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ElizaRags35
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

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Sorry, I probably should have included what I said -- "It would have been nice if you said excuse me rather than touching my stroller without permission and moving it. My 3 month old daughter is in there. Just ask next time." I honestly didn't think that was anything bitchy or inappropriate. I'm surprised at a lot of the responses on here. Since when is it okay for a complete stranger to move your child without asking?!?!



I think this comes down to the problem with this country. Everyone gets offended by every. little. thing.

You were in her way, you saw her and YOU assumed she was looking for food on a shelf so didn't move your stroller, YOU have no idea if she said excuse me before she moved the stroller, then she moves the stroller a couple feet (not down the aisle) and you turn around and give her an attitude. I would have called you a ******* ***** too.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but the woman wanted to get by and you were taking up the aisle, then gave her shit for it. I guess in the future line your cart & stroller up on the side so you do not run into this again.






Completely agree. Who brings a stroller and a shopping cart ?! This whole story makes no sense at all.




Is this for real??? Before I respond???



Seriously. I've never done it bc I make DH come food shopping with me lol but it's much safer than putting the car seat on the top of the cart. I don't understand the big deal?

Posted 8/20/15 9:54 PM
 
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by KGools

I wore my kids when I went grocery shopping by myself with them. I was just not coordinated enough to do the push and pull. And this scenario wasn't conducive to doing any real grocery shopping.

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All that being said... I don't think I would have reacted at all if someone moved my stroller. It's better than her bumping/crashing into it and chances are, with how chaotic my trips to the grocery store are, I wouldn't hear anyone saying "excuse me". I would appreciate the help because not everyone out there is a bad person.



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I used to push a double stroller, wear my infant and pull the cart Chat Icon I wouldn't have cared if someone moved my stroller up a few inches so they could get something. If they moved them out of the aisle or more than a few feet, I'd see the need to say something

Posted 8/20/15 9:59 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

I am still wondering why it is so bad to move a stroller a few feet out of the way if it was blocking the aisle. It's not like the woman touched the child or pushed it hard so it went flying down the aisle. The stroller is just metal and plastic and the OP was standing right there. Who cares? I am totally ok if someone wants to use both a stroller and a cart but just because someone has a child doesn't mean they can take up as much room as they want in a public place. Would I have tried to say "excuse me" first and hope she moved the stroller herself? Yes of course. But if I was ignored then I wouldn't hesitate to move it myself.

Posted 8/20/15 10:06 PM
 

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Would you have reacted the same as I did?

You overreacted. She moved your stroller, she didn't try to steal your baby.

Posted 8/20/15 10:13 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

One word: Peapod

Posted 8/20/15 10:22 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Maybe she didn't notice there was a child in there? Just a thought.

Regardless, I don't think what she did is a big deal anyway. She did not hurt your child. I probably would have said "Oh, I'm sorry" maybe a touch annoyed that she touched my stuff. But overall, I think you were mostly in the wrong for not being more vigilant if she needed you to move your stroller out of her way. A cart and a stroller takes up a lot of room in a supermarket aisle.

On a side note, I feel your pain while shopping with my own two little ones. It's not easy getting around with them!

Posted 8/20/15 10:23 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by nferrandi

I just came back to this post and read what you actually said to the woman. I think that was totally uncalled for! You can justify it any way you want, but you were rude.
You took up the entire aisle, making it impossible for someone to pass by. You saw someone who was potentially trying to make her way down the aisle. You opted not to move either your stroller or your cart to allow her to pass. She moved your stroller up so she could get by. Then you were nasty to her on top of being inconsiderate and hogging the aisle.
I can't for the life of me understand how you could think you were in the right.



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For all you know she said excuse me and you didn't hear it. I just don't get why you think it's ok to take up a whole aisle, see someone and not move out of the way. If you were so concerned you should have had a hand on the stroller.

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Posted 8/20/15 10:23 PM
 

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Would you have reacted the same as I did?

I agree. You should not take up an entire aisle. Plus, I always keep a hand on the stroller (especially if I am preoccupied) because I am crazy paranoid that someone would just grab my kid and run lol.
I have never been coordinated enough to push a stroller and cart but I do know people who have multiple young kids that do it.
I don't blame anyone with kids for not wanting to make multiple shopping trips. I don't want to go in there with them at all let alone multiple times. Plus, I tend to spend more money per week when I do that.

Posted 8/20/15 10:33 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Clearly you should stay home, and starve until your child is old enough to push the cart themselves. People with strollers have no right being in supermarkets Chat Icon Chat Icon

Why would anyone EVER touch someone elses child in a stroller no matter where you are?? If I thought someone was ignoring me, I would make my presence known... tap her on the shoulder and say Can I get by??

Some of these comments are insane.

Posted 8/20/15 11:17 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by BargainMama

You overreacted. She moved your stroller, she didn't try to steal your baby.


I agree. No harm done. She didn't push the stroller so hard it would cause whiplash or turn it on its side or do something that would have hurt the baby, right? She gently moved it a foot or two?
Though if you don't like her touching your personal stuff/ baby stuff for sanitary reasons, I'd just wipe it down afterward with an antibacterial wipe... but otherwise I don't see the difference between moving your cart & moving your stroller.

Posted 8/20/15 11:21 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Did I miss something,where was she blocking the aisle?

