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klingklang77
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
I don’t think it’s rude. I leave my phone on do not disturb from 12-10 AM. I get plenty of messages in the middle of the night because of the time zone difference (+6 hours), so I needed DND. I also send out texts to the US and Australia in the middle of the night there because of the time difference.
I can’t be bothered with keeping up with time zones and being polite. It’s a global world. Get with the program.
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Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
I’d say it’s inconsiderate. I don’t put my phone on silent at night, but I never even hear the “dings” of texts I receive. Guess I’m a heavy sleeper. I text with my friends before 7am cause I know we’re all up getting the kids ready for school.
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| Posted 9/21/19 7:56 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by klingklang77
I don’t think it’s rude. I leave my phone on do not disturb from 12-10 AM. I get plenty of messages in the middle of the night because of the time zone difference (+6 hours), so I needed DND. I also send out texts to the US and Australia in the middle of the night there because of the time difference.
I can’t be bothered with keeping up with time zones and being polite. It’s a global world. Get with the program.
True but if you know you are in the same time zone as someone, there is no need to text them at a time they may be sleeping.
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| Posted 9/21/19 8:23 AM |
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nel
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
I feel like we must be the only household left where we have actual alarm clocks and keep our phones on a different floor when we go to sleep at night. (The only time my phone is next to me at night is when we're away, and then I put it on DND the minute I get in bed.) So in other words -- no, it would never occur to me that this could be rude, but I'd never hear the text anyway. (Also, I agree with what everyone said about people being on different schedules.)
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| Posted 9/21/19 9:01 AM |
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KateBennetReel
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Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
I love this topic.
Starting a new text at 5am - could be an email, and a follow-up text at 9am with a "check your email" for my cranky contacts.
People text me after 8 pm, I usually won't see it until 5am. My sleep pattern is weird, and most know it, but don't remember because it's unusual. So my contacts do get my replies, not starting a text but a reply back the next morning when I have the time.
By 9am, I'm in full swing.
I also don't live with my cell phone by my side all day & night. I don't have my phone on me for the majority of the day. I keep my ringer off unless I'm expecing a call/text. It's on dnd from 10pm-7am. I only get notifications from an app or 2, nothing major. I check it periodically when I'm ready for checking things on my phone. I've learned to set my personal boundaries with this electronic intruder of life! j/k ;) It's a great tool when I use it accordingly.
If I make a comment on an insta post at 5am, and you get instant notifications, I wouldn't think it's rude either.
That's just my life.
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| Posted 9/21/19 9:09 AM |
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shadows
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Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Not rude. I actually would have thought more people would keep their texts on silent - otherwise it must get really annoying all day? My phone is silent for texts but sound for calls. And in an emergency I’d assume someone would call.
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| Posted 9/21/19 10:06 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by klingklang77
I don’t think it’s rude. I leave my phone on do not disturb from 12-10 AM. I get plenty of messages in the middle of the night because of the time zone difference (+6 hours), so I needed DND. I also send out texts to the US and Australia in the middle of the night there because of the time difference.
I can’t be bothered with keeping up with time zones and being polite. It’s a global world. Get with the program.
True but if you know you are in the same time zone as someone, there is no need to text them at a time they may be sleeping.
But you don't always know a persons schedule, I mean you rarely do. This is why I don't think it's rude to send a text. And if it bothers the receiver, all they have to do is communicate it to the sender.
I think saying the person is rude straight out the gate is kind of harsh and this person who is texting at 5, may be up by 4am and in bed by 7. Then if I text that person at 8pm, am I rude? And the vicious cycle of our debate continues. lol. I believe there is too many variations of this to draw a line of when it is rude and it isn't. To me if I say don't text or call at a certain time and you still do it, then you are rude.
Rude is when you disregard someones feelings or the situation for your own needs. I really feel like telling or implying that someone is rude because they text before 9am is kind of rude on my part. I am calling this person out because i don't agree with it or it doesn't fit with my schedule. (Not saying anyone on this thread is doing this or rude, I know this is just a discussion). Does that make sense? I feel like "we" as society make up these rules of etiquette without realizing the age we live in, cultural backgrounds, demographics etc.
