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One more Facebook pet peeve...

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maybebaby
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One more Facebook pet peeve...

...not sure if this bothers anyone else but i think this bothers me more than the other stuff..

CRYPTIC POSTS. Xelindra wrote something about that in the last FB post and it got me thinking..

I really don't get why people have to post things that seem so awful, or seem very major...but then they don't say anything else about it.

For example..

"Heartbroken. Truly devastated". (a recent post by my aunt...no other posts ever followed, we had to call her to make sure she was ok. I think my uncles basketball team he coaches didn't make it to finals..")

OR...

Things like "The waiting is the worst part. Need all the prayers you have"

OK. I am not saying people aren't entitled to post what they want. I get that. But if you are going to expose the problem to your friends on FB, why not fill us in? I have sent private messages in the past when there was posts like this, and usually things are fine...

Anyway, just something i noticed. I am never cryptic. If i need prayers or am really upset by something, i'll fill you in IF i'm going as far as to post it to the world!

Posted 3/2/11 7:24 AM
 
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jgl
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

I agree... It is attention seeking!!!

Posted 3/2/11 7:26 AM
 

yankinmanc
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Ah, the old cryptic message trick. I hate it.

Posted 3/2/11 7:27 AM
 

BeachMom
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

I have to say that yes they are annoying. I have been known to post somethings like that, usually dont intend for them to be cryptic. It's usually at someone specific and that person knows who it is, but then after i get replies i realize how many others are interpreting it soooo differently than i intended so i dont post anything like that anymore.

Posted 3/2/11 7:28 AM
 

maybebaby
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Posted by jgl

I agree... It is attention seeking!!!



Yes, i think this is what bothers me.

I don't mind when people are just being cryptic about everyday things..like "oh this is going to be a long day, sigh.." and you don't know what they have going on.

It's the messages that seem so upsetting that get tons of replies. And the person doesn't sign back on to update. Or when they do (3 days later) they go "oh thank you, wow so many people care about me, yay!! things are great, false alarm!" lol...


I obviously don't want anything bad to happen to anyone...its just that it leaves people scratching their heads or genuinely scared...which i don't feel is right.

Posted 3/2/11 7:32 AM
 

MrsSpring
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

i def agree.

Posted 3/2/11 7:35 AM
 

julesrbf
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

These have annoyed me since the days of AIM away messages! I think it's completely juvenile and attention-seeking, and I never bother to give them the satisfaction of asking. I figure if it's really important, I'll be told.

Posted 3/2/11 8:09 AM
 

headoverheels
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Posted by jgl

I agree... It is attention seeking!!!



ITA. My sister does it all the time, it's a ploy for her friends to ask her what's wrong so she can garner sympathy she may or may not deserve Chat Icon

Posted 3/2/11 8:10 AM
 

MarathonKnitter
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

i agree!!

i refuse to ask "what's wrong?"
if the person is close enough to me, i'll find out or i will ask via a phone call/text msg.

Posted 3/2/11 8:14 AM
 

TreAnt427
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

It's called "Vague-Booking" Chat Icon

I hate it too. If you don't want to post what it's about - don't post at all!

I don't comment on them either.

Posted 3/2/11 8:51 AM
 

buttercup
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Posted by jgl

I agree... It is attention seeking!!!



totally..

Posted 3/2/11 8:54 AM
 

hbugal
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Very attention seeking....

Posted 3/2/11 9:07 AM
 

Christine
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

I am just like whatever when I see posts like that. If it's someone I am closer to, I give hugs otherwise I keep reading.

Posted 3/2/11 9:25 AM
 

jilliibabii
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

It's just to get attention. They just want people to ask "What's wrong?"

Posted 3/2/11 9:31 AM
 

brassmunky
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

is that what it is? cuz sometimes, i think they just don't know how to use social media.

Posted 3/2/11 2:10 PM
 

RocPin
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

This is my #1 pet peeve on FB.

Im always paranoid wondering if I did something to that person.

My mom actually posted one day

"....hates when people don't respond to your text messages"

so I commented under it with:

"...hates when people post cryptic shhizz on FB and makes everyone wonder if you are talking about them!"

She texted me immediately to tell me she wasnt talking about me..Chat Icon

Posted 3/2/11 2:37 PM
 

ndblovah
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

I loathe these kind of posts. It's annoying and attention seeking. I have someone on my list who does it once a week. Click hide post.

Posted 3/2/11 2:37 PM
 

Daisy32
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Posted by jgl

I agree... It is attention seeking!!!



yup!!!

