Spinoff of called police

This is going to sound very silly, but I am so upset at all the horrible things that happen to children. People who DON’T ASK to be here, and then are forced to suffer.

I wish there were some kind of extensive phsychiatric eval that people have to go through before they can have kids. Or, they have to take care of a doll for a year or something, until they were deemed fit.

I’m just rambling, and I know it would never happen, and I prob sound ridiculous, but I’m just so sad and had to get it out.

Spinoff of called police

ITA. And as someone who has been TTC for a very long time, it makes me sick that these people were physically able to have children.

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you don't sound ridiculous!
i have felt that same way, many times!

i have a distant relative who just needs to look at a naked man and she's pregnant... and the way she has raised her children would make your skin crawl.

meanwhile, there are amazing people who have trouble having children. it makes me sick and it breaks my heart.

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Nope..not ridiculous. I think a lot of people feel like this. Look at what you have to go through to adopt a child. Or heck to adopt a pet. But anyone can have birth a child. And it's scary some of the people that can.

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I have to be honest...there are SOME times where I really really try not to judge. I try to figure out what the bigger picture is...but in all honesty...sometimes there is just no excuse, no justification.

for instance. I was reading an article on the stir yesterday about a father who was pushing his baby in a stroller when gunshots were fired. He lunged foward, leaving the stroller in place and it took a perfect stranger to run and push the stroller out of the way...the stranger was 15, she got shot in the thigh but is ok.

People judged the father and called him a coward and said HE should be shot. All I could think about was how that father must feel. He will probably feel guilty for the rest of his life because in the heat of the moment he panicked. Do I think it means he's a bad father? not really...just that he panicked and for whatever reason that instinct we all believe we will have when needed wasn't there for him in that moment. I think i'd be a superhero for my son in any emergency...but who really knows until it happens.

However, leaving kids in a car, especially with the windows up, especially in the summer, especially with a fleece blanket over them is totally different.

When i saw the mug shot of the woman from east northport who recently left her 2 kids in the car when it was like 90...it looked like she had been balling her eyes out. For a moment I felt bad for her...for the stupid decision she made and how guilty she must feel...I didn't want to judge her, but I feel worse for her kids and what she did definitely was dangerous on so many levels. She made her own fate. They did the right thing taking them away...at least until she gets evaluated and she get's her shit together. I wonder what the kids will think when they are old enough to know about these things.

Message edited 6/5/2013 1:27:11 PM.

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No, you don't sound silly at all. My heart breaks everyday when I read or hear about a child being hurt, abused, killed, neglected or other wise placed in jeopardy. Even before I was a Mom it turned my stomach. Now I literally want to crawl out of my skin when I hear things. So sad what innocent children have to endure, when like you said, they had no control over being brought into the world.

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I have ALWAYS felt there are some who should not breed. Also comes with that is those not 'READY' to breed. Just because you CAN have sex and it feels good doesn't mean you're ready or capable to raise a baby.

Then the kids forgotten or raised sub par if no other reason that the 'parents' can't do better. I'm not saying they should abort or adopt their children out.

But seriously, can't we just 'fix' some people and then if they are deemed worthy and mature enough 'unfix' to allow for children?

But then again, who makes that decision?

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