Sorry for the long tangent. Also I am going to send you an FM about the black shirt you bought. lol
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| Posted 9/21/19 10:23 AM |
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jeanyus27
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by shadows
Not rude. I actually would have thought more people would keep their texts on silent - otherwise it must get really annoying all day? My phone is silent for texts but sound for calls. And in an emergency I’d assume someone would call.
This!
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| Posted 9/21/19 10:54 AM |
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jlm2008
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Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
There is no reason on God's green earth why I have to keep my phone on silent or do not disturb because people do not want to adhere to etiquette . My phone has to stay on 24/7 for a multitude of reasons, and I am not the only one. Im just very happy that I am not friends with any of you. And yes, some people do text in emergencies...silly, yes imo. But I have gotten a few emergency ( not quite life or death, but serious) texts in my life.
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| Posted 9/21/19 11:25 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by nel
I feel like we must be the only household left where we have actual alarm clocks and keep our phones on a different floor when we go to sleep at night. (The only time my phone is next to me at night is when we're away, and then I put it on DND the minute I get in bed.) So in other words -- no, it would never occur to me that this could be rude, but I'd never hear the text anyway. (Also, I agree with what everyone said about people being on different schedules.)
That's what I do. I sleep upstairs, and my phone is downstairs.
It's also rude to text between 7am and 6pm, because that's when most people are at work. 5pm to 7pm is rude because people are usually eating. 7pm to 10pm is "family time", so it's rude to text then, too. 10pm to 7am is rude because it's sleep time....
My BIL works the 2nd shift, so anything before 2pm is rude.
If a group text bothers you, just silence that one group or individual. That way, that group never bothers you, and you still get texts from everyone else.
I try to keep my texts from between 7am and 10pm unless I know the individual. However, if someone texts me at any time, I don't find it rude. I don't have to respond immediately to any type of electronic communication. If it's an emergency, they'll call.
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PatsBrat
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
It’s possible to set an iPhone up (I can’t speak for any other phone because i don’t have them) to allow calls and texts from certain people to come through, even when in Do Not Disturb mode. You can also pick certain text threads to be silenced, so while you get the texts you receive no alerts. I thought this was common knowledge that everyone used. It’s why I don’t care who texts me when. My phone is set up for my comfort and sanity. I also text others at MY convenience because I thought everyone has their phone programmed similarly. Guess I was wrong. #sorrynotsorry
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Sash
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by PatsBrat
It’s possible to set an iPhone up (I can’t speak for any other phone because i don’t have them) to allow calls and texts from certain people to come through, even when in Do Not Disturb mode. You can also pick certain text threads to be silenced, so while you get the texts you receive no alerts. I thought this was common knowledge that everyone used. It’s why I don’t care who texts me when. My phone is set up for my comfort and sanity. I also text others at MY convenience because I thought everyone has their phone programmed similarly. Guess I was wrong. #sorrynotsorry
You can do all of this on your iPhone, so you are correct. I mute family group threads during work hours sometimes because they can go bananas and my phone vibrates for text messages. You can add someone to your favorites and they will be able to call you if your phone is on DND, you can also expand to your contacts or everyone. Secondly you can restrict all calls while on DND but if a person calls you a second time within 3 minutes it will go through.
I’m sure other phones on an updated OS should have this capability such as Android etc.
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by jlm2008
Ruder than rude. Unless you know for a fact someone wants to be texted at that time. The "rule" is/was no calls before 9am or after 9pm, obviously not for close family/friends ...people you actually know. The problem is the millennials were never taught and/or don't care about etiquette. Only text me at 5am if your dying, and if that is the case, you should really call 911 as I won't be able to help you, lol.
Wow--way to make a wild, sweeping generalization about an entire generation. I am a millennial and was taught etiquette; I'm sorry that in the early 1990s, my parents did not foretell the coming of texting and teach me the appropriate times for doing so. 
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LuckyStar
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
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Posted by jlm2008
Ruder than rude. Unless you know for a fact someone wants to be texted at that time. The "rule" is/was no calls before 9am or after 9pm, obviously not for close family/friends ...people you actually know. The problem is the millennials were never taught and/or don't care about etiquette. Only text me at 5am if your dying, and if that is the case, you should really call 911 as I won't be able to help you, lol.
