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hope07
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Moms who use family member for child care

For those who have mom or mil watch kids while you work... do you pay them if so how much? I would feel so bad not paying my parents anything, even though they probably wouldnt take it. I just feel like its such an important and difficult job. What do you think is fair??

Message edited 12/19/2006 8:47:14 PM.

Posted 12/19/06 8:38 PM
 
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nymommy2be
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Re: Mom who use family member for child care

My FIL watches my son 2 days a week and we dont pay him. It might be different if it was 5 days.

Posted 12/19/06 8:43 PM
 

LIMOMx2
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My Family watched Andrew and no I do not pay them.

I tried and they were so insulted that I even offered. I do pay for all the diapers, food, bottles, wipes, etc for them.

Posted 12/19/06 8:45 PM
 

CheeChee
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My MIL watches Jacob 3 days a week and i do not pay her. She says watching him grow is payment enuf! Works for me!!

And if she ever asked for money then i would just take him to a daycare, i feel if i'm going to pay then i want him to be stimulated and around other children his age.

Posted 12/19/06 8:59 PM
 

Faithx2
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My mom watches my DD 12 hours a week and I do not pay her. She yelled at me when I mentioned it. I surprise my parents with tickets and little gifts often to say thank you. Edited to add that my mom is retired.

Message edited 12/19/2006 9:35:22 PM.

Posted 12/19/06 9:22 PM
 

CarrieAnn
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

oppss...sent you FM

Message edited 12/19/2006 9:34:25 PM.

Posted 12/19/06 9:33 PM
 

Diane
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

Posted by 5ofClubs

My Family watched Andrew and no I do not pay them.

I tried and they were so insulted that I even offered. I do pay for all the diapers, food, bottles, wipes, etc for them.




same here

Posted 12/19/06 9:36 PM
 

Eireann
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My mom and my MIL watch Katherine and I do not pay either one. My cousin watches her on Fridays and she watches kids for a living. I pay her $40 for about 9am-3pm.

Posted 12/19/06 9:45 PM
 

JTK
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

my mom watches my kids two days a week and i pay her 200 a month. at first she wouldn't take it but then i reminded her that she feeds them all day long as well! 200 is much better that paying a daycare!

Posted 12/19/06 9:47 PM
 

MamaNDaddyof3
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

I used to watch my nephew almost everyday and never got paid but when I need my car fixed or have a flat or anything else BIL does it so it was kind of a barter system

Posted 12/19/06 10:23 PM
 

monkeybride
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

We pay my mom $10 an hour when she watches DD the days I work. We don't pay her if she watches her and we go out on a date. She just does that for us. My mom needs the money and babysits for us instead of getting a PT job so it wouldn't be fair not to pay her.

Posted 12/20/06 1:31 AM
 

Sassyz75
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

my mom will be watching DD for us- if we did pay her- she'd just wind up taking the money and putting it back into an acccount for DD.
but we will probably get her a nice GC to a restaurant every other month or so.

Posted 12/20/06 7:39 AM
 

dottiemchugh
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My mom watches Ryan. She would never take a dime for doing so. she even buys the diapers, food, A&D, wipes, etc. I have tried to offer to buy those things but she never lets me.

Posted 12/20/06 8:11 AM
 

2003fallwedding
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My SIL watches DD and yes we pay her. She watches her 3 days and Monday night (my nephew has Kung Foo and she has to take DD with her).

Posted 12/20/06 8:55 AM
 

Kate
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My mom watches Ryan everyday. I have offered to pay her, but she doesn't want it. We are trying to make up for it at the holidays with generous gifts! Chat Icon

Posted 12/20/06 9:09 AM
 

justme1
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My parents help me with the kids a few days a week and when I once asked if they wanted anything in return they got upset with me and told me " just to be able to spend time with the kids is payback enough"
I figured they would say that. I dont understand how any family member would take money to watch their own family.UNLESS it took the place maybe of them working somewhere where they needed the income, only then can I understand it

Posted 12/20/06 9:21 AM
 

pinkandblue
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My MIL will be watching my daughter and not getting paid. I have offered but she did not seem interested.

