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?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

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MrsSunflwr29
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?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

How much do you usually pay your friend/family to watch your dc?

What do you expect them to do with your dc? and around the house?


I am asking because no one is cleaning up after themselves and there is always a sink full of dishes when I come home from work. I am also noticing that they are spending time on the computer. Granted I have 2 year old twins but I feel like I am paying them to watch them and play with them and not to be on the computer.

Am I overreacting?

Please help,

frustrated mom

Posted 10/14/09 5:42 PM
 
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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Are you sure they are not on the computer when the kids are napping? We have caretakers that do that and that's fine with me. As for dishes and stuff, as long as they do not leave anything where it is unsafe for my son or my dog, it's okay.

Posted 10/14/09 6:39 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Whose dishes? DC's or theirs? They should absolutely clean up after themselves, but after DC, I'm not so sureChat Icon

Posted 10/14/09 6:43 PM
 

MrsSunflwr29
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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

My boys dont nap otherwise I wouldnt care what they do on their time.

As for the dishes it is the dishes from the day. Whatever she cooked for breakfast and lunch. Also the highchairs are never cleaned off. She could also put the dishes in the dishwasher. I just feel that when I come home I shouldnt have to clean up from breakfast and lunch.

Posted 10/14/09 8:11 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

I always asked babysitters to clean off the highchair trays. with soap and hot water. Never anything else. Now my SIL watches them and comes over and cleans my house. She's an angelChat Icon

But in your situation I think its kinda rude in anny situation not to clean up after yourself...I wouldn't expect them to clean up after the kids.

Posted 10/14/09 8:30 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Posted by MrsSunflwr29

My boys dont nap otherwise I wouldnt care what they do on their time.

As for the dishes it is the dishes from the day. Whatever she cooked for breakfast and lunch. Also the highchairs are never cleaned off. She could also put the dishes in the dishwasher. I just feel that when I come home I shouldnt have to clean up from breakfast and lunch.



But....they don't nap, so when should she do that? I mean, that is the hardest part of my day when DS doesn't nap, I can't get anything done.....

Maybe she goes on the computer while they eat? I don't know....the computer doesn't bother me....

I understand your frustration, but there is a thin line between childcare and housekeeping hereChat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 10/14/09 8:32 PM
 

MrsSunflwr29
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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

I am not asking her by any means to clean my house and I know that I dont pay her to be my house cleaner. But is it wrong of me to ask to clean up after herself. She made tuna for lunch today and left the cans with tuna in them in my sink, the fork to mix everything on the counter, and the trays of the highchairs with tuna remnants. When I walked in from work the smell almost knocked me over.

I guess I am just looking for common curtsey thats all. I remember when I used to watch kids while in college the mom asked me to make sure whatever I used for the day was cleaned up..Maybe I am wrong but I dont see it as housekeeping.

Posted 10/14/09 8:44 PM
 

MrsSunflwr29
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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Posted by KateDevine

Posted by MrsSunflwr29

My boys dont nap otherwise I wouldnt care what they do on their time.

As for the dishes it is the dishes from the day. Whatever she cooked for breakfast and lunch. Also the highchairs are never cleaned off. She could also put the dishes in the dishwasher. I just feel that when I come home I shouldnt have to clean up from breakfast and lunch.



But....they don't nap, so when should she do that? I mean, that is the hardest part of my day when DS doesn't nap, I can't get anything done.....

Maybe she goes on the computer while they eat? I don't know....the computer doesn't bother me....

I understand your frustration, but there is a thin line between childcare and housekeeping hereChat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



I know it is hard when the kids dont nap but this is her job and I pay her.

Posted 10/14/09 8:45 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Posted by MrsSunflwr29

I am not asking her by any means to clean my house and I know that I dont pay her to be my house cleaner. But is it wrong of me to ask to clean up after herself. She made tuna for lunch today and left the cans with tuna in them in my sink, the fork to mix everything on the counter, and the trays of the highchairs with tuna remnants. When I walked in from work the smell almost knocked me over.

I guess I am just looking for common curtsey thats all. I remember when I used to watch kids while in college the mom asked me to make sure whatever I used for the day was cleaned up..Maybe I am wrong but I dont see it as housekeeping.



I don't think you're wrong at all. The tuna can should have been rinsed and the fork should have DEFINITELY been in the sink at least and the high chair cleaned off. Maybe she shouldnt' have to do the dishes but the house should look like it did when you left that morning except for dirty dishes.

Posted 10/14/09 8:49 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Posted by MrsSunflwr29

I am not asking her by any means to clean my house and I know that I dont pay her to be my house cleaner. But is it wrong of me to ask to clean up after herself. She made tuna for lunch today and left the cans with tuna in them in my sink, the fork to mix everything on the counter, and the trays of the highchairs with tuna remnants. When I walked in from work the smell almost knocked me over.

