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gina409
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I sent my kids to the nursery every night
I am a bad parent
A bad parent who slept 
When my twins were really small I use to get so upset by all the judgey soapbox. Righteous comments regarding so many different parenting issues
I never understood why it can't be. I chose to keep the baby with me,it's what I preferred
Rather than I'm shocked led how many sent away,natural feeling to stay. Bonding etc
My kids are attached toe 24/7. We have bonded just fine lol
But the best part of all this is I stopped caring a long time ago what all the judgey mcjudgersons think
And raised my nursery night babies
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
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CrankyPants
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by jax1023
I delivered my son at a hospital with this policy. Since then I moved 400 miles away. I am now looking for a place where they will allow this, I don't want my baby removed,
Babies belong with their mothers. I can not for the life of me understand why anyone would want them in a nursery. I worked a filla day of work before going into labor and delivering in the middle of the night, yes I was tired, I had complications and they almost had to take me to the or. But I wanted my baby with me, that's where he belonged, not all alone in sme nursery so I could sleep.
This is adorable. Talk to me when you have 3 kids and you haven't slept in 4 straight years.
As an aside, my 2nd stopped breathing in the middle of the night for no reason. I thank God he was in the nursery when this happened and not next to me while I was sleeping
Moms should have a choice.
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hopingforbaby
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Jenn627
Why, why, why are we SO mean and judgy to one another?
With the head scratching and the "I can't believes".
It's SO FRUSTRATING.
And then someone will post an article about how moms are doing the best they can and everyone claps and are all supportive of one another. THAT'S what has me scratching my head.
 Seriously!
Why can't we just cut each other some slack and realize that everyone has a different birth experience and therefore handles recovers differently? Why do we constantly have to tear each other down? What does it accomplish to try and make someone feel bad because they needed a few hours of sleep after labor, surgery, etc?
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| Posted 11/22/13 12:31 AM |
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
Good luck trying to get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep in the hospital to begin with. Your roommate might choose to keep her baby with her, or you'll hear the baby across the hall...the nurses come in at all hours to take your temperature and blood pressure, and if you're BFing they will still bring you the baby every 2 hours to nurse... Also, I started my response with I agree that women SHOULD have the CHOICE! I spent 2 nights in the hospital before the baby was even born...I was induced, labored for over 24 hours, had a c-section and was up dragging myself down 2 hallways to the NICU to be with me baby. That was my choice. And my OPINION is that I'm surprised by the amount of people that would rather rest than be with their baby.
I didn't call you or anyone a "bad mother". And my opinion that rooming-in is good, isnt "disgusting". But I'm glad you're not being judgemental....
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LulaBell
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What are your thoughts?
I BF so my Dd was in the nursery and I went to get her (or she was brought to me) every three hours. No one even suggested that she room in with me. This was 4 years ago. This time around I understand that rooming in is encouraged at Winthrop, so I will keep baby in the room if I can handle it and am recovering ok from my csection. If it's too much baby will go to the nursery and I won't feel guilty at all.
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jax1023
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by jax1023
I delivered my son at a hospital with this policy. Since then I moved 400 miles away. I am now looking for a place where they will allow this, I don't want my baby removed,
Babies belong with their mothers. I can not for the life of me understand why anyone would want them in a nursery. I worked a filla day of work before going into labor and delivering in the middle of the night, yes I was tired, I had complications and they almost had to take me to the or. But I wanted my baby with me, that's where he belonged, not all alone in sme nursery so I could sleep.
This is adorable. Talk to me when you have 3 kids and you haven't slept in 4 straight years.
As an aside, my 2nd stopped breathing in the middle of the night for no reason. I thank God he was in the nursery when this happened and not next to me while I was sleeping
Moms should have a choice.
No it's not adorable and it's actually scientific fact. Babies breathing is actually regulated by the sound of their mothers breathing. They use your body heat to help maintain their temperature.
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
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| Posted 11/22/13 7:12 AM |
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computergirl
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I am going to go ask my kids if they still resent me for sticking them in the nursery those first few nights. I bet they lie awake at night, seething with anger and unresolved mother issues, jealous of their friends who got to room in with their moms.
