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Kitten1929
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by Jugglemom
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Posted by gina409
I actually find it really rude,and its more the comeback...if she would have said sorry, etc I didn't know it was mandatory or even hey give a old lady a break
How would she feel if someone said that to her pregnant daughter
Everyone finds it rude when a person does not give a pregnant lady a seat on the train?
The difference would be those parking spots should sit empty until a pregnant woman might need it? And I think pregnant women can still walk..it's not a disability. I think it is a courtesy to offer a pregnant woman a seat on a train..but if I were pregnant, and an older person offered me their seat, I would never take it.
You are right, pregnancy is not a disability, however, why can't the able bodied not pregnant person who also does not have a disability walk the extra yards instead of taking a spot that clearly was not meant for them. We complain about the sense of entitlement that most teenagers have nowadays yet most adults have the same sense of entitlement and feel that all rules of courtesy can be overlooked if it inconveniences them.
While pregnancy is not a disability there are many pregnancy related complications that make walking long distances an unwise or uncomfortable idea. I for one, had preeclampsia with my first pregnancy and then preterm labor with my second. Both times I was on bed rest and only went out on days I had doctors appointments. On those days I would sometimes swing by BRU as I prepared for the baby and those spots were a godsend.
I think that people need to find fault in anything and everything. It's a such teensy tiny thing in the grand scheme of things, I don't understand why anyone would expend the energy to turn expectant mother parking into a big deal. Then entitlement that you speak of with teens, where do you think they learn it?
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
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know towards the end of my pregnancy I was DONE. Too hard to walk, get out of breath easily. It was nice to have those spots.
I felt the same way.
I feel the same way. I cherished those spots at the end of my last pregnancy and I am 6 months pregnant and already having trouble walking around. It is a nice courtesy for pregnant women carrying large. If other pregnant women aren't having those issues, they won't park there but for someone not even pregnant to park there is just plain rude.
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| Posted 2/13/13 5:45 PM |
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
I loved the infant parking. That was a lifesaver! I never used the expectant parking!
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Jenn627
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by Jugglemom
We complain about the sense of entitlement that most teenagers have nowadays yet most adults have the same sense of entitlement and feel that all rules of courtesy can be overlooked if it inconveniences them.
Exactly.
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| Posted 2/13/13 5:52 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by twicethefun
Honestly...I think your friend was just as ballsy as the older lady.
Maybe...I prob wouldn't have said a thing if I saw an older lady take the spot, just shook my head and kept driving. But she also said it was the second time she's seen someone take an expectant spot that shouldn't have (other time was a man!). She was fed up and hormonal. I don't think she was nasty to the lady (from what i understand) just pointed out the obvious.
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So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Omg I think that's hilarious, no offense
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ANR1211
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So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
I think it's common courtesy to not park there. DH hates the spots -- I won't let him park in them. When I was pregnant, he was so excited to park in the expectant mother parking. We only parked there a few times though.
While it's not the law, it's nice to follow the rules. I am no longer pregnant, but when I was past my due date and at the mall trying to help labor along, I saw two teenage boys get into a car in an expectant mother parking spot. I didn't say anything (especially because I was at the mall specifically to walk...), but it goes back to the teenagers and their sense of entitlement.
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
In truth the more you walk the easier the delivery, so unless you are ill you should not take advantage of the closer parking.
And you never forget that uncomfortable feeling of being 9 months pregnant and wishing it were over.
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KarenK122
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So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
I think the woman was definitely rude. Personally I do not agree with those spots as it opens a can of worms to who should get preferential spots. But I would not purposely park in one if I saw it.
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| Posted 2/13/13 6:43 PM |
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by EatingMyVeggies
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Posted by gina409
I actually find it really rude,and its more the comeback...if she would have said sorry, etc I didn't know it was mandatory or even hey give a old lady a break
How would she feel if someone said that to her pregnant daughter
Everyone finds it rude when a person does not give a pregnant lady a seat on the train?
ITA
However, I might also be extra sensitive to things like this because of some family issues going on in my life right now.
I am dealing with someone who is "of age" and thinks that as a result they can say whatever they want and it's hurting a lot of people.
So you know what? I DON'T think age gives people a pass. I think, sometimes, the further people get from the responsibility filled years of child rearing and career building the more rose colored their glasses become.
I think the woman was rude. She was described as in her 60s so she's able bodied according to age. If she is handicapped and needs the spot well then she can get the parking pass.
What you wrote about the elderly pass just struck a chord in me.
Very true, when I think about it (rose colored glasses)
I know one retiree who can't even relate to how hard it is being a FtWM with young kids. I think it's because, like you said, they are so far removed from those years.
In short; Good point.
I think those expectant parking are fairly new ...when this women was pregnant how many years ago it didn't exists and she probably feels its bogus. I know a lot of my "normal pregnancy complaints" my elderly loved ones couldn't relate too for a variety of reasons.
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by Teachergal
Posted by JDubs
Posted by MaZz
know towards the end of my pregnancy I was DONE. Too hard to walk, get out of breath easily. It was nice to have those spots.
I felt the same way.