I guess I am just looking for common curtsey thats all. I remember when I used to watch kids while in college the mom asked me to make sure whatever I used for the day was cleaned up..Maybe I am wrong but I dont see it as housekeeping.




she should at least throw that stuff away. Not sure about putting the dishes in the dishwasher though. Maybe its too hectic. But the dishes should at least be in the sink. It takes 2 seconds to wipe down the high chair, maybe if you asked her she would start to do that? I hate dried up food on high chairs, it grosses me out

As for the computer - I dont see anything wrong with it as long as she isnt on there for house or the whole day. Its tough to sit and play with kids for 8 straight hours, esp if they dont na. She may need a break for a few minutes. As long as the kids are in the same room and there is nothing that can hurt them, IMO, i think its ok.

Message edited 10/14/2009 8:53:28 PM.

Posted 10/14/09 8:50 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Posted by DeniseMarie

Posted by MrsSunflwr29

I am not asking her by any means to clean my house and I know that I dont pay her to be my house cleaner. But is it wrong of me to ask to clean up after herself. She made tuna for lunch today and left the cans with tuna in them in my sink, the fork to mix everything on the counter, and the trays of the highchairs with tuna remnants. When I walked in from work the smell almost knocked me over.

I guess I am just looking for common curtsey thats all. I remember when I used to watch kids while in college the mom asked me to make sure whatever I used for the day was cleaned up..Maybe I am wrong but I dont see it as housekeeping.




she should at least throw that stuff away. Not sure about putting the dishes in the dishwasher though. Maybe its too hectic. But the dishes should at least be in the sink. It takes 2 seconds to wipe down the high chair, maybe if you asked her she would start to do that? I hate dried up food on high chairs, it grosses me out

As for the computer - I dont see anything wrong with it as long as she isnt on there for house or the whole day. Its tough to sit and play with kids for 8 straight hours, esp if they dont na. She may need a break for a few minutes. As long as the kids are in the same room and there is nothing that can hurt them, IMO, i think its ok.



I agree that she should clean up after herself.....that is her (and any adult's responsibility)....

Posted 10/14/09 8:58 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

I used to babysit and I always cleaned the dishes- even the dishes and coffee mugs that she left dirty when I got there. I was guilty of going on the computer though.

Posted 10/14/09 9:32 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Personally, I think it's common courtesy to at least rinse your dishes. You should by no means have to clean up after someone else after your work day. It takes 3 minutes to load a dishwasher and could be done while the kids are having lunch, etc.

Posted 10/14/09 9:43 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Did you ask her to clean up after herself?
She might not even realize that it's an issue.
If you've said something, and she's ignoring you, then you have a problem! But if you've never mentioned to her that you'd like her to clean up, you can't really get mad at her for not doing it.

The computer wouldn't bother me....I go on the computer when I'm alone with Lily....sometimes, I just need a little mental getaway!

Posted 10/14/09 10:40 PM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

I babysit a friends children a few times a month. Most of the time I do leave dirty dishes in the sink...always rinsed off. They are never from me...always stuff from the kids and never alot. I know many moms do it but it's hard to get it done while watching a 4 year old an 18 months old and a 4 month old. I ALWAYS have the house completely spotless as far as toys put back in the correct spot...blankets...pillows and clothes where they should be. I never ever go on the computer though although she wouldn't care if I did.

Posted 10/14/09 10:53 PM
 

SweetT
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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

I think the kitchen should be cleaned up--it's gross to leave that stuff out! However, I also think it's just common courtesy to do it, I make breakfast, clean up-load diswasher, etc. Say something!

Posted 10/15/09 11:20 AM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

Posted by MrsSunflwr29

My boys dont nap otherwise I wouldnt care what they do on their time.

As for the dishes it is the dishes from the day. Whatever she cooked for breakfast and lunch. Also the highchairs are never cleaned off. She could also put the dishes in the dishwasher. I just feel that when I come home I shouldnt have to clean up from breakfast and lunch.



They should absolutely be cleaning up after themselves and dc - you shouldn't have to come home to dishes in the sink - food on the table - and the like...
as for toys being all over the floor - i don't expect my mom to clean that up - but she always makes sure my kitchen is clean.

Posted 10/15/09 11:28 AM
 

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Re: ?s for People who pay family to watch kids in home

IMO regardless of whether or not you're paying a family member to watch your child in your home, I think it's common courtesy for you to come back to you home the way you left it -

I would never expect anyone to clean my bathroom or do my laundry - But if something spills, I'd expect it to be cleaned up - If the floor got to be a mess from, whatever ..I'd expect that the vacum be taken out for 2 minutes ....And I certainly wouldn't expect to come home to a sink full of dishes and a house that looked like a bomb hit it -

Isn't it just common courtesy to clean up after yourself ? And, the kid that you're caring for?

Posted 10/15/09 11:51 AM
 
 

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