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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: Can I get away with this?

I work with a woman who is in her 60s and brings a 1/2 birthday cake for herself every year. She said, and I agree, that everyday you live is to be celebrated- so I say go for it!

Posted 6/6/13 1:56 PM
 
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gina409
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Re: Can I get away with this?

I sy if u want a big party or dinner just give notice

Organize a dinner and let ur friends know u r ll going out like a week after ur birthday

Gives them time to save and then u can get the celebration u want

My mom is jan 2nd and my sis is Jan 3rd and they lays he parties! Just go for it

Posted 6/6/13 2:00 PM
 

summerBaby10
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by ModDot

I think you should just throw a kick ass New Year Eve/Birthday party combo instead



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Posted 6/6/13 2:03 PM
 

nferrandi
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by EatingMyVeggies

Posted by KristenRSF


Sometimes from your posts, I want to adopt you as a friend, sister in law, and wife. You sound like you're a really good role in all of those things and it sounds like the people in your life don't appreciate them or something and I'm sorry if you always feel shafted.




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Posted 6/6/13 2:07 PM
 

Janice
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Can I get away with this?

People need to ease up.
When I read OP I thpught good for her.
I would never think a half bday party was weird. In the name of fun and a good time I could care less what the hostess calls it.
I am all for a mother claiming a day to celebrate herself.
If ypu come back amd complain abput lack of gifts, then that is weird.

Posted 6/6/13 3:00 PM
 

lipglossjunky73
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Re: Can I get away with this?

The only way you can't get away with this is by posting it on LIF and inviting everyone to chime in with their own opinions.

In real life.... YOUR life.... You can get away with whatever you feel will make yourself happy, and whatever you feel your friends will enjoy doing with you to celebrate your birthday, as you see fit.

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Message edited 6/6/2013 10:26:30 PM.

Posted 6/6/13 10:26 PM
 

MsSissy
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by Janice
I would never think a half bday party was weird. In the name of fun and a good time I could care less what the hostess calls it.
I am all for a mother claiming a day to celebrate herself.



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ETS: as you can see by some of these respones, People are going to talk regardless of what you do. So let them talk. And do what you want. And what makes you happy. If they think its silly and don't want to celebrate, screw them and go enjoy yourself.

Message edited 6/7/2013 10:18:11 AM.

Posted 6/6/13 10:28 PM
 

meloyellow
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by EatingMyVeggies


It almost sounds like your friends/family may be a little too uninvolved with your birthday for your liking (for whatever reason - broke , tired from holidays , maybe even a little bit uncaring) but it sounds like you're trying to force them to care. I'm sorry they don't step up and host something for you.. That part sucks .. But I would leave it be.

Sometimes from your posts, I want to adopt you as a friend, sister in law, and wife. You sound like you're a really good role in all of those things and it sounds like the people in your life don't appreciate them or something and I'm sorry if you always feel shafted.

Can you express to your friends that this year they do something in January? A big dinner like you guys do for everyone else? Maybe the end of January?



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For my 30th I told my DH IN ADVANCE that I REALLY REALLY did not want to be home doing nothing for my 30th. He never makes a big deal for ANY holiday...no gifts, I'm lucky if i get a card, but I ALWAYS try to make everything special...even when times are tough. Growing up birthdays were always special and I too think that every day, year you are alive is something to celebrate. At 50 my mom still has a party every year...nothing crazy...but she picks a theme and decorates and invites all her friends for drinks and maybe a BBQ. I don't expect much bc we don't have much but I know how it feels to put effort in for others and not have it put in for yourself time and time again. So, anyway...on my 30th birthday...he had not planned anything. I ended up crying and telling him how hurt I was so he rushed to take me out skating, calling another couple to join us at the last minute.

Same thing for 4th of july...growing up 4th of july is a holiday that stands out for me. My dad always made it special and we were known for having an insan amount of fireworks...so I've made it known that fireworks take me back to that childhood memory and it's very important to me to see fireworks on the 4th of july...for YEARS he would screw it up. NOW he KNOWS just how important it is to me.

It sounds like you are not satisfied with how your birthday is celebrated and I'd try to change that instead of trying to accommodate everyone else.

What you mentioned sounds fun and you should absolutely do it! but if your birthday always sucks and thats why you feel you need a change then you should speak up and let DH know that you would like to do something special and different for your birthday. It doesn't need to cost anyone a ton of money, it could be wine and cheese and friends. Sometimes, it's nice to feel special and appreciated once in a while. you deserve it!