Wow--way to make a wild, sweeping generalization about an entire generation. I am a millennial and was taught etiquette; I'm sorry that in the early 1990s, my parents did not foretell the coming of texting and teach me the appropriate times for doing so.
Millennials aren’t awake at 5am. None of us work. We all live in our parents’ basements because no one taught us to “adult.”
So which one is it? We’re up at the crack of dawn texting or we’re lazy, entitled sh!ts? Can’t be both.
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| Posted 9/21/19 7:40 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
rude
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drpepper318
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
I get very annoyed when my MIL texts us some nonsense at 6 am on the weekend! So yeah I guess it’s rude. I’d say after 9:30pm and before 8am... unless you know the person is awake for sure.
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| Posted 9/21/19 10:37 PM |
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Sash
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Posted by jlm2008
Ruder than rude. Unless you know for a fact someone wants to be texted at that time. The "rule" is/was no calls before 9am or after 9pm, obviously not for close family/friends ...people you actually know. The problem is the millennials were never taught and/or don't care about etiquette. Only text me at 5am if your dying, and if that is the case, you should really call 911 as I won't be able to help you, lol.
Wow--way to make a wild, sweeping generalization about an entire generation. I am a millennial and was taught etiquette; I'm sorry that in the early 1990s, my parents did not foretell the coming of texting and teach me the appropriate times for doing so.
Millennials aren’t awake at 5am. None of us work. We all live in our parents’ basements because no one taught us to “adult.”
So which one is it? We’re up at the crack of dawn texting or we’re lazy, entitled sh!ts? Can’t be both.
I’m the one that said I “doubt” millennial are up at 5 am texting in another post. But I was actually defending the generation by saying I doubt they are the guilty since some brought them up. In that post someone reference millennials and I used that term. But I probably should’ve said younger generation and possibly those who aren’t parents yet. I also didn’t mean to imply they don’t work because they get in at 10.
In my job usually the older people, are in the office earlier but leave earlier (esp. if they already have to drop kids off). Where the younger crowd comes in later but will stay later.
To add to your post: I’m not a millennial and I will text at 7am. But the people in my circle know how to use a cell phone. Can someone please tell me where this 9am time came from? Cracks me up 
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jellybelly79
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
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Funny - I keep my texts on silent all the time, so I don’t find it rude at all.
Same
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PitterPatter11
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by Sash
Can someone please tell me where this 9am time came from? Cracks me up
I was thinking the same thing. If you’re working, aren’t you up way before 9?
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| Posted 9/22/19 8:03 AM |
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Bonsai
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Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Put the group on do not disturb.
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| Posted 9/22/19 8:43 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by PitterPatter11
Posted by Sash
Can someone please tell me where this 9am time came from? Cracks me up
I was thinking the same thing. If you’re working, aren’t you up way before 9?
I know.. I am in the office at like 8:45-9:15 most days, which, is when I really can’t text. So if you don’t want me to be rude and not respond for hours or forget, like mentioned in another posts, then I have to respond before 9am.
You’re rude if you don’t text back right away or forget, but you are also rude if you text when it’s convenient for you. I literally can’t with all the rules.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by jlm2008
There is no reason on God's green earth why I have to keep my phone on silent or do not disturb because people do not want to adhere to etiquette . My phone has to stay on 24/7 for a multitude of reasons, and I am not the only one. Im just very happy that I am not friends with any of you. And yes, some people do text in emergencies...silly, yes imo. But I have gotten a few emergency ( not quite life or death, but serious) texts in my life.
There is no FORMAL texting etiquette and what annoys one person, doesn't matter to another.
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| Posted 9/22/19 10:41 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Who knew this was such a hot button issue?
3 pages and counting. Damn!
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| Posted 9/22/19 11:12 AM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by NervousNell
Who knew this was such a hot button issue?
3 pages and counting. Damn!
we may be creating the rules right now!
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| Posted 9/22/19 11:14 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Opinion: Is it rude to answer a text message at 5:10am?
Posted by Mushesgirl
Posted by NervousNell
Who knew this was such a hot button issue?
3 pages and counting. Damn!
we may be creating the rules right now!
Then we can send our proposal to the Mobile Device Committee.
I really commented to try to get this to 4 pages.
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