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CrankyPants
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by CrankyPants
I'm the opposite-I love having people over and would probably rather do a casual playdate at my home than go to a park.
I don't care if people ever reciprocate. Especially with Owen, it's nice to have easy access to his stuff (toys, bottles, food, high chair) but I've just also been up for having people over. Gives me a reason to clean my house. Gives Claire the opportunity to learn to share her toys.
I like going out to parks and stuff too, but play dates at home just seem easy.
Plus, they are in daycare. It's nice that they can just relax at home sometimes.
As for the curse of the cul de sac-we only get a taste of that since a lot of the kids on our block are older. But, my very close friend cannot shake her next door neighbors. Those kids are there every day at 9 or 10 now that the summer is here (girlfriend and other mom are SAHM) and it's tough when she is trying to get out of there.
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
Posted by Janice
okay almost there.
so your coworker has a 2 year old, Luce is 2. she says lets get the boys together.
do you invite her to your home?
go to her home?
or meet at a park?
 
I would probably invite her over. I like to have people over. unless she had a better pool than me and it was hot.
I think it'd probably average to about 50/25/25.
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| Posted 7/20/10 9:46 AM |
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oops123
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
im a SAHM, and I can somewhat relate.
In all honesty its a PIA to have kids and moms over.
I am a neat freak, and I hate having to clean before and after a playdate,
also it becomes costly becasue i always feel that when people come into my home i must make them feel welcome,
which to me means putting out snacks,drinks and lunch, which winds up all over my floors.
I have a large home and good set up for the kids....
so other moms automatically assume that the playdate will always be at my house.
This may come off snobbish, but this is why i dont belong to a "moms group" or get too close with any moms in the neighborhood,
my kids dont ask for playdates becasue they have eachother(theyre 11 months apart)
have a lot of cousins and i have my close friends whom I grew up with...these are the playdates i do.
I would hate for another mom to assume that I love having her & her kids over so i could show off my house....Id much rather be home alone with my kids!!
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| Posted 7/20/10 10:04 AM |
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saraH
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
i work p/t, but am home most of the day with my 2 girls.
i have had one playdate with her friends from school at our house. it was fun and the kids loved running around the back yard.
I think the next one will be at the twins house, but I haven't asked and they haven't offered. I don't see it as a big deal, I'm not about to start anything over it.
And we don't belong to any moms group either. jusr don't have the energy.
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| Posted 7/20/10 10:07 AM |
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alisonggg
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
I'm just not a hoster (hostess lol) by nature. I hate having playdates at my house. I wasn't a hostess by nature before dd, I rarely entertained, I can count the number of times I have people over at my house per year on one hand, and that hasn't changed since having dd. I would MUCH rather meet at a public place (park, mall, lunch, library). I don't have a problem going to other peoples houses, but it makes me uncomfortable because I am not really comfortable reciprocating... It has nothing to do with my house (which is small but i'm by no means embarassed about it) it just has to do with my personality, I get antsy when I know I have to host... We get out alot and dd has lots of "friends" This is why I like play gyms, library classes, walks... I get to be social, dd gets to see other babies and no one has to host!
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| Posted 7/20/10 10:20 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
I'm a working mom. We are usually out and about on the weekends.
When we have #2, I'm going to be a SAHM. I will probably mix it up with playdates at our place as well as others. I look forward to hosting. I always feel like we go to others' homes but we never host.
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| Posted 7/20/10 10:20 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
I love entertaining and having people over, whether it's playdates, or adults!
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| Posted 7/20/10 10:22 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
I love having people over at our house, going to other houses, and meeting up somewhere outside equally. So, I guess I'm an equal opportunist 
People do tend to congregate at our house more often, just because we have a lot of space in our house, it's a ranch, so no risk of falling down stairs, and we have a huge backyard.
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| Posted 7/20/10 10:45 AM |
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Daisy32
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
Posted by katiebug
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I hate having people at my house. Mostly because I am embarassed. I have a nice home but, it is sooo small. It is only 750 square feet with one bedroom which we share with Liam. I feel like a life failure. I do have the perfectly fenced in yard and whatnot.. But, honestly, my housing situation sucks so bad and we are soo STUCK so I would just as soon not have any other parents in my house to see how bad it sucks to be my kid.
That being said.. invite me to your house or go somewhere..
However, I do invite people over if I am close to them... I just don't love to do it.
Hey I rent a 4 room apartment and share a room with my son. I just signed a lease for an apartment in Bay Ridge, (very excited), but I am no where near being able to buy a home.
It is not what you home looks like, but the love that fills it. If people can't see that when they enter your home then they are blind and don't deserve to be your friend.
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| Posted 7/20/10 10:47 AM |
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Eireann
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
I actually like hosting people, but haven't had playdates too often. I have a few reasons:
My house is pretty big, but it's not necessarily "play-date friendly." It's a colonial, so it doesn't have an open-floor plan really. So in the past, if the moms were in the dining room, we couldn't see what was going on in the living room, etc. I did remove part of that dividing wall this year so things are easier now though.
