Losing someone suddenly.

My grandpa passed away a month ago. It was completely unexpected...basically on a Monday a few weeks ago, he was put under home hospice care. By Wednesday - two days later - he was brought to a hospice. I flew down to FL (where he was) on Friday morning and by Saturday evening, he had passed away.

I've (unfortunately) lost a few people in my life - especially in the past decade. However, all of those people were ill for a LONG time...to the point where once they passed, while it was still terribly sad, it was a relief that they were no longer suffering.

And I know - and keep telling myself - that wanting more time with my grandpa would've meant that he would've been suffering, and I should be grateful that he didn't suffer for nearly as long as other people in my life who have passed away.

But while I am experienced in the grieving process when a person passes away after a long illness (and their death is kind of...expected)...I am struggling with coping with the loss of my grandpa. I've never lost someone suddenly. I cry every single day...sometimes for a few minutes, sometimes for an hour.

I know that the loss is relatively new and it's normal to cry a LOT...hell, I cry once in awhile about other people that I miss. I don't see anything wrong with that, because you can't help how you feel.

But I just...I don't know...I guess I'm reaching out to see if anyone has any thoughts about grieving over a sudden loss like this. Maybe some kind of positive-thinking techniques, I don't know. I'm just kind of lost.

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I'm so sorry....I lost my mom very suddenly 8 months ago.

I wish I had advice...it is shocking..and so so painful....but it does get better....allow yourself to grieve. The crying jags are totally normal and didn't stop for me until about 3 months ago.

I'm seeing a grief therapist which has been very helpful. I highly recommend talking to someone.

Please feel free to FM me if you ever need to talk.

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My situation is different but it was very sudden.

I found that after it happened I was in a fog. I cried all the time.

It's been three and a half months and I still cry but it's not like it was. It's taken time (and still will) to reconcile it in my head. It shouldn't have been and I wish I could change it but I can't.

I wish I had some advice for you...all I can offer is knowing you're not alone feeling this way.

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I recently lost my dad suddenly.

I know how much it hurts. They are here one minute and gone the next. It can be very hard to comprehend.

I still cry a lot. Don't try to stop it, when you feel like crying, just cry. It's ok.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Kris-I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa. I havent loss anyone suddenly but I just wanted to give you tons of hugs

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I lost my brother suddenly. Over two years later it is still very hard. I cried a lot in the beginning and sometimes I still cry out of no where. I found the book I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Death of a Loved One very helpful. I also find talking about my brother and remembering the good times helpful. I wish I had better advice