I thought she was "pulled over"

Posted 8/20/15 11:28 PM
 

ElizaRags35
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by gina409

Did I miss something,where was she blocking the aisle?

I thought she was "pulled over"



Yes she did say she was pulled over to the side.

She's a new mom. Who knows what was going through her head when she saw someone moving the stroller containing her infant?

Posted 8/20/15 11:31 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by gina409

Did I miss something,where was she blocking the aisle?

I thought she was "pulled over"


I'm reading these responses so confused why people think I was blocking the entire aisle. As I said in my OP, I was pulled over to the side. The cart and stroller were NOT next to each other blocking the aisle. The stroller was in front, then me, then the cart behind me. There was no one on the other side of the aisle, so it was clear. My strollers back tires were out a bit which is why I guess she couldn't get by. She did not say excuse me, I would have heard it. We were in the paper goods aisle and nobody else was there, so it was plenty quiet where I would have heard someone's voice. As for people questioning why I had both a stroller and shopping cart -- because I needed food in my house, that's why -- because I don't have the luxury during the day to get a sitter to run errands -- because its a heck of alot safer for my child to be in her stroller than in her car seat balancing on top of the cart.

Posted 8/20/15 11:41 PM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by ElizaRags35

Posted by gina409

Did I miss something,where was she blocking the aisle?

I thought she was "pulled over"



Yes she did say she was pulled over to the side.

She's a new mom. Who knows what was going through her head when she saw someone moving the stroller containing her infant?



She was pulled over, but obviously not to the side if someone needed to move the stroller in order to fit by.

Posted 8/20/15 11:41 PM
 

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Would you have reacted the same as I did?

No, I probably would've apologized for being in the way...but I am ultra polite.

Posted 8/20/15 11:50 PM
 

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Chiming in late here, didnt read all the responses. But I am going to be honest and say if you're that paranoid about someone touching your stroller, then you should not be leaving it one bit. You had to be far enough away for someone to reach it before you could get in between them or to move it yourself for them. I know I never ever would leave my infant child in a supermarket, even just for a few feet, for reasons such as this. I always would have one hand or both on the stroller at all times.I would think a regular person might think you would not care about it being moved, since you were clearly not fully attached to it and far enough away from it at that time.

And/or maybe she saw you had both and figured she could just move it herself, and not bother you since you must have looked like you had your hands full with a stroller and a shopping cart. I can't imagine anyone being able to do that without being greatly in others way at random points in time in the supermarket.

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Posted 8/21/15 12:37 AM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by nferrandi

Posted by ElizaRags35

Posted by gina409

Did I miss something,where was she blocking the aisle?

I thought she was "pulled over"



Yes she did say she was pulled over to the side.

She's a new mom. Who knows what was going through her head when she saw someone moving the stroller containing her infant?



She was pulled over, but obviously not to the side if someone needed to move the stroller in order to fit by.



She was though? The person waned something on the side where the stroller was. Like on the shelf behind it

So instead of saying excuse me,just moved be stroller

Think that's it?

Posted 8/21/15 1:14 AM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by bunnyluck

This lady clearly has issues. The normal and polite thing to do is to say excuse me, especially with a stroller! Is it a huge deal, but I think it's out of line and not OK to move someone's stroller. Plus, you can get killed for something like that (on the animal channel ;) )



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Posted 8/21/15 1:35 AM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by gina409

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She was though? The person waned something on the side where the stroller was. Like on the shelf behind it

So instead of saying excuse me,just moved be stroller

Think that's it?



No, OP says the stroller was in the way a little bit for the lady's cart to get through.

Bottom line- this is a perfect example of how jaded people have become.
"giving the benefit of the doubt"- to believe something good about someone, rather than something bad, when you have the possibility of doing either.

Why are we so quick to be so gosh darned NASTY to others? Why not just assume that perhaps you WERE in the way, or didn't hear her? That maybe she had a lapse in judgement. why the need to scold? So rather than correcting her kindly, you turned it into an ugly situation, because you chose to believe her intentions were "bad". And then, rather than choose to see the good-(that you are a protective mother) that woman chose to see the bad- that you were an overreactive B.

Frankly, you both acted like asses.
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Posted 8/21/15 1:52 AM
 

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Would you have reacted the same as I did?

^^boom.

Posted 8/21/15 6:52 AM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

You both behaved like dicks.

Posted 8/21/15 6:58 AM
 

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Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Wow, my "nasty" and "rudeness" radar must be way off because I honestly don't think what I said was either of those things. I think her response of name calling and cursing was much worse than what I said to her.

Posted 8/21/15 7:12 AM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Posted by Porrruss

Bottom line- this is a perfect example of how jaded people have become.
"giving the benefit of the doubt"- to believe something good about someone, rather than something bad, when you have the possibility of doing either.


This has nothing to do with believing she was a good person or a bad person or what her intentions were or anything like that -- she touched and moved something that wasn't hers, without asking, that happened to be carrying my child. I feel that is inappropriate and is something that I would personally never do.

Posted 8/21/15 7:16 AM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

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You both behaved like dicks.



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Posted 8/21/15 7:45 AM
 

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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?

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You both behaved like dicks.



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Just bust out laughing. Thank you!

Posted 8/21/15 8:04 AM
 
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