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To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

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Xelindrya
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To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

Ok.. first off I know I'm super mean, stern and down right evil to some. I send my child into time out anywhere and any time. Yep I get in her face.. full eye contact and say NO in a deep stern scary voice. Sure do. Just about anything can cause it too.

but really .. this got ME angry.

I was at a fish place out here. Weather has been nice and they have a nice deck. So we decided to take in the nice weather and sit outside. Enjoy a good meal, birds and kids playing..

But this one mom...
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Her son (about AJ's age if not younger) was walking with her to the truck. She's on her phone, looking behind her and basically NOT paying attention to her son. He was hopping along and took a few quick steps ahead. Ok, scary I know. would be for me. She runs to him (like 4 steps) and grabs him by the arms and SHOVES him into a hedge. I was watching AJ so I saw it all. The deck has railings and there's a hedge below it that lines the deck from the parking lot.

She kept pushing him and shoving him further into the hedge raising her voice with each shove "Do NOt run from me, do you understand me, can you hear me, look at me, shut up, I will Kill you next time, never do that again, do you hear me!" I mean jesus.. at good 10 or so shoves the whole dang hedge was bent backward.
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I flipped

At first I got her anger and how upset she was etc but after the third shove and the hedge moved back and she got loud and totally out of control... my heart skipped a beat, I sat up and looked over at her. This all happened on the hedge near me so I'm right THERE!

I know.. none of my business
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I couldn't help myself.

"Is he ok?"

She looked up and scowled at me and looked ready to give me a lecture but saw AJ and just kept going at him, then walked away dragging her son with her. Took him behind a pole and gave him a few good whacks.

I felt terrible. I hope I didnt cause her to get angrier at him. Chat Icon

Ugh!
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I could hear the rush of blood in my ears. I know I'm stern with AJ but I hope I never do that. SHE was at fault, in my mind. SHE needs to watch her child not torment him. You think he heard one WORD she was saying through the terror in his cries? he kept grabbing at his back where I'm sure he got scratches and pokes from the bush. Then when she hit him he couldn't seem to figure out where hurt more.

ugh
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ETA: I guess I don't know why I posted this but I had to get it off my chest. AJ saw it all and looked at me. I gave her a hug and kiss. Jim and my aunt were shocked that I spoke up.

Message edited 11/8/2010 1:11:03 PM.

Posted 11/8/10 1:10 PM
 
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LoveyQ
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

That's just horrible. Sorry, I don't mean to judge, but I would have been infuriated if I saw that and I don't think I could have NOT said something too. Chat Icon

Posted 11/8/10 1:12 PM
 

maybesoon
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

ppl are crazy. poor little boy.

Posted 11/8/10 1:12 PM
 

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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

she was at fault.

and that furthered her anger. guilt. the idea that she wasn't watching properly and her son was allowed to be placed in harms way by her lack of vigilance.

we will ALL be there. displacing that "holy ****...what if" feeling.

I just hope I turn it on to myself rather than my child.

Posted 11/8/10 1:15 PM
 

Jonsgirl04
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

OMG!! I would said something too..I dont care if she yelled back at me!! I understand she was upset but there are somethings you shouldnt do to a child and thats one of them.. I mean shoving him into a bush several times..then giving him more smacks after that..poor baby!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/8/10 1:19 PM
 

Daisy32
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

poor baby Chat Icon
I cant even imagine how scared he must have been Chat Icon So upsetting that the very person who is supposed to PROTECT him is the one he fearsChat Icon

Posted 11/8/10 1:30 PM
 

Mommy2Boys
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

Honestly I would have said something and it wouldnt have just been "are you ok?"

I think we can get angry and scared and lash out at our kids at a stressful moment but sometimes need to be reminded that they are just kids. She should have been paying better attention to him. Not blabbing on her cell phone if she was so concerned about him in the parking lot.

ETA: I am sure it went so quickly but if she continued to hit him and push him into the bushes I probably would have told her if she didn't stop I was calling the cops as a way to deter her. I would rather her be infuriated with me and come after me than continue to badger her poor child.

Message edited 11/8/2010 1:36:02 PM.

Posted 11/8/10 1:34 PM
 

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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

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Posted 11/8/10 1:46 PM
 

lvdolphins
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

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Posted 11/8/10 2:23 PM
 

Xelindrya
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

Posted by jellybean1420

Honestly I would have said something and it wouldnt have just been "are you ok?"

I think we can get angry and scared and lash out at our kids at a stressful moment but sometimes need to be reminded that they are just kids. She should have been paying better attention to him. Not blabbing on her cell phone if she was so concerned about him in the parking lot.

ETA: I am sure it went so quickly but if she continued to hit him and push him into the bushes I probably would have told her if she didn't stop I was calling the cops as a way to deter her. I would rather her be infuriated with me and come after me than continue to badger her poor child.




Yeah it was fast.
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Posted 11/8/10 2:27 PM
 

carolyns4cupcakes
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

imo I think the smacks she gave him were to spite you. It sounds crazy but I may be right...or not. I hope I'm not right. I can understand why you did it and I think most of us would have said something wether it be politely or nasty. I just have a feeling that this was not the first time this mother has done something like this.

I am sorry that you had to see this and now have this in your memory.

What bothers me most is what she said to him...I will kill you next time as she was pushing h im repeatedy into the hedges.

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Message edited 11/8/2010 3:18:37 PM.

Posted 11/8/10 3:17 PM
 

Peainapod
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

i want to cry reading this

Posted 11/8/10 3:45 PM
 

HeathKernandez
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

Posted by Xelindrya

I know I'm super mean, stern and down right evil



ITA.









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j/k...

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I see some ghetto-assed people with their kids and it upsets me every time. I always think I'm on that "what would you do" show...

Posted 11/8/10 3:59 PM
 

BAM 2009
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

So sad...I would have called the cops. Followed her to her car and waited for the cops to get there. I would have blocked her car with mine if I had to. That is child abuse...
I am sorry that you had to witness that. And your poor DD. I am actually scared for that poor little boy. The idiot mother was to blame for letting him get that far. She should have been pushed into the bushes....

Posted 11/8/10 4:12 PM
 

HomeIsWithU
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

Ugh...reading this just gave me such a sick feeling Chat Icon Chat Icon that poor little boy. The mom was at fault here and I dont blame you one bit for saying something to her. I probably would have wanted to say something but would have just sat there with my jaw dropped open that she was shoving him into the bushes like that Chat Icon

Posted 11/8/10 4:41 PM
 

summerBaby10
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

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Posted 11/8/10 5:41 PM
 

Alli06
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

That is just awful! I think the worst part for me is the childs age. Not sure your daughters age, but from the profile pic she looks about 2. Was that kid really that young?
She should be watching her child, not be on her phone while walking into a parking lot.

Posted 11/8/10 7:44 PM
 

Stacey1403
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

I would have hip checked her into the bushes and said see it's not such a nice feeling is it?Chat Icon

Posted 11/8/10 7:52 PM
 

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Posted 11/8/10 8:49 PM
 

Shelleybean11
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Re: To the mom I saw this weekend: watch your kid, not blame him (vent/confession)

Posted by Peainapod

i want to cry reading this



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Posted 11/8/10 8:58 PM
 
 
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