The other day my 4 yr old made a scene when I refused to buy Lucky Charms cereal. She even said the dreaded words "YOU ARE NOT MY BEST FRIEND ANYMORE!". This whole conflict probably could have been avoided, and we would have had a far deeper, more nuanced relationship overall, had I just kept the kid in the room with me
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InShock
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
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| Posted 11/22/13 7:34 AM |
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jax1023
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by InShock
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
What you think the hospital made these policies up to annoy you? No they didn't, they're is a reason behind them and its that newborns benefit from being with their mothers.
I'm not saying your kid is going to resent you and need therapy because you sent them to the hospital nursery. I'm saying their are short term health benefits for newborns from being with their mothers. It's not obnoxious it's fact.
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Annie91606
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by InShock
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
No kidding. Get over yourself. You are not super mom if you don't sleep for 18 years straight.
A well-rested parent is a better parent. They don't issue awards for sleep deprivation as a result of having your kid as your appendage 24 hours a day.
I had 2 c sections, my babies slept in the nursery.
Lord, is this what the world is coming to??? They must be attached to you from the moment they exit the womb?? No wonder this generation of kids are shown to have no coping skills.
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jax1023
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by InShock
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
No kidding. Get over yourself. You are not super mom if you don't sleep for 18 years straight.
A well-rested parent is a better parent. They don't issue awards for sleep deprivation as a result of having your kid as your appendage 24 hours a day.
I had 2 c sections, my babies slept in the nursery.
Lord, is this what the world is coming to??? They must be attached to you from the moment they exit the womb?? No wonder this generation of kids are shown to have no coping skills.
Yes that's clear.t why because before hospitals children who were born at home had no coping skills.
And yes I think for the first 24-48 hours after birth should've with their mothers. After that the benefits decrease. Get daddy to stay up a you can sleep a.l night a week alter when you really need it, the benefits to the baby are gone and no one comes it to poke you ad take your blood pressure and wakes you every 3 hours anyway.
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What are your thoughts?
Looking back I wish I sent DS to the nursery so I could sleep!
I gave birth at 10pm and I must have looked like a hot mess because at around 1am a nurse offered to put him in the nursery so I could get some sleep. However, she brought him back at around 3am. So I just got a catnap
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Hofstra26
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by jax1023
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by InShock
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
No kidding. Get over yourself. You are not super mom if you don't sleep for 18 years straight.
A well-rested parent is a better parent. They don't issue awards for sleep deprivation as a result of having your kid as your appendage 24 hours a day.
I had 2 c sections, my babies slept in the nursery.
Lord, is this what the world is coming to??? They must be attached to you from the moment they exit the womb?? No wonder this generation of kids are shown to have no coping skills.
Yes that's clear.t why because before hospitals children who were born at home had no coping skills.
And yes I think for the first 24-48 hours after birth should've with their mothers. After that the benefits decrease. Get daddy to stay up a you can sleep a.l night a week alter when you really need it, the benefits to the baby are gone and no one comes it to poke you ad take your blood pressure and wakes you every 3 hours anyway.
I'm sorry but your comments sound so idiotic.  I am astonished by what is coming out of your mouth right now.
First, the ONLY reason a hospital would institute a policy like INSISTING the baby room with you 24/7 is NOT for the benefit of the baby..........it's COST CUTTING. Less staff needed in the maternity ward, no nursery to keep up and running. A hospital, a corporation, does NOT give two shits about you and your baby bonding. Don't kid yourself.
Second, as I've stated, I couldn't even be with my kids the first 12 hours because I was sick beyond belief and passed out from the spinal and anti nausea drugs I was pumped up with. And my kids slept in the nursery and when I could, I took them with me. They were with me A LOT, just not EVERY second.
And you know what........................
I couldn't be more bonded or any closer to my children if I tried. I do EVERYTHING with and for them. EVERYTHING. I'm with them 24/7 and I can assure you, they did NOT suffer one bit because they slept in the nursery here and there.
Whether you have a C-section or deliver vaginally, there is NOTHING wrong with taking advantage of the help offered in the hospital. Just because YOU didn't doesn't make it wrong that someone else did. You couldn't be more judgmental and obnoxious in your posts.
