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MST9106
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
You need to kick him in his shin...HARD. I'm sorry if I'm out of line here but from your previous posts he sounds like a miserable douche. Between him being worried about his ear drums from the baby shrieking and you not exercising he seems like he has deeper issues and its not you or your daughter. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. 
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by NervousNell
If DH ever made a comment about my body like that- ESPECIALLY considering your body changed due to the fact that you were busy creating HIS child inside of you and now you are running ragged trying to care for that child, and him, and the house- I would probably never speak to him again.
that is ballsy.
SOOO ballsy
He would never though.
I can't believe your DH would be that superficial
I agree. Dh would never speak to me like that and if he did, he'd be missing teeth. He has no right speaking to you that way.
My dh is the complete opposite- he constantly tells me that I'm his inspiration! That I motivate him! That my eating right and exercising while being a ftwm, make him want to get back on track. He should be giving you credit and praise for doing so much, not insulting you. I know my dh always tries to make me feel good about myself; your dh should be bringing you up, not bringing you down. Hugs for you.
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| Posted 2/26/13 2:09 PM |
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KatieP
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
agreed. i'm in the same boat as you, but DH would never talk to me that way. I would sit him down and let him know how important it is for your relationship that he does not speak to you that way
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| Posted 2/26/13 2:12 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
If my DH ever said or did those things I would assume he had recently developed a brain tumor, because that would be the only logical explanation.
Please talk to him about how he is making you feel. Have an honest and open discussion about your new role in life as a mom and the changes that it brings. Discuss what you each expect of each other. IMO if he's going to treat you like a single mother then what use is he?
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| Posted 2/26/13 2:18 PM |
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babydreaming
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
I still have weight to lose (almost 25) until I get to where I want to be....I have lost 15 lbs. DH said that I didn't have to lose a pound.
Your DH needs to realize you are his partner and not his maid, servant, cook.
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| Posted 2/26/13 2:24 PM |
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saraH
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
He can be, but not in the way you described. He'd get his ass kicked if he spoke to me that way.
Sorry he is treating you that way. 
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| Posted 2/26/13 2:27 PM |
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gabbie83
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by nycgirl
Seriously?
You have 2 options:
1. Leave your baby with him to exercise once a day for an hour. You can also stop by the pedicure place. Get creative. It will last 2 sessions... Maybe 3. Make sure the kid is hungry when you leave.
2. Hit him where it hurts. Did he gain any weight? Getting some grey hairs? Losing some sexual stamina? Play ugly and then tell him that no one is perfect.
i agree !!!!!!!!!!!!
I am 9 month PP (second baby) i still have about 10lbs to loose, (i gained 55) and yesterday i was sittting and my muffin top was coming out. he grabbed it and made a comment. I grabbed his muffin top and said look at yours and you didnt pop out a kid.
i tell him better get used to this bc i honestly am not going to go crazY! he cant stay home with 2 of them without calling me 100 times when i go get a mani which is 30 min let alone a good ncie work out that would last 1.5hr.
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| Posted 2/26/13 2:28 PM |
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Annie91606
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
That is horrible.
This sounds like it is about him wanting to be in control of you, the one in charge of your relationship.
He picks you apart to cut you down, no matter what it is. My friend is married to someone like this. They have no kids, but he still makes comments about her weight, what she eats, spending money, how the house is kept.
I bet you could be in perfect shape, your house could be immaculate, he would still criticize.
I would get counseling for yourself, and for him if he would agree to it
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| Posted 2/26/13 2:54 PM |
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julz33
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
ditto - he is not being very nice to you. he may not even realize it though. you should tell him you are hurt by his comments.
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| Posted 2/26/13 3:07 PM |
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curiousO
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
i wanted to say i am sorry for you my DH is also obsessed with weight ( mine specifically) and i know how hard it is.
to those who said they would tell their DH to f off or kick his ass out, i think it is MUCH easier said then done, esp with a small child.
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| Posted 2/26/13 3:36 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by curiousO
to those who said they would tell their DH to f off or kick his ass out, i think it is MUCH easier said then done, esp with a small child.
Of course it is! But at the same time, they need to understand that talking to you and treating you that way is unacceptable!
ESPECIALLY with a small child. I wouldn't want my DD to grow up thinking that kind of behavior is ok ever.
While kicking him out of course would be a last resort, this needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP- either through communication, counseling, etc
Message edited 2/26/2013 3:47:59 PM.
