i just want to help all CIO moms....

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i just want to help all CIO moms....

I swear i am the CIO advocate...a couple of women on here have called me to find out how i did it bc i swear by this method...

okay, heres the deal....some moms just let them cry and dont go in to them at all....some go in every 10 minutes....

heres what worked for me 2 times (both DDs...and took all advice from my sister- who it work for 7 times, and dr ferber...)

make sure u have your watch with you, and be prepared- that first nite usually isnt too much fun, and ull probly sleep a little less as well......

this is the progressive waiting approach...

so, nite one:
progression is 3 minutes, 5, 7, 10, 10, 10, 10....

nite 2:
5 minutes, 7, 10, 13, 13, 13, 13....

nite 3:
7 minutes, 10, 13, 15, 15, 15....

nite 4 (usually not needed)
10, 13, 15, 17, 17, 17....

progress as such if needed for more than 4 nites...

these times simply mean this:

when DD/DS starts to cry, look at your watch, after the 3 minute mark, go in, pat rub back tell them in a STERN voice "mommy's here, i love you, but its time for nite nite...its nite nite time, ill see you in the morning, mommys here...." do not stay in the room for longer than 1-2 minutes...the point is to reassure them that u havent left nor are abandoning them...and i say STERN voice bc, well, dont use your mommy voice, that soft voice that they love so much...be stern and matter of fact....

the crying will probly intensify as you leave the room, but look at your watch again as u leave, and you wait until they have been crying for 5 minutes before you go in again....repeat at 7 minutes, 10 10 10....etc...

BUT, and this is a HHHHUUUUGGGEEEEE but....

if, at any time, they stop crying or start to whimper, do not go in!! even if you are do to go in, dont- this is a sign they are soothing themselves, which is what you want....and another hug but...say you are on a 10 minute wait, and at 7 minutes they stopped crying, but a minute later, started crying again, this does not mean wait 2 minutes and go in...this means, you RESET the CLOCK!!! make sure they are crying the full amount of time....(might soudn harsh, but nites one with hannah and emerson, you actually find you dont go into their room too much because they are off and on with the crying and never make it to the full time that i was supposed to be waiting....)

and thats that, continue with nite 2, and for me, nite 3 was a breeze....

oh yeah, and put them down awake, but sleepy...if that means you put them down 30 minutes later than the time you would normally, then do that....this method teaches them how to soothe themselves to sleep, instead of using your boob (emerson!!) or being rocked (hannah!!)...etc etc

use this method for naps as well, the only difference for a nap, is if they have been crying for 30 minutes, just take them out- if they fall asleep on the floor of another room or wherever, this is okay, as long as they arent using the bottle or the boob or the rocking to fall asleep....

thats all i got....hope this helps some of you sleepless moms...it sure helped me- i had it BAD!!! emerson, only fell asleep to being nursed- she woke up every 45 minutes for about 5 months...i jupmed the gun, used CIO at 5.5 months bc i just couldnt take it anymore, and now she does great- down around 8, sometimes shell cry around that 11pm (but this is her first arousal after the heavy REM sleep, and i think she just has to adjust to where she is or something, and then goes right back to sleep until about 6 am- in wich case, i go in, nurse her, and lay her back down until about 8am....ill cut out that nursing session around the 10 month mark though....)

Posted 12/20/08 11:55 AM