Posted 12/20/06 9:22 AM
 

NK926
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Natalie

Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My mom and my MIL watch my daughter and I don't pay either one. I try to just do some extra things for them as my way of saying thank you.

Posted 12/20/06 9:29 AM
 

4monkeys
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

Posted by IslandGrl

My parents help me with the kids a few days a week and when I once asked if they wanted anything in return they got upset with me and told me " just to be able to spend time with the kids is payback enough"
I figured they would say that. I dont understand how any family member would take money to watch their own family.UNLESS it took the place maybe of them working somewhere where they needed the income, only then can I understand it



I could have written this myself Chat Icon

and I agree with the money part. if it was SIL/BILs or siblings, I would feel bad and give them money, we all have mortgages to pay and mouths to feed. It would only be fair. But the grandparents wont hear of it. But every situation is different. I know several grandmas that are babysitting instead of working at their jobs, in which case they do need the money.

as in all things, theres no right or wrong.Chat Icon

Posted 12/20/06 9:36 AM
 

4monkeys
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

Posted by NK926

I try to just do some extra things for them as my way of saying thank you.



Same here, we've taken them (grandmas) to Disney with us (they came 5 of the 10 days there, everything was our treat)
and we're always there for them, errands, getting them little things from the kids here and there.

my moms famous words are, I dont want money, I want respect Chat Icon
to her thats more than payment. a hug and kiss and TLC from her little ones.

Posted 12/20/06 9:38 AM
 

4monkeys
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

Posted by hope07

For those who have mom or mil watch kids while you work... do you pay them if so how much? I would feel so bad not paying my parents anything, even though they probably wouldnt take it. I just feel like its such an important and difficult job. What do you think is fair??




to answer your question, maybe you can buy them something they need or do something they need done (my sister sometimes gets a cleaning lady as a treat for my mom, takes her out for mani/pedi's) etc. it depends on them and what works for them.

Posted 12/20/06 9:39 AM
 

TwoGirls4Me
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Marie

Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My mom watches Sydney and we DO pay her. She hates taking the money but we asked her to quit her job to watch our angel and after a lot of thinking she did. She needs some money, if Syd werent here she would obviously still be working.

We pay her a set amount/week and IMO its not nearly enough but she wont take a penny more.

When we go out at night or weekends etc. we never pay either set of grandparents, they love to do it.

We are extremely lucky with our situation, my mom comes to our house every morning, Sydney is showered with love and kisses and stimulated and played with all day long w/ my mom, and then when we come home as well, that, IMO is pricelessChat Icon Chat Icon

ETA: if your family member already doesnt work and doesnt "need" the money they probably wont accept it anyway. I like the restaurant GC idea every now and then, or spa GC occassionally, just to show you're thankful.

Message edited 12/20/2006 10:11:24 AM.

Posted 12/20/06 10:08 AM
 

dawnie
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My sister and I are sending my parents to Vegas. We are putting a gift basket with Tour Books, etc and the intinerary.
They are doing us the greatest service by watching our children and they do it for free. We are truly greatful and there is nothing we can do to thank them enough.

Posted 12/20/06 1:09 PM
 

Giannas-mama
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Nicole

Re: Moms who use family member for child care

My sister watches DD 3 days a week and she will not take a dime...when it comes to holidays and her birthday we give her REALLY nice gifts plus we have set up an account for my neice and put in $$$ every pay check and my sister has no ideaChat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/20/06 1:17 PM
 

Tracey
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Re: Moms who use family member for child care

I give my mom $300 a week to watch my 14 month old twins. I figured I would be paying a daycare that or more and I find the peace of mind more valuable.

Posted 12/20/06 1:58 PM
 
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