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ruby
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My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
So, my grandma, the center of my universe, passed away on Saturday. She had been sick with cancer for a couple of years and was receiving at home hospice care for the past 2 weeks, so it was not a surprise. But my heart is broken and I'm beyond devastated.
The baby part of it is, I've been so stressed out and emotional and crying for the past few days. Between her wakes and her funeral yesterday, I haven't slept more than a few hours each night. And i've just lost my appetite. Yesterday I got a good lunch down, but that's it. Today, well it's 1ish now and the only thing I had today so far was a fruit shake and a bottle of water. I'm just not hungry. And i'm worried about how this and all the stress and emotion is affecting the baby.....is this something I should be super concerned about? Should I see my dr.? I don't know which way is up right now....
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
Force yourself to relax and tell yourself it's for the good of the baby and you know that your Grandma would not want to see you upset 
Take a breather. Go for a walk by yourself for a bit and appreciate all the good things in life. Although you have been through a tough week, things are slowly getting better and I am sure the pain will go away day by day.
to you and your baby!
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:28 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I am so sorry about your grandma
As for you, your grandma would want you to take care of that little baby in your belly, so just try your best to eat little snacks if you can't get meals down.
Again, I am so sorry.
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:29 PM |
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snowflake08
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I am so sorry about your loss
As for the baby, the baby is and will be fine
Of course, you dont want to go on this way too long, but plenty of people have suffered losses and emotional strain and stress - i know its hard, but dont worry
the baby gets whatever it needs from you
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:31 PM |
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mommy-of-2-angels
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
sorry to hear of your loss it's never easy to say good bye to a loved one but it seemd that you are still early enough that the eating part should be OK cause early on most people dont eat much anyway but do your best but try to drink more water though...As far as the stress I hope that gets a little better I am not sure if it does affect a pregnancy but I am sure it's not too good. I wish you the best of luck and hope all works out but I guess the best thing to do is if things dont get better to see your doc about alternative ideas
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:32 PM |
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
Posted by ruby
So, my grandma, the center of my universe, passed away on Saturday. She had been sick with cancer for a couple of years and was receiving at home hospice care for the past 2 weeks, so it was not a surprise. But my heart is broken and I'm beyond devastated.
The baby part of it is, I've been so stressed out and emotional and crying for the past few days. Between her wakes and her funeral yesterday, I haven't slept more than a few hours each night. And i've just lost my appetite. Yesterday I got a good lunch down, but that's it. Today, well it's 1ish now and the only thing I had today so far was a fruit shake and a bottle of water. I'm just not hungry. And i'm worried about how this and all the stress and emotion is affecting the baby.....is this something I should be super concerned about? Should I see my dr.? I don't know which way is up right now....
First of all I want to say how sorry I am about the loss of your grandma.
I recently lose my grandma as well. She was ill with cancer for a while now.
Please try and relax and take it easy so that you and the baby can be healthy. Look at it this way that it is better that she is resting peacefully than be alive and suffering. This is what I said to myself and it helps me to cope better with the loss.
If you should need someone to talk please FM me.
My heart goes out to you.
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:37 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I'm so sorry...
you're lack of appetite and stress is normal.... but do your best to adjust. Maybe go out with friends or find other distractions. I usually do this when I am grieving, and it helps me eat and destress.
You likely should speak to your Dr and tell them of the situation. It's always best to keep him/her informed.
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:38 PM |
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ruby
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
Thank you ladies for the hugs. I know it will get better, but it's like the stress of that now coupled with the stress of how the stress is affecting the baby.
ugh, I need to take a nap. I just asked work if I could go home and they said yes. We buried her yesterday and I think I overestimated my ability to get back to work and concentrate so soon. I thought work would be a good distraction but I think I just need more rest.
I am going to try my hardest to get more food down and relax. More fruit is in the back of my head right now, so maybe i'll eat more of that since it's the only thing not completely turning me off.
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:39 PM |
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wynter323
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
Sorry to hear about your grandma. Maybe just relaxing could help you out.