I feel the same way. I cherished those spots at the end of my last pregnancy and I am 6 months pregnant and already having trouble walking around. It is a nice courtesy for pregnant women carrying large. If other pregnant women aren't having those issues, they won't park there but for someone not even pregnant to park there is just plain rude.
I remember being at the mall during my last month- and becoming so exhausted suddenly. I didn't use those spots often but I was really glad to have them!
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KLSbear
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
There are some days when I really want to see the sign that says "Reserved for those who've had a really crappy day, have a migraine that just won't end, are dead tired and just plain cranky and need just ONE THING to go right today"
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by Jenn627
Posted by Jugglemom
We complain about the sense of entitlement that most teenagers have nowadays yet most adults have the same sense of entitlement and feel that all rules of courtesy can be overlooked if it inconveniences them.
Exactly.
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ALD618
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Since when is "60's" considered "old?" My mom would faint if she read this.
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lilqtny
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So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Pregnancy is a stage of life, not a disability.
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ElizaRags35
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by lilqtny
Pregnancy is a stage of life, not a disability.
I don't agree with this. I don't think it's a disability but I wouldn't call it a stage of life. It's not birth, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, or anything like that. Not everyone goes through it. JMO.
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by lilqtny
Pregnancy is a stage of life, not a disability.
I agree with you. I hesitate to comment because I'll probably get blasted but pregnant women stop complaining. My DH has been in a wheelchair fr 17 years and would give anything to walk across a parking lot. I know of many kids with SMA or other conditions who never know the feeling of walking be thankful for what you have because I'm sure many people would trade places with you in an instance.
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So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Did this happen at a BBB or BRU? If so then she was even more out of line.
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MAC222
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
I think was just ONE person who admitted they have parked there just to be closer to the store. Most said they would never park there pregnant or not.
But the whole thing is, regardless of whether you think she was an old witch..it is pretty funny what she said. Remove yourself from pregnancy, whatever else. She was pretty quick witted!
Those that used the spots when they were with someone else in the car..that clearly is going against the purpose of the spot as well, isn't it? I believe they are meant for pregnant drivers who have no other choice but to walk. If someone else drove you, wouldn't they drop you off at the door, and then go find a spot...thereby freeing that spot up to a pregnant woman driving alone? Also, I am sorry I never knew anyone on Bedrest that was cleared to go out shopping.
Also..if it were pouring rain, would you rather the pregnant woman walking alone into the store have a spot up front, or the woman with the newborn, who has to get the baby into the store?
My point is, you can find ways to criticize anyone. She was wrong, a lot of people are..she clearly wasn't pregnant..and ignored a sign placed out of courtesy..but at least she gave us a laugh!
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MAC222
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Wouldn't it have been funnier if she said she was an expectant mother?
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by ALD618
Since when is "60's" considered "old?" My mom would faint if she read this.
 I take it as "older" meaning "older than me"
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by lilqtny
Pregnancy is a stage of life, not a disability.
I don't agree with this. I don't think it's a disability but I wouldn't call it a stage of life. It's not birth, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, or anything like that. Not everyone goes through it. JMO.
Maybe a chosen stage of life or life experience. Certainly not a disability and IMHO not deserving of special rules. If you're having a difficult pregnancy your doctor can give you a temporary handicap sticker if he/she feels it is necessary.
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ElizaRags35
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by lilqtny
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by lilqtny
Pregnancy is a stage of life, not a disability.
I don't agree with this. I don't think it's a disability but I wouldn't call it a stage of life. It's not birth, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, or anything like that. Not everyone goes through it. JMO.
Maybe a chosen stage of life or life experience. Certainly not a disability and IMHO not deserving of special rules. If you're having a difficult pregnancy your doctor can give you a temporary handicap sticker if he/she feels it is necessary.
But it's not necessarily a rule, it's a courtesy. You're not going to get a ticket. It's just common decency not to park there if you're not pregnant IMO.
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Teachergal
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
Posted by lilqtny
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Posted by lilqtny
Pregnancy is a stage of life, not a disability.
I don't agree with this. I don't think it's a disability but I wouldn't call it a stage of life. It's not birth, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, or anything like that. Not everyone goes through it. JMO.
Maybe a chosen stage of life or life experience. Certainly not a disability and IMHO not deserving of special rules. If you're having a difficult pregnancy your doctor can give you a temporary handicap sticker if he/she feels it is necessary.
It's a courtesy! When you are huge, waddling down the parking lot with swollen ankles and sciatica, it is nice to see a sign saying that you can park a little bit closer so that when you come back out to your car pushing a heavy shopping cart you have a slightly shorter walk.
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Re: So a woman in her 60's parks in an expectant mother spot..
If we are going to argue about this courtesy then let's talk about having a bit of respect for those who are older than we are. There are four pages here of people making assumptions that this woman was rude when we have no clue why she parked there. Perhaps she wasn't feeling well or maybe she was achy or something. Perhaps she wasn't just feeling entitled but needed a break for whatever reason because maybe she was just as achy or exhausted as some of the preggos. I think it's rude to point out that she's in the wrong spot because obviously she saw it and made the decision to park there. A woman who is having a difficult pregnancy can get a temporary parking permit for handicapped spots but an older lady who may just not be feeling very well that day can't get a one-day pass. This shouldn't be that big of a deal.
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