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Diana1215
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WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long) - Update
I'm driving home with Jack from school and I'm almost onto my block...we live in a no outlet. This jeep pulls out of a driveway and almost hits me - I swerve to get out of the way - and honk.
I notice that he is now coming in my direction (when to get to the main road you have to go the other way) - so I don't stop at my house for fear that this psycho is following me. Sure enough - he was following me - every side road I turned down he was up my azz. I call up my friend - she tells me to give her his license plate number and try to get to the main road. I end up stuck at a light behind a stopped landscaping truck. This crazy old man gets out of the car comes to my car - I was stuck - his car was behind me and the truck in front of me - I had no where to go.
I rolled down my window (only did so bc he had an NYPD hat on with two badges) and he starts yelling at me. I said "You were the one who pulled out without looking" - he then goes on to say that I was going too fast ---- which I know for a fact I wasn't. He then yells at me for being on the phone - I said "I am on the phone because I am being followed and my friend is taking down your information for me! So you follow someone like a maniac claiming I'm going too fast, and you could possibly cause an accident - I'm 9 months pregnant with my son in the car" - we went back and forth a few times but I am still shaken up about this. Crazy old man.
Anyhoo - here is the WWYD part of the question - my DH is flipping the F out about this and wants to go to this guys house. I don't think he should go - I don't want to start any problems. My DH thinks it's unacceptable that this guy thinks he can chase cars around our neighborhood. I don't know what to do - but my DH has a bad temper so I'm a little worried! 
Update:
So I called the police - basically there is nothing they can do since no crime was committed (thank god) and apparently if this happens again I should call them right away.
So, now I know - and now this idiot gets away with chasing people down with no conseqences at all - not even a talk from the police. Oh well. 
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
I wouldn't have my DH go to his house, but since you know where he lives AND his license number, call you call the police and have them pay him a visit?
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| Posted 10/1/09 12:54 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Unacceptable that this crazy guy would follow you!!!!! But I completely understand what you mean when you say you dont want to start anything b/c this nut is from your neighborhood. Ugghhh I wish I knew the right thing to tell you to do. Definately a tough situation to be in. As torn as I am....part of me thinks maybe you should take this to the cops.... give them his license plate number. He put your life in danger by following like a maniac.
Sorry this happened 
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| Posted 10/1/09 12:57 PM |
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by neener1211
I wouldn't have my DH go to his house, but since you know where he lives AND his license number, call you call the police and have them pay him a visit?
What she said. So sorry this happened to you
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| Posted 10/1/09 1:00 PM |
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
your DH should definitely NOT go to his house. Let the police handle this
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| Posted 10/1/09 1:14 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by Mikismom
your DH should definitely NOT go to his house. Let the police handle this
I think I've talked him out of going there....he just needed some time to cool down.
So friggin scary - I kept picturing getting into an accident while trying to get away from this nutcase 
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| Posted 10/1/09 1:29 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Was he actually a cop? just wearing a hat doesn't meant anything... If he was, i would've gotten his badge number and reported him.
However, definitely do not have your DH go over there - if he's heated, it could escalate into a situation you don't need.
If he's that upset over it, file a report with the police that this man followed you and approached your car then leave it at that. If he really is doing this to other people (not sure why he would unless he lies in wait for people to pass by) then they'll have a record of it
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| Posted 10/1/09 1:33 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by Otherme
Was he actually a cop? just wearing a hat doesn't meant anything... If he was, i would've gotten his badge number and reported him.
However, definitely do not have your DH go over there - if he's heated, it could escalate into a situation you don't need.
If he's that upset over it, file a report with the police that this man followed you and approached your car then leave it at that. If he really is doing this to other people (not sure why he would unless he lies in wait for people to pass by) then they'll have a record of it
He was a retired cop he said (the only reason I rolled down the window was bc of the hat with the badges - and there were tons of landscapers around looking at us)
The thing that gets me fired up is that he claims I was going too fast - yet he was the one who didn't see me until he almost hit me and I started honking!!! It makes ZERO sense!
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
People like that scare the heck out of me. You are brave, I would not have even rolled my window down. You are also smart for not stopping at your house! I would call it in to the police and leave it at that.
I have had 2 issues in the last month with people riding up my butt b/c they did not like that I was driving 35 on a 30 mph road. In addition to the fact that it was 3:00 and there were a ton of school buses all over. It is so scary, you just never know what people are going to do
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by mtnmama
People like that scare the heck out of me. You are brave, I would not have even rolled my window down. You are also smart for not stopping at your house! I would call it in to the police and leave it at that.
