted 9/3/13 4:09 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Punishment advice
you are doing the right thing. My daughter loses her lullabies or books if she doesn't behave. She literally will scream herself to sleep sometimes.
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| Posted 9/5/13 8:45 AM |
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