Up until earlier this year, I didn't have a playroom besides the bedrooms. I also don't think it's very prudent to have several 2 year olds upstairs unsupervised. This also changed this year...we finished the basement AND the girls are 3 and almost 5, so they can play by themselves on a different floor.
Backyard is not fenced, so again...not conducive to a bunch of 2 year olds, but it's fine now that everyone's older.
I don't have too many things boys would like here. That prevents me from hosting my friends' kids--who are MOSTLY boys!
My three weekly playdate moms are all from W. Nassau; I'm the loner in Queens.
When we were house-hunting, I fell in love with one block that had a ton of young families on it (I was pregnant with DD#1 at the time and it seemed like shangri-la at the time) and my DH said, "What are you kidding? That's your worst nightmare." I have to admit though, if that were my house now I'd probably be pulling my car all the way to the back of the house and running in through the back to escape!
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| Posted 7/20/10 11:01 AM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
Posted by momytobein2010
Oh man! DS is only 4m but I'm big enough for the swings! can I come over to play?
We're in an aprtment, its infant friendly, but I'm afraid for the toddler years, and having 2 toddlers here is too much for the space. So I don't imagine hosting in this apartment, but if I have a backyard like that, he!!s yeah!
You are welcome anytime!!! The yard is one of the biggest perks of getting laid off and turning the upstairs of your parents house into an "apt" while you save for a house. (besides the awesome relationship ds gets with grandma and grandpa of course)
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Posted by Janice
deb-we are coming over!!
cranky-we would have a beautiful relationship together.
The only shade we have is in the front yard so we frequently set up kiddie pool, playdough "station" and water table right there along we a couple chairs and just let Claire and friends have at it while we sit and chat while holding the babies.
We look like crackers but it's very relaxing
LOL...Janice, we are waiting with open arms for you!!! We just went to Laurie Berkner with Steph and Steven, only thing missing was Josh 
Cranky.....so funny you say that. The backyard is so shady that we set up the pool in the front/side so the sun will warm it up all morning!! Otherwise it's freeeeezing! I feel so ghetto, but who cares
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| Posted 7/20/10 11:14 AM |
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Janice
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
i grew up ghetto.
the patio was in the front yard and my father's garden took up the backyard...they was also an addition put on, so no back door...just front and side.
for that reason...picnic table in front yard. bbq in front yard.
never thought about it until i moved away and banished to a backyard. soooooo boring.
So, just got a call from a mom. Can I come over at 1. I figured I would throw it out there and said did you guys want to come here???
she laughed and said no. she can't wait to put baby down and she has a chicken going into the oven. but i can stay for dinner....going to go cut up my cantelope.
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| Posted 7/20/10 11:38 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
Posted by Janice
i grew up ghetto.
the patio was in the front yard and my father's garden took up the backyard...they was also an addition put on, so no back door...just front and side.
for that reason...picnic table in front yard. bbq in front yard.
never thought about it until i moved away and banished to a backyard. soooooo boring.
So, just got a call from a mom. Can I come over at 1. I figured I would throw it out there and said did you guys want to come here???
she laughed and said no. she can't wait to put baby down and she has a chicken going into the oven. but i can stay for dinner....going to go cut up my cantelope.
Look at you trying to change your stripes! Don't try too hard, there seems to be about 50/50 with those who love to host and those who don't so you're good, you're balancing the scales
Also, I am getting the sense that you like to mix it up a lot. I.e. if you always went to the same house for the same playdate you would be just as bored as sitting at your own home-maybe it's not the hosting but just that you have a taste for new and exciting things with the preschool set Like my online diagnosis? probably way off base
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CookiePuss
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
I like hosting. I have a lot of room inside and a great back yard (at least I think so).
I need to be doing something on my days off so I'm either out or hosting something. I like it like that.
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| Posted 7/20/10 12:20 PM |
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Re: RE: PLAYDATES Curse of the cul de sac...are you a TRUE stay at home mom? sahm and working moms...
Posted by alisonggg
I'm just not a hoster (hostess lol) by nature. I hate having playdates at my house. I wasn't a hostess by nature before dd, I rarely entertained, I can count the number of times I have people over at my house per year on one hand, and that hasn't changed since having dd. I would MUCH rather meet at a public place (park, mall, lunch, library). I don't have a problem going to other peoples houses, but it makes me uncomfortable because I am not really comfortable reciprocating... It has nothing to do with my house (which is small but i'm by no means embarassed about it) it just has to do with my personality, I get antsy when I know I have to host... We get out alot and dd has lots of "friends" This is why I like play gyms, library classes, walks... I get to be social, dd gets to see other babies and no one has to host!
I could have written this myself...we should be friends...where should we meet
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