Posted 3/2/11 2:40 PM
 

Otherme
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

well.. i'll admit i've been guilty of this

i went through two years of TTC'ing and IF treatments with only a very small handful of family and/or friends knowing anything about it

sometimes i needed to vent and i would post something that wasn't specific but obviously cryptic to most people, but to anyone that knew what we were going through, they'd understand

if someone was confused by my post, i'd generally get a message asking if everything was ok, and i'd just reply that i was going thru medical issues and yes, all was ok.

it wasn't meant to garner sympathy or attention - infact i didn't want anyone to know what i was specifically posting about. it was for ME, to vent about what i was feeling.

Posted 3/2/11 2:46 PM
 

Xelindrya
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

funny because I got one from my sister just recently that said "Hopefully its not as bad as I think it is :("

Then she left me a msg saying "Tried to call you, need to talk" I left her 4 vmg on her phone, I msged her back on FB, posted on her status "Hope all is well, call your big sis"

She's 20 and wild so I hate to say but I'm hoping she's not preggo. She NEVER calls me and so this was out of the norm.

3days go by, no return call, no updates. Then I see "Great party with my baby (bf)" and the next day "Going out today shopping for new shoes, and then date night with the man"

So I guess all is ok but thanks for the mini heart attack

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Its my SIL who put a cryptic one about her bf. I mean come on people! If you're gonna put it out there, just SAY it already!!! What's with all the games?!

Posted 3/2/11 2:51 PM
 

maybebaby
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Posted by Otherme

well.. i'll admit i've been guilty of this

i went through two years of TTC'ing and IF treatments with only a very small handful of family and/or friends knowing anything about it

sometimes i needed to vent and i would post something that wasn't specific but obviously cryptic to most people, but to anyone that knew what we were going through, they'd understand

if someone was confused by my post, i'd generally get a message asking if everything was ok, and i'd just reply that i was going thru medical issues and yes, all was ok.

it wasn't meant to garner sympathy or attention - infact i didn't want anyone to know what i was specifically posting about. it was for ME, to vent about what i was feeling.




See..I view this as totally different! I think that is in a complete different category...

I was just referring to the types others posted about...attention seeking for things that are VERY small problems. Posts like "ugh, i can't stand people" that are non specific attention seeking posts that mean very little...

I would never think twice about what you wrote..I have a dear friend going through year 3 of IF and she will write very vague vents but i understand where she is coming from and she is one of those who most certainly have a right to do so...it's the others who THINK they have problems but dont..

Posted 3/2/11 2:57 PM
 

MrsKS
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

UGH I COULDN'T AGREE MORE WITH YOU!!

SO MUCH SO THAT I NEEDED TO PUT THIS IN CAPS!!!!!!

I HAVE LOTS OF FRIENDS THAT DO THIS. IT ANNOYS ME.

Posted 3/2/11 3:02 PM
 

Nik211
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

Posted by Otherme

well.. i'll admit i've been guilty of this

i went through two years of TTC'ing and IF treatments with only a very small handful of family and/or friends knowing anything about it

sometimes i needed to vent and i would post something that wasn't specific but obviously cryptic to most people, but to anyone that knew what we were going through, they'd understand

if someone was confused by my post, i'd generally get a message asking if everything was ok, and i'd just reply that i was going thru medical issues and yes, all was ok.

it wasn't meant to garner sympathy or attention - infact i didn't want anyone to know what i was specifically posting about. it was for ME, to vent about what i was feeling.




sort of a similair scenario here with the ttc/miscarriage/medical issues....but if you know whats going on with me you'll get my posts and if not you'll have no idea what i'm talking about - BUT almost all of my posts are like that not just the wishy washy ones (and i try not to post a lot of those) i think its part of my sense of humor/personality and also being sarcastic makes a lot of things sound more cryptic and sometimes i can be very very sarcastic...i always try to be very vague though (when it comes to most of my updates - thats just my style i guess) - and again part of my personality i think...its not for attention getting though...

i just looked at my page and i see a lot of vague things i write that only my friends know what im talking about...i wrote "stoopid clouds" the other day (people who know i was watching the shuttle launch would know what that meant) but other people would be like *** is this girl talking about Chat Icon so like i said a lot of my updates may come off as mysterious/vague

Message edited 3/2/2011 3:04:35 PM.

Posted 3/2/11 3:03 PM
 

ali120206
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

I agree - I had posted this on the other fb post. If you aren't going to share all of the details, don't share at all.

Posted 3/2/11 3:25 PM
 

JessInCA
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Re: One more Facebook pet peeve...

I hate that.

Or when they post something cryptic, someone DOES ask what's wrong, and the response is something along the lines of "I'll tell you later, call me."

So... it's OK to let the entire world know you have a problem, but only certain people get to know what it is. Right. I'd almost rather they not respond at all.

Posted 3/2/11 3:35 PM
 
 

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