Good for you that you're such a saint that you kept your baby with you 24/7 in the hospital even though you worked all day, labored, and gave birth. You're my hero.......such a better mom than anyone else on here too!! Congratulations on your perfection!!!!!! 
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PrincessP
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by jax1023
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by InShock
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
No kidding. Get over yourself. You are not super mom if you don't sleep for 18 years straight.
A well-rested parent is a better parent. They don't issue awards for sleep deprivation as a result of having your kid as your appendage 24 hours a day.
I had 2 c sections, my babies slept in the nursery.
Lord, is this what the world is coming to??? They must be attached to you from the moment they exit the womb?? No wonder this generation of kids are shown to have no coping skills.
Yes that's clear.t why because before hospitals children who were born at home had no coping skills.
And yes I think for the first 24-48 hours after birth should've with their mothers. After that the benefits decrease. Get daddy to stay up a you can sleep a.l night a week alter when you really need it, the benefits to the baby are gone and no one comes it to poke you ad take your blood pressure and wakes you every 3 hours anyway.
I'm sorry but you're an idiot. I am astonished by what is coming out of your mouth right now.
First, the ONLY reason a hospital would institute a policy like INSISTING the baby room with you 24/7 is NOT for the benefit of the baby..........it's COST CUTTING. Less staff needed in the maternity ward, no nursery to keep up and running. A hospital, a corporation, does NOT give two shits about you and your baby bonding. Don't kid yourself.
Second, as I've stated, I couldn't even be with my kids the first 12 hours because I was sick beyond belief and passed out from the spinal and anti nausea drugs I was pumped up with. And my kids slept in the nursery and when I could, I took them with me. They were with me A LOT, just not EVERY second.
And you know what........................
I couldn't be more bonded or any closer to my children if I tried. I do EVERYTHING with and for them. EVERYTHING. I'm with them 24/7 and I can assure you, they did NOT suffer one bit because they slept in the nursery here and there.
Whether you have a C-section or deliver vaginally, there is NOTHING wrong with taking advantage of the help offered in the hospital. Just because YOU didn't doesn't make it wrong that someone else did. You couldn't be more judgmental and obnoxious in your posts.
Good for you that you're such a saint that you kept your baby with you 24/7 in the hospital even though you worked all day, labored, and gave birth. You're my hero.......such a better mom than anyone else on here too!! Congratulations on your perfection!!!!!!
you go!!!!
Especially the idiot part 
I agree with you 100 percent. Just another judgemental idiot....yes you!
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PrincessP
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by jax1023
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by InShock
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
No kidding. Get over yourself. You are not super mom if you don't sleep for 18 years straight.
A well-rested parent is a better parent. They don't issue awards for sleep deprivation as a result of having your kid as your appendage 24 hours a day.
I had 2 c sections, my babies slept in the nursery.
Lord, is this what the world is coming to??? They must be attached to you from the moment they exit the womb?? No wonder this generation of kids are shown to have no coping skills.
Yes that's clear.t why because before hospitals children who were born at home had no coping skills.
And yes I think for the first 24-48 hours after birth should've with their mothers. After that the benefits decrease. Get daddy to stay up a you can sleep a.l night a week alter when you really need it, the benefits to the baby are gone and no one comes it to poke you ad take your blood pressure and wakes you every 3 hours anyway.
holy crap! I just saw your avatar pics and realized your on another Moronic thread about the knockout game. I read your response and went peeps save your time, her thinking is off. Don't argue with this. Not worth it.
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lcherian
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by InShock
Posted by jax1023
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
Lord, is this what the world is coming to??? They must be attached to you from the moment they exit the womb?? No wonder this generation of kids are shown to have no coping skills.
There are psychological and medical benefits to having your newborn sleep in the same room with you right after birth. If it doesn't happen, no one is saying you are an inferior parent or that your kid will grow up to be a psycho or less bonded. And to state that this generation of kids' lack of coping skills has some association with keeping your infant in your room after birth, well that's just overreaching.
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| Posted 11/22/13 8:33 AM |
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ali120206
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What are your thoughts?
