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Let's Discuss Closure...
Do you have something in your life you still feel you need closure with? Do you try to get it no matter what?
I have one situation left in my life I want to but if I do it would involve contacting an ex which I dont think is the right thing to do. Or is it my life and I should do what means something to me?
Anyone like to comment?
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leighla
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
I have two gaping holes in my life with two friends who suddenly decided they didn't want to be friends with me any more because I was moving to NJ five years ago.
It got really ugly at the end. We had a huge fight and I was moving shortly after and they never even acknowledged me when I tried to reach out at Christmas that year.
Even though they were horrible to me, I still think about it and desperately want closure on what happened - even if it's just a better explanation for why they turned.
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baghag
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
There is only one issue I have that isn't complete, but trying to get closure would ultimately end up being more disruptive. Does that make sense?
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
I do but I can wait to close it since I'm still stinging from it.
As for the closure part, will you getting closure open up some upheaval in his life? Then I'm not sure that it would be true closure. If it means a lot to you, you're going to do it anyway (at least from the way you've worded it). 
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| Posted 7/13/06 3:28 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
I think there are some things you will never really have closure on - and some things that will always keep you wondering "What if"
I look at it as - this is the life I was meant to live and try really hard not to look back and wonder too much about the things/people in my past.
Alot of my past is what got me where I am right now and for that I am grateful.
Did that answer your question at all?
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| Posted 7/13/06 3:30 PM |
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I have a similar situation, maybe, and I think that accepting that there IS no real closure was my closure, if that makes any sense. Ultimately I am so much better off with DH and without him and letting go of the past is the best and only thing to do. There are many things in life I'll never have answers for.
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| Posted 7/13/06 3:30 PM |
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Snozberry
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by baghag
There is only one issue I have that isn't complete, but trying to get closure would ultimately end up being more disruptive. Does that make sense?
Absolutely - I was going to say this.
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| Posted 7/13/06 3:30 PM |
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dandr10199
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by baghag
There is only one issue I have that isn't complete, but trying to get closure would ultimately end up being more disruptive. Does that make sense?
YEP. I have a similar situation in my family. 's to you
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| Posted 7/13/06 3:31 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
I have a friend that stopped returning my calls years ago. Nothing happened but I left her several messages and nothing. She is still friends with one of my closest friends and will ask about me from time to time but i dont think we will ever speak again. I am still unsure what happened but I have resigned myself to the fact that i will never find out.
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pmpkn087
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
I also have something that I need closure with, and also involves an ex. I just try not to think about it. Writing my thoughts in my diary help.
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| Posted 7/13/06 3:32 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by baghag
There is only one issue I have that isn't complete, but trying to get closure would ultimately end up being more disruptive. Does that make sense?
This makes total sense to me, as this is exactly how I feel about my situation also.
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Emily
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by Diana1215
I think there are some things you will never really have closure on - and some things that will always keep you wondering "What if"
I look at it as - this is the life I was meant to live and try really hard not to look back and wonder too much about the things/people in my past.
Alot of my past is what got me where I am right now and for that I am grateful.
Did that answer your question at all?
I agree that whether I got closure or not..my past made me who I am today. I would love closure on some issues that will never have closure...I meditate on it and then I move on. If I spent my whole life wondering about an issue and the others involved had moved on..I would be wasting my time. I would never want to disturb others happiness just to help myself. I have learned a saying that I live by...Today is called the present because it is a gift. The past is a distant memory and tommorrow is not a guarantee, so enjoy the present!
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evenedan
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by baghag
There is only