I have had 2 issues in the last month with people riding up my butt b/c they did not like that I was driving 35 on a 30 mph road. In addition to the fact that it was 3:00 and there were a ton of school buses all over. It is so scary, you just never know what people are going to do
Believe me, I am the biggest wimp and would normally never open the window - EVER - but I was stuck behind that truck - and he had me blocked in. The only way out would have been to run him over.
I was really playing on the pregnancy card and hoping that once he saw that he would back off. I was hysterical crying too bc my son was in the car. People are really so nuts out there - it's very scary!
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| Posted 10/1/09 1:47 PM |
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Whether or not you were going too fast or not isn't the issue, following someone, getting out of your car & "threatening" them is road rage.
I would call the police & file a report. If he's a retired cop then he needs to get over the fact that he's not in charge of writing tickets. The fact that he had his NYPD hat on WITH badges, could possibly qualify him for impersonating a cop.
Glad you talked DH out of going down there.
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Your DH should NOT go to his house. What if he has a gun/shotgun?
Call the cops and make a report. That's the right way to handle this.
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by nrthshgrl
Whether or not you were going too fast or not isn't the issue, following someone, getting out of your car & "threatening" them is road rage.
I would call the police & file a report. If he's a retired cop then he needs to get over the fact that he's not in charge of writing tickets. The fact that he had his NYPD hat on WITH badges, could possibly qualify him for impersonating a cop.
Glad you talked DH out of going down there.
I agree-I would file a report.
Sorry you had to go through that
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kgirl
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
WOW!! that's harassment - he was in the wrong and tried to flip it on you - I would call the cops. Try not to think about it and stress which unfortunately is easier said than done......
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
It is unacceptable what that guy did and I can see why James would want to go to his house. Crap, I am heated for you right now, I want to go to the guys house
Sorry you went through this! Do you pass that house alot? Does that guy live at the house or was he visiting?
I would call the police and file a report. I would cry and tell them that you are feeling very unsafe and fear that he will come back to your house. Tell them you are due in 2 weeks!
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by neener1211
I wouldn't have my DH go to his house, but since you know where he lives AND his license number, call you call the police and have them pay him a visit?
ITA.
When something like this happens, CALL THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY, not your friend!
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heathergirl
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Wow!
I definitely think the guy was out of line! That was way innapropriate! I would have done exactly what you did.
As far as your DH goes, I know mine would do the same thing. I'd just try to calm him down; him saying/doing anything could cause more trouble and that could escalate. I'd calm him down and leave it be.
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tray831
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
People are seriously insane!
Obviously, this "retiree" has too much time on his hands. Shame on him for doing that.......A$$hole!
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
I wouldn't give DH his address but I do agree with your DH that what he did was unacceptable. Not to mention, him following you and you trying to get away from in your area which the streets are narrow to me and very curvy could have caused another accident in it's self.
If he was an actual retired cop, shame on him for doing that.
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KMCGK
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Harrassment. Go to your precinct and make a police report. Completely unacceptable for anyone to do this, let alone a retired cop. Who's he to tell you how fast you are going or being on the phone. He's not working, ridiculous. The way I see it, always CYA. Glad you didn't go home too.
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by KMCGK
Harrassment. Go to your precinct and make a police report. Completely unacceptable for anyone to do this, let alone a retired cop. Who's he to tell you how fast you are going or being on the phone. He's not working, ridiculous. The way I see it, always CYA. Glad you didn't go home too.
ITA! What an a-hole that guy was. He probably saw that you were a woman and followed you on purpose to scare/bully you.
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Posted by neener1211
I wouldn't have my DH go to his house, but since you know where he lives AND his license number, call you call the police and have them pay him a visit?
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DiamondGirl
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
First that man is a psycho and I am so sorry this happened to you
But under no circumstance do I think your DH should go to his house.
What would he do? Yell at him?
This man has already proved he is a nutjob 
If your DH goes I am sure trouble will insue...give your DH some time to calm down and think rationally.
He has a DC, DW, and a little on on the way he can not but him self in danger
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
I thought I got DH off the idea of going - but he is still crazy over it. All he wants to say is that his life was in that car and who does the guy think he is to chase people around the neighborhood. I don't think this guy is going to give a rats azz. He knew was he was doing. I'd rather give the info to the cops and let them deal with it.
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Re: WWYD - kind of a road rage question (long)
Just go to the police. Don't let DH go over to the house. Let the cops handle everything.
They way you described him, sounds like he may be impersonating a cop!
People are sick and I am so sorry this happened to you!
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