I guess we can all agree to disagree - it's similar to the BF v FF threads.
Everyone is different and makes different choices for their children. Just because someone chooses something different than you believe in - it doesn't mean they are wrong or a bad parent or right and a better parent.
Bottom line - the mother should have the right to choose whether to keep the baby or send the baby to the nursery. Like I said, I had the same issue and asked another nurse and they arranged for DS to be sent to the nursery. By the time we were settled in my room after DS 2, it was almost midnight. I had been up over 24 hrs and DH went home so I thought it was in the best interest of DS to send him to the nursery. DS was formula fed (gasp) so he stayed for 6 hrs and then I called him back.
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Jonsgirl04
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Re: What are your thoughts?
All I can say is Wow!! Yes my baby spent the night in the nursery. I guess add me to the bad mom list. But I was so sick and drugged up the room was spinning and I was nodding out from the meds from my c-section.I wouldnt want my DD seeing me like that I wouldnt want to chance hurting my baby from nodding out. I did the right thing by putting her in the nursery because I was no good to her for the first 24 hours. Whether you had the baby in your room or not. The baby will not remember that, it did not hurt them and it didnt do psychological damage. To each there own and all of us a GREAT moms no matter if the baby slept in the room with you or not.
Some people need to get over themselves and stop putting down other women for their choices. We are supposed to be able to be there and support one another. I cant stand Arrogance!
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by computergirl
I am going to go ask my kids if they still resent me for sticking them in the nursery those first few nights. I bet they lie awake at night, seething with anger and unresolved mother issues, jealous of their friends who got to room in with their moms.
The other day my 4 yr old made a scene when I refused to buy Lucky Charms cereal. She even said the dreaded words "YOU ARE NOT MY BEST FRIEND ANYMORE!". This whole conflict probably could have been avoided, and we would have had a far deeper, more nuanced relationship overall, had I just kept the kid in the room with me
 Just start them in therapy now.
Actually my 4yr niece has been throwing temper tantrums and told my sister "she doesnt like her", this may be where all the hatred is coming from.
I wasnt there when my son was born, so I should watch out for him as well. Only kidding!!
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by jax1023
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by jax1023
I delivered my son at a hospital with this policy. Since then I moved 400 miles away. I am now looking for a place where they will allow this, I don't want my baby removed,
Babies belong with their mothers. I can not for the life of me understand why anyone would want them in a nursery. I worked a filla day of work before going into labor and delivering in the middle of the night, yes I was tired, I had complications and they almost had to take me to the or. But I wanted my baby with me, that's where he belonged, not all alone in sme nursery so I could sleep.
This is adorable. Talk to me when you have 3 kids and you haven't slept in 4 straight years.
As an aside, my 2nd stopped breathing in the middle of the night for no reason. I thank God he was in the nursery when this happened and not next to me while I was sleeping
Moms should have a choice.
No it's not adorable and it's actually scientific fact. Babies breathing is actually regulated by the sound of their mothers breathing. They use your body heat to help maintain their temperature.
Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Why don't you step off your high horse already...you've officially become obnoxious!
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| Posted 11/22/13 9:20 AM |
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StarsStripes
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What are your thoughts?
It's almost Thanksgiving ladies...so let's give thanks that we are all doing our best as mothers, doing what we think is the right thing may not be right for all. Instead of arguing with each other, try to see someone else's point of view without judging. Be THANKFUL you have happy, healthy children, give them a hug, and stop getting so heated about what the person on the other side of the screen does with their life!!
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by StarsStripes
It's almost Thanksgiving ladies...so let's give thanks that we are all doing our best as mothers, doing what we think is the right thing may not be right for all. Instead of arguing with each other, try to see someone else's point of view without judging. Be THANKFUL you have happy, healthy children, give them a hug, and stop getting so heated about what the person on the other side of the screen does with their life!!
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| Posted 11/22/13 9:39 AM |
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MrsA1012
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What are your thoughts?
We should add this one to the best drama threads on FHF ;)
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| Posted 11/22/13 9:49 AM |
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
I didn't realize a nurses job was babysitting.
And I am honestly not judging what other people do, but IMO there is nothing wrong with requiring a baby to room in.
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