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:41 PM |
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I am so very sorry to hear about your grandma... I know how special mine is to me.. Having a precious baby inside of you should shed some light, if not force you to try to stay positive through a really difficult time. Try renting some good movies, get a tub of icecream, light some candles and sit back and relax. I hope you feel better soon
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:45 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:46 PM |
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Disneygirl
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
So sorry for your loss. I lost my father to cancer as well while I was pregnant and went on to have a healthy baby girl. Just try to rest as much as you can and keep eating small meals if you don't have an appetite.
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| Posted 7/17/08 1:53 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I am truly sorry for your loss. Sadly, I know how difficult it is to lose someone close to you at what is supposed to be the happiest time in your life as my mother passed away when I had been 5 months pregnant.
However, I was not able to "purge" myself of the emotions I needed to because I was afraid that I would do harm to my child in regard to heart rate (mine and hers) or possibly something else. I went to my doctor for a "peace of mind" visit. My blood pressure and the baby's were both fine. The sonogram also showed that she was fine as well. I had asked him if the stress of someone's passing of someone could inadvertently cause undue stress to the child and he said "no" unless you had a pre-existing condition that you were already monitored for (i.e. high BP or heart issues) It was better to release the emotions you have than bottle them up.
Eventually I had my emotional purging and it helped a lot. I still have them. I simply cannot live with pent up stress and expect this little girl inside of me NOT to feel it on some level.
If I were to offer you advice, it would be to allow yourself to feel what you need to feel and release it. If seeing your doctor gives you peace of mind, then go. Try to eat if you can. FM me if you need to vent or if you need anything. We can lean on each other.
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SweetTooth
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I think you need to do what you have to to grieve. I read an article once on how grief, emotion and stress can effect an unborn baby - and the article said that the pregnant wives of men who were lost in 9/11 gave birth to healthy babies - so the babies are very safe in there. If you feel you need help, talk to someone. I know this must be a very difficult time for you, so talking to your doctor might give you some reassurance.
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| Posted 7/17/08 2:25 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
i think all the PPs gave you wonderful advice, but i wanted to say how sorry i am for your loss. i totally understand what you mean about your grandmother being the center of your universe
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| Posted 7/17/08 2:57 PM |
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mia818
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
i am very sorry to hear about your grandma. just start trying to take care of yourself
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| Posted 7/17/08 2:58 PM |
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want2beamom
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I am so sorry
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| Posted 7/17/08 2:59 PM |
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
Posted by SweetTooth
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I think you need to do what you have to to grieve. I read an article once on how grief, emotion and stress can effect an unborn baby - and the article said that the pregnant wives of men who were lost in 9/11 gave birth to healthy babies - so the babies are very safe in there. If you feel you need help, talk to someone. I know this must be a very difficult time for you, so talking to your doctor might give you some reassurance.
I really agree with this. The events of 9-11 were probably among the highest stressful events in one's life, and all those women who were pg had healthy babies. I think of this all the time so it hopefully will console you to know that the baby will be safe if it is healthy and you are healthy. Stress is a normal part of life, even extreme stress, in some cases.
I am so sorry about the loss of your grandma.  Just grieve whatever way you can to release the emotions.
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| Posted 7/17/08 3:06 PM |
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
Posted by neener1211
I am so sorry about your grandma
As for you, your grandma would want you to take care of that little baby in your belly, so just try your best to eat little snacks if you can't get meals down.
Again, I am so sorry.
I agree....grandma would want you to take care of the baby.....i am so sorry for your loss.....but take care of yourself!
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| Posted 7/17/08 4:05 PM |
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hunnybunnyxoxo
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
sorry to hear about your grandmother!!
maybe try eating yogurt or fruit...
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| Posted 7/17/08 4:42 PM |
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Re: My grandma died this weekend and I need help (baby related)
I'm so sorry you lost your grandma. your baby is your number one priority right now. you have to talk yourself into calming down and just thinking about your baby. Especially the not eating, you have to eat just as you were before. you have a little one relying on you for every thing. even if you are not hungry you MUST eat. you aslo need your rest. I know it's hard but you have to take care you the two of you now. you should call your doc and tell them what is going on, I'm sure they would have good suggestions.
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