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what the hell is wrong with some of you, honestly? Some of you need to just STFU.

its one thing to have a different opinion, its one thing for you to want to do something differently than another mother, but for FLUCKS sake, why do you have to be condescending B!thces about it?

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As many have said, the issue is CHOICE.

Choice as to whether or not I become pregnant, continue a pregnancy, deliver in the hospital, at home, in a birthing center, with meds or without, room in with baby or use the nursery (for WHATEVER REASON!!), BF or FF, SAHM or work FT outside the home, use an in-home day care, a center, or have family only watch the baby, co-sleep or not, give a flu shot or not, homeschool, public school, private school.....

The CHOICES mothers make throughout our kids lives are endless. The point is that we should fight like hell to continue to HAVE the choices.

And another thing, anyone who's ever taken a basic statistics class knows that you can engineer a study to say whatever you'd like it to say. There will always be opposing studies, as well as those that corroborate the original.

I don't need a scripted protocol from ANY entity on how to live my life or raise my kids.

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I'm confused. If you ask the hospital to take the baby to the nursery while you are resting they say no ? Also, I wanted to add that while I don't believe in taking choice away from women things were the exact opposite in the not too distant past. Women were given drugs to induce a twilight sleep while laboring so they often didn't see their babies for a long period. This made breast feeding very tough and led to a loss of initial bonding time. So, in that sense, it is a good departure from the past ; however, I don't think it should be mandatory.

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I had major cardiac issiues and a csection - I needed the sleep. I sent DS to the nursery 2 out of the 4 nights to get some rest. I also sent him there so I could eat and shower. I see no problem with it at all . I'm sure DS will not grow up to be an ax murderer because of it

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If I was your friend - I would ask to speak to an administrator and the policy that states that. It is not a Joint Commission Req or a CMS req.

I could be wrong... and I can confirm tomorrow with my leadership - but THEY CAN NOT MANDATE THAT.

It could potentially violate Patients rights and responsibility...

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You know, those of you who are being all self righteous....instead of spending so much time telling other mothers what is best for their babies and their family, maybe use some of that time constructively to look internally about how you treat other mothers who do what is best for them and their babies. Less time on what other mothers are doing wrong and more time on how what you are doing to them is wrong. That would be time well spent.

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What accommodations do they make for those who can not do this for medical reasons? Because I was on a medication that made me terribly lethargic. I was not permitted to hold the baby without supervision.

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I liked having the choice of keeping the baby in the nursery. I don't feel the least bit guilty about it. It's what was best for us. I remember the nurse looked at me like I had 5 heads when I told them I was dropping off the baby for the whole night & they could formula feed. I don't see the harm & it made me well-rested so I'd recover faster & have the energy to care for him better when we first went home. I think rooming in is a great option as well for those who want that & I'm sure there are many benefits. But my baby was well cared for in the nursery & I liked having it as an option.

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[The "I Would Never Let my Baby CIO" Award. Most recipients will not be present to receive this medal because they fell asleep at their desks.







Best line ever!!!

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Next will be "discouraging" the epidural. Because someone dictates that a drug free birth is somehow better and makes you more of a hero.

I feel like handing out medals to all these heroes, just so I don't have to hear them talk about it anymore.

There would be the "Drug Free Birth" award (larger medals will be awarded based on the length of labor and degree of tearing)

The "My Baby Never Had a Drop of Formula" Award (larger medals will be awarded based on the number of foods you had to eliminate from your diet)

The "My Baby Never Had Food from a (gasp) Jar" Award. This medal comes in the shape of a Baby Bullet.

and let's not forget my personal favorite:

The "I Would Never Let my Baby CIO" Award. Most recipients will not be present to receive this medal because they fell asleep at their desks.

I just died a little with laughter. I would like to remind a few of you who are still 1-2 years into this, that us old timers, like myself have seen just how far that fall off your high horse is…..! I've been doing this parenting role for 6 years, and like a few of you felt my opinion with a 2 month old was clearly just as valid as someone with a 9 year old. Boy was I wrong, you will take short cuts as a parent, you will have a day where you need a break, you will have a day where you say SCREW IT, I'm ordering a pizza. Welcome to parenting, just when you form one opinion, one of your kid tosses a grenade your way and guess what…you end up seeing the other side of that opinion REAL QUICK.

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Posted by CookieMomster

Posted by CrankyPants

Posted by computergirl

Posted by NervousNell

Next will be "discouraging" the epidural. Because someone dictates that a drug free birth is somehow better and makes you more of a hero.

I feel like handing out medals to all these heroes, just so I don't have to hear them talk about it anymore.

There would be the "Drug Free Birth" award (larger medals will be awarded based on the length of labor and degree of tearing)

The "My Baby Never Had a Drop of Formula" Award (larger medals will be awarded based on the number of foods you had to eliminate from your diet)

The "My Baby Never Had Food from a (gasp) Jar" Award. This medal comes in the shape of a Baby Bullet.

and let's not forget my personal favorite:

The "I Would Never Let my Baby CIO" Award. Most recipients will not be present to receive this medal because they fell asleep at their desks.

I just died a little with laughter. I would like to remind a few of you who are still 1-2 years into this, that us old timers, like myself have seen just how far that fall off your high horse is…..! I've been doing this parenting role for 6 years, and like a few of you felt my opinion with a 2 month old was clearly just as valid as someone with a 9 year old. Boy was I wrong, you will take short cuts as a parent, you will have a day where you need a break, you will have a day where you say SCREW IT, I'm ordering a pizza. Welcome to parenting, just when you form one opinion, one of your kid tosses a grenade your way and guess what…you end up seeing the other side of that opinion REAL QUICK.

So what if I'm already taking shortcuts at 6 months?

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Ya'll b!tches be cray cray.

I always look forward to separation from my kid. Momma needs solo time sometimes.

After my vagina was mutilated in childbirth I realized I needed a siesta. Figured I'd have the next 50 years to bond.

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THis is what I had and loved it, I would have asked for this even if it wasn't the policy due to research I had done, and my own personal beliefs.

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YUP they do this at my hospital here in NC. They used to take the baby for 2-3 hours in the morning to be weighed and checked and now they come to your room as does the pediatrician. So crazy and I don't get it?!!

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I do think having the CHOICE is important.

With DS #1, I couldn't really room-in because the first night I had a catheter and couldn't get up and I had a REALLY hard time even once the catheter was out. One night DH stayed with me and we kept DS in the room. But DH could go pick him up, change him and bring him to me to TRY to feed. But one night- the second one I think - I was so tired, so miserable and in so much pain. I was trying so hard to nurse DS all day but he wouldn't latch and it was so painful. around 7PM the nurses basically ordered DH to go home. They took DS to the nursery and told me to sleep for a while. I was of no use to anyone in the state I was in.

With DS#2 again, I could not get up to get DS to change or feed him in the middle of the night. He was with me all day and at night around 10 or 11, the nurse would come in and get him, I'd try to sleep for a couple of hours and they would bring him in when he needed to eat. I go almost no rest, but I felt better than with DS#1 because DS#2 did latch - even if it was horribly painful.

I remember SIL telling me with her second, she basically told the nurses at night to take my neice and not bring her back till 8:00AM. But, she also had no problem BF and she wanted to get rest. I couldn't have imagined doing that because----that just wouldn't be my choice.

And as far as bonding, her daughter was attached at her hip while my DS - really couldn't care less.