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I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

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I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

I walk along holding your 2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship. Suddenly I feel a kick from within, as if to remind me that our time alone is limited. And I wonder: how could I ever love another child as I love you?

Then he is born, and I watch you. I watch the pain you feel at having to share me as you’ve never shared me before.

I hear you telling me in your own way, “Please love only me”. And I hear myself telling you in mine, “I can’t”, knowing, in fact, that I never can again.

You cry. I cry with you. I almost see our new baby as an intruder on the precious relationship we once shared. A relationship we can never quite have again.

But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, and feeling almost guilty. I’m afraid to let you see me enjoying him, as though I am betraying you.

But then I notice your resentment change, first to curiosity, then to protectiveness, finally to genuine affection.

More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine. The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.

But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two. There are new times – only now, we are three. I watch the love between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other.

I watch how he adores you – as I have for so long. I see how excited you are by each of his new accomplishments. And I begin to realize that I haven’t taken something from you, I’ve given something to you. I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you.

I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong. And my question is finally answered, to my amazement. Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you – only differently.

And although I realize that you may have to share my time, I now know you’ll never share my love. There’s enough of that for both of you – you each have your own supply.

I love you – both. And I thank you both for blessing my life.

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Posted 3/24/12 2:52 PM
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Loving every minute

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Re: I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

Aww this made me cry.

Posted 3/24/12 6:13 PM

Mommy to 2 sweet girls!

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Re: I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

I'm in tears too. I cry everyday thinking about how my little girls life is about to change forever. I just pray I can be a great mother to both my girls and neither of them feel left out.

Posted 3/24/12 8:02 PM

My loves!

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Re: I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

This always gets me! First few times I read it some months ago I cried with guilt. Now, I cry with excitement and happiness. My little girl is growing into such a sweet, sensitive person and I really can't wait to make her a big sister!

Posted 3/24/12 9:04 PM

2 girls <3

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Re: I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

Aww I am crying
This kinda depressed me ;( and I haven't been feeling guilt about this only excitement

Posted 3/25/12 12:52 AM

LIF Infant

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Re: I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

I think I read this or something similar when I had #2.

I get guilt pangs about #3, because #2 just has no idea.

That being said, DC1 and DC2 are best friends. I do not for a second feel bad that they have each other. And I love them BOTH the same!

A sibling is a true GIFT!!!

Posted 3/25/12 5:52 PM

LIF Adolescent

Member since 7/07

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Re: I know its been posted before but for those having #2 "Loving Two"

Non-preggo crashing...sorry. This is beautiful! I hate to say it but I definitely have found myself worrying if I have another if I could ever love them as much as DD and also have felt guilty about splitting my time between 2 children. But this is such a nice way to put things into perspective.

Posted 3/25/12 11:00 PM

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