Question about bringing a 3 month old to a wake

My FIL just passed away and, of course, I want to be at the wake for all the showings. My question is...for most of the showings my parents will be watching Paige, but the one showing that my parents will be at i will have noone to watch her. Do you think it would be bad if i brought her there for a couple of hours. I know that bringing a child is not always a good thing, but she is so young that she will not know whats going on.

Whats your thoughts????

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I think it is fine. Is it a day showing or night? At night it may be really crowded and I would keep her right outside the room in her carriage and stay with her of course or if it isnt so crowded I would go in and stay in the back. You are with family and friends. Sorry for your loss.

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I think it would be fine as long as your MIL is ok with it. I've seen plenty of babies at wakes.

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I think it is fine. I brought DS to my grandfathers wake (every showing) when he was 8 weeks.

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Of course!

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I haven't had to do it yet - but everyone who I know who has...was told seeing the baby is good for everyone and puts a smile on everyone's face. I would bring her.

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I think it has to do with the family. In my family it would be fine, but we are a pretty relaxed family. I would run it by your MIL or at least your DH to make sure it is OK.

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I had to bring Hayley when she was 10 months old to my grandmother's wake. She was there both days (day and night viewings). She was fine. My cousins entertained her and she either sat in her stroller or we walked around holding her. She napped in the stroller in the corner. Thankfully for the funeral my future SIL's mother offerred to watch her for me.

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I am sorry for your loss.

My Grandmother very recently passed & I have a 10 month old little cousin. He was there for the evening showings. It did lighten things up , as someone had posted. He crawled around a litlle bit & when things got a little crowded- we did shifts outside walking him in the stroller.
The children are part of the family too - and we knew my Grandmother wouldn't have had it any other way! She loved the babies and would have thought it no big deal for them to be theri!
Hope this helps. And again I am sorry.

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I had to 2 it 2 times already. Once when she was 7 weeks and once when she was 3 months. I dont think its a big deal to bring the baby I just didnt bring her anywhere near the casket.

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I think it's fine. After all it's her grandfather.

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I unfortunately had a funeral to attend recently with my DS. Ppl thought it was nice to see my LO since it is a happy new life to think about. Plus he was so young no one had seen him yet...about 3 mo

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I think it should be fine.
I had to bring DS to a funeral last month and the relatives said bringing him brought smiles to their faces.

ETA: I am sorry for your loss.

Message edited 4/22/2007 6:46:36 PM.

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I agree I think it is fine I have had this fear too because my grandfather is very ill and this does cross your mind of what you will need to do. I will bring my DD too and she is 15 months I will just keep her outside if I have to. She doesnt stay with anyone but my family and they would all be there.
Im so sorry for your loss

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We brought DD to a wake at about 3 months. It was not a direct relative but she was welcomed and brought a smile to people there - which turned out to be beneficial to a lot of people!

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Jenny I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL!!!!

I'm pretty sure its late now, but I brought Hannah to a wake at 3 months because everyone I knew was going and didn't have a sitter. It actually made people happy to see "new life" in a time of sorrow.

Please give hugs to Patrick for us

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dd came with us to my grandma's wake/funeral the day she came home from the hospital

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I am sorry for your loss.

I personally would bring you child and see no problem with it. My poor son has been too so many and been to all the viewings and no one minded (family of course - his great grandparents on DH's side and my father). His first was at six months. Everyone always said it was what helped them get thru the days!

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My son has been to so many wakes. We don't have anyone to watch him most of the time. He was at one last night.

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Without a doubt! A very close uncle of mine passed away when DS was 4 months old. I brought him with me to all of the wakes (2 full days) and he was fine. It was definately a help to my family to have a little baby there.

I'm sorry about your loss

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Sorry fo your loss

I too have been to too many wakes, funerals and shiva calls in Jeremy's 7 months. I have brought him to each one. Each one we went to, everyone loved seeing a baby. He brought a smile to everone's faces.

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Like the others said i would make sure your MIL was okay with it but i really see no issue with it. My aunt just passed and there was a baby there. Made some people smile at a really sad time.

I know my cousins did not want their older kids at the wake of their grandmother because they would ask too many questions and not understand but a baby is not an issue.