Message edited 6/6/2013 10:51:07 PM.

Posted 6/6/13 10:47 PM
 

Little-J-Mommy
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Can I get away with this?

I think you should do what makes you happy. I don't get why your friends and family can't go out for dinner and drinks for your birthday like they do for everyone else. Who cares that its cold or just after NYE? It's dinner not a weekend in Tahoe. I think they've all accepted your role as doormat in the family, based on how you've said they've all treated you at one time or another (doormat is my word, not yours). I think it's time you stand up for yourself and un-accept that role. Have your DH get involved in the planning. Do it a week after your birthday if it's too close to NYE. But you should be celebrated and not have to make up a silly half birthday thing in the hopes that people will come kwim. Do the event anyway as a fun gathering, but don't accept your birthday blow off every year as acceptable. jmo

Posted 6/6/13 11:11 PM
 

Shelleebean
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Re: Can I get away with this?

I say yes to half birthday, especially if you have a big group of friends who typically would go out for your birthday if it wasn't for the whole right after the holidays thing. Only you know your friends and how they'd react to it. My friends would just think I'm corny but go along with it bc that's me and they know I enjoy celebrating. My birthday's December 29th, so I try to do something on a arbitrarily chosen day in January or February.

Posted 6/6/13 11:42 PM
 

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Re: Can I get away with this?

I dont mean this in a harsh way but I think its a bit much since I dont generally think adults should make a big deal of their birthday. And to do a half birthday seems like a big deal to me as an adult.

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Posted 6/6/13 11:56 PM
 

Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by lipglossjunky73

The only way you can't get away with this is by posting it on LIF and inviting everyone to chime in with their own opinions.

In real life.... YOUR life.... You can get away with whatever you feel will make yourself happy, and whatever you feel your friends will enjoy doing with you to celebrate your birthday, as you see fit.

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Do whatever makes you happy. You know your group of friends, we don't. The trip sounds like a lot of fun!

Posted 6/7/13 1:36 AM
 

MorningCuppaCoffee
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Re: Can I get away with this?

I think you should do the trip to hang out and have fun with your friends.


For your b-day, I agree with what the other ladies have pointed out already about your family/friends not being the best with these types of things.

You could always plan something in mid-January though, although I like the NYE party idea as well.

DS birthday is on 12/30 and I usually have his kid birthday a few weeks later, because of the holidays.

Posted 6/7/13 5:35 AM
 

jellybelly79
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Can I get away with this?

NYE Birthday bash AND go to Hunter with friends and just have fun! Birthdays are fun at any age and if you want to have a half bday party who cares go for it.

Posted 6/7/13 8:14 AM
 

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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by lipglossjunky73

The only way you can't get away with this is by posting it on LIF and inviting everyone to chime in with their own opinions.

In real life.... YOUR life.... You can get away with whatever you feel will make yourself happy, and whatever you feel your friends will enjoy doing with you to celebrate your birthday, as you see fit.

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Posted 6/7/13 9:57 AM
 

JME78
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Do what will make you happy.

I think it sounds like a great time, and if my friend organized this I would laugh and go and have a blast.

People take things too seriously. Its not like you are demanding people buy you tons of gifts.

Posted 6/7/13 9:58 AM
 

DRMom
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by Pray4Baby2010

I work with a woman who is in her 60s and brings a 1/2 birthday cake for herself every year. She said, and I agree, that everyday you live is to be celebrated- so I say go for it!



Seriously. Tough crowd!

Posted 6/7/13 10:11 AM
 

Kathy042806
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by lipglossjunky73

The only way you can't get away with this is by posting it on LIF and inviting everyone to chime in with their own opinions.

In real life.... YOUR life.... You can get away with whatever you feel will make yourself happy, and whatever you feel your friends will enjoy doing with you to celebrate your birthday, as you see fit.

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Posted 6/7/13 10:25 AM
 

ElizaRags35
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by lipglossjunky73

The only way you can't get away with this is by posting it on LIF and inviting everyone to chime in with their own opinions.

In real life.... YOUR life.... You can get away with whatever you feel will make yourself happy, and whatever you feel your friends will enjoy doing with you to celebrate your birthday, as you see fit.