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neener1211
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
He wouldn't dare treat or speak to me that way.
I'm appalled.
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| Posted 2/26/13 3:51 PM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by curiousO
to those who said they would tell their DH to f off or kick his ass out, i think it is MUCH easier said then done, esp with a small child.
Of course it is! But at the same time, they need to understand that talking to you and treating you that way is unacceptable!
ESPECIALLY with a small child. I wouldn't want my DD to grow up thinking that kind of behavior is ok ever.
While kicking him out of course would be a last resort, this needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP- either through communication, counseling, etc
My thought exactly.
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| Posted 2/26/13 4:08 PM |
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BellaRock
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by allIwant
Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
I agree
I agree as well. I am sorry he is speaking to you in such a way.
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| Posted 2/26/13 4:09 PM |
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ItsaJoya19
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
DH gained as much as I did with #1 but didn't lose any of it like I did so he would have no ground to stand on with comments like that.
I'd remind him how much it hurts you when he talks to you like that and maybe suggest some counseling. If he won't go, maybe go for yourself and let him watch the baby.
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by curiousO
to those who said they would tell their DH to f off or kick his ass out, i think it is MUCH easier said then done, esp with a small child.
Of course it is! But at the same time, they need to understand that talking to you and treating you that way is unacceptable!
ESPECIALLY with a small child. I wouldn't want my DD to grow up thinking that kind of behavior is ok ever.
While kicking him out of course would be a last resort, this needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP- either through communication, counseling, etc
this exactly!!!!!! I just wouldn't put up with it especially with a baby in the house. I would never allow my dh to talk to me like that period.
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| Posted 2/26/13 5:56 PM |
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hopingforbaby
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by curiousO
to those who said they would tell their DH to f off or kick his ass out, i think it is MUCH easier said then done, esp with a small child.
Of course it is! But at the same time, they need to understand that talking to you and treating you that way is unacceptable!
ESPECIALLY with a small child. I wouldn't want my DD to grow up thinking that kind of behavior is ok ever.
While kicking him out of course would be a last resort, this needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP- either through communication, counseling, etc
this exactly!!!!!! I just wouldn't put up with it especially with a baby in the house. I would never allow my dh to talk to me like that period.
Exactly. If not for myself, a big time change would need to be made for my son's benefit. I would never want him to grow up thinking it's ok for him to treat his wife this way.
OP, I am so sorry you are going through this. You do NOT deserve it.
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Jbon630
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
This definitely sounds like a control issue. I'm sorry you're dealing with it, if my DH said anything like that to me I would f***ing send him to the hospital.
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| Posted 2/26/13 6:45 PM |
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SandL
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
DH would never dream of talking to me that way. It's extremely disrespectful. If he constantly talked to me in that manner, I would find no issue in leaving.
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| Posted 2/26/13 7:19 PM |
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MCD0524
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by curiousO
to those who said they would tell their DH to f off or kick his ass out, i think it is MUCH easier said then done, esp with a small child.
Of course it is! But at the same time, they need to understand that talking to you and treating you that way is unacceptable!
ESPECIALLY with a small child. I wouldn't want my DD to grow up thinking that kind of behavior is ok ever.
While kicking him out of course would be a last resort, this needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP- either through communication, counseling, etc
This is very true. I grew up with a Father who drank a lot and made a ton of comments about my Mother's weight in front of me. He is sober now but it doesn't change the fact that I am obsessed with my weight. My DH could care less how much I weigh yet I am always worried he would make a comment. My Mother spends her life trying to be thin now even my Father is long over his issues...It is a very sad situation to grow up around.
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bettybcafe
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by MeowMeow2
You poor thing!
No offense, but he's acting like a complete d0uche!! He shouldn't be badgering you like that whatsoever. I'd tell him to stfu, honestly.
He should get off his a$$ and help you out more. He's not a child, he can help with the chores around the house. I'd seriously sit down and try to end this horrible behavior of his.
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| Posted 2/26/13 9:22 PM |
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cloddy
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Did he want to have a child?
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| Posted 2/27/13 2:28 PM |
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JenandMikey
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by headoverheels
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
Agreed
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| Posted 2/27/13 2:37 PM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
My ex husband did...and now he's my ex husband. He should NEVER talk to you like that.
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| Posted 2/27/13 2:42 PM |
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babyfever08
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
First, off I am sorry you are going through this. It's not easy being a mom, and then to have someone speak to you that way makes it harder.
I would have a serious sit down with him.
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