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cj7305
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Teacher advice needed

I have been noticing that one of my students is basically a compulsive liar. I have caught her in a few lies this week alone. They are silly lies and I'm sure she does it for attention. Now, my question is how would you go about telling a parent this without getting them defensive. I'm having a conference with her mom next week and I am trying to figure out the easiest way to say it. Any advice is appreciated. TIA!

Posted 11/16/06 9:17 PM
 
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Miro127
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Re: Teacher advice needed

What age do you teach? And what kind of lies is she telling?

Posted 11/16/06 9:26 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

Posted by Miro127

What age do you teach? And what kind of lies is she telling?



1 st grade and very strange, here's some examples:

She squirted her drink all over my pocket chart and then came up to me and was like OMG how did the pocket chart get soaked? Then a bunch of kids were like, we saw you do it!!! She was like a deer caught in headlights

Another time she hid a book and then told me it was missing

Another time she told someone to pinch her, then when they did she told on them.

It's very bizarre.

Posted 11/16/06 9:31 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

I'd tell the parent that the child is engaging in "attention seeking behaviors".....

Posted 11/16/06 9:44 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

Ah ok .. I teach 1st grade, too. Like the previous poster said, I would tell the parent that the child engages in attention seeking behaviors, such as the examples you stated above. It's very possible the parent sees the same behavior at home. It could just be a phase or maybe the parent will want the child to speak w/ the school social worker or something.
Good luck!

Posted 11/16/06 10:03 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

Maybe this is just a crazy idea since I work in a bad area of Brooklyn and so I have kids throwing chairs at eachother.......

but do you think that the behaviors really warrant a meeting with the parents?

Are you having a meeting with them anyway for some reason?

Is it disrupting your classroom? Has she hurt other children?

Or is it something that you can address within the class by speaking to her and possibly encouraging her often to speak truthfully?

I just find, at least where I work, that if you call the parents for every little thing that when there really is a big problem they aren't entirely responsive.

Posted 11/16/06 10:05 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

I would also keep notes about the behavior so you can use that when you conference with the parent.

Posted 11/16/06 10:07 PM
 

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My guess is that she has a regularly scheduled parent-teacher conference.

Posted 11/16/06 10:09 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

Have one in my class too...very sneaky...she has cheated on 3 tests...caught her all three times....and then they were using bottles of spices of brought from home to do a project and she threw some of the spice in someone's desk and denied...tried calling home but they never call me back

Posted 11/16/06 10:09 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

Posted by Miro127

My guess is that she has a regularly scheduled parent-teacher conference.



Yup exactly. I feel like it really is getting out of control,that's why I want to bring mom into it. Also she has been lying to mom about kids hitting her & calling her names etc. I want her to know that these things aren't happening or if they ar eit's usually the child completely twisting things. She is just very manipulative and sneaky.

Posted 11/16/06 10:15 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

Definitely tell them about the attention seeking behaviors. You have clear examples to give, so I would not feel uncomfortable telling that. Remember, it's hard to share these things with parents, but you are acting in the best interest of the child, and in the end, you have to keep that in the forefront of your mind.

Posted 11/16/06 10:16 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

The one thing I learned from teaching is document EVERYTHING. I used to keep a journal on my "problem children" so when parents wanted specific examples, I could whip out my book to back me up.

I kept one on my principal...but that's a different story.Chat Icon

Message edited 11/16/2006 10:19:52 PM.

Posted 11/16/06 10:19 PM
 

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Re: Teacher advice needed

Posted by prncssrachel

Definitely tell them about the attention seeking behaviors. You have clear examples to give, so I would not feel uncomfortable telling that. Remember, it's hard to share these things with parents, but you are acting in the best interest of the child, and in the end, you have to keep that in the forefront of your mind.



I agree.. you certainly don't want things to get worse too. It seems like she is engaging in attention-seeking behaviors and they do sometimes get worse if not addressed appropriately.

I would also consider speaking with your class as whole about being truthful-maybe tie in a writing lesson/read-aloud to discuss the benefits of being truthful. I would continue to document and if the behavior doesn't stop, I would seriously speak to the child and discuss things with the parents further.

It has been my experience that the sooner you let parents know what's going on whether good/bad, it puts you in a better position to do what's best for the child.

Good luck!! Chat Icon

ETA: maybe enlisting the help of her classmates to model good behavior through your reading/writing lessons may help her to make better choices too.

Message edited 11/16/2006 10:58:58 PM.

Posted 11/16/06 10:55 PM
 
 

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