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Posted 6/7/13 10:27 AM
 

NervousNell
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Re: Can I get away with this?

I don't think it's a bad idea at all- I just wouldn't call it a 1/2 birthday.

I'd say something like- "since we never really get to celebrate or do anything fun on my birthday due to it falling so close to New Year's, holidays, etc., I'd like to organize something fun for this date"

No need to link it to the 1/2 birthday IMO- just mention you'd like to do something fun

Posted 6/7/13 10:34 AM
 

MrsDiamondgrlie
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by ModDot

I think you should just throw a kick ass New Year Eve/Birthday party combo instead



That is a GREAT idea! I would still do the Hunter mountain thing too though, it sounds fun. I also want to add that YOU know your friends, we don't. Do you think they would think celebrating a 1/2 birthday would be cute or not?

Posted 6/7/13 10:44 AM
 

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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by lipglossjunky73

The only way you can't get away with this is by posting it on LIF and inviting everyone to chime in with their own opinions.

In real life.... YOUR life.... You can get away with whatever you feel will make yourself happy, and whatever you feel your friends will enjoy doing with you to celebrate your birthday, as you see fit.

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Love this!!

Posted 6/7/13 10:44 AM
 

buttercup
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Re: Can I get away with this?

Posted by meloyellow

Posted by EatingMyVeggies


It almost sounds like your friends/family may be a little too uninvolved with your birthday for your liking (for whatever reason - broke , tired from holidays , maybe even a little bit uncaring) but it sounds like you're trying to force them to care. I'm sorry they don't step up and host something for you.. That part sucks .. But I would leave it be.

Sometimes from your posts, I want to adopt you as a friend, sister in law, and wife. You sound like you're a really good role in all of those things and it sounds like the people in your life don't appreciate them or something and I'm sorry if you always feel shafted.

Can you express to your friends that this year they do something in January? A big dinner like you guys do for everyone else? Maybe the end of January?



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For my 30th I told my DH IN ADVANCE that I REALLY REALLY did not want to be home doing nothing for my 30th. He never makes a big deal for ANY holiday...no gifts, I'm lucky if i get a card, but I ALWAYS try to make everything special...even when times are tough. Growing up birthdays were always special and I too think that every day, year you are alive is something to celebrate. At 50 my mom still has a party every year...nothing crazy...but she picks a theme and decorates and invites all her friends for drinks and maybe a BBQ. I don't expect much bc we don't have much but I know how it feels to put effort in for others and not have it put in for yourself time and time again. So, anyway...on my 30th birthday...he had not planned anything. I ended up crying and telling him how hurt I was so he rushed to take me out skating, calling another couple to join us at the last minute.

Same thing for 4th of july...growing up 4th of july is a holiday that stands out for me. My dad always made it special and we were known for having an insan amount of fireworks...so I've made it known that fireworks take me back to that childhood memory and it's very important to me to see fireworks on the 4th of july...for YEARS he would screw it up. NOW he KNOWS just how important it is to me.

It sounds like you are not satisfied with how your birthday is celebrated and I'd try to change that instead of trying to accommodate everyone else.

What you mentioned sounds fun and you should absolutely do it! but if your birthday always sucks and thats why you feel you need a change then you should speak up and let DH know that you would like to do something special and different for your birthday. It doesn't need to cost anyone a ton of money, it could be wine and cheese and friends. Sometimes, it's nice to feel special and appreciated once in a while. you deserve it!



And agree with this as well.. DH is not into big celebrations at all.. he grew up like that. For his 30th birthday, we flew to Aruba and had a blast. Mine (albeit I was pregnant) was nothing big at all. Was I disappointed.. o yes.. and I still am but I'm guilty because I always play it down and hope that he plans it for me. I should have known better.. so take charge go for it!

Posted 6/7/13 10:47 AM
 

mbg1007
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Re: Can I get away with this?

I didnt realize there was an age when it was inappropriate to want to celebrate your birthday... I hope I never get that old.
I think its a cute idea and if youre friends are down with it, I say go for it

Posted 6/7/13 11:56 AM
 

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Re: Can I get away with this?

Do what you want to do to celebrate. It sounds like fun. I once asked the ladies on LIF about throwing my Mom an empty nest shower and the idea was generally panned (to put it nicely). I wound up doing it anyway and it was a huge success. By all means, celebrate - whatever the reason.

Posted 6/7/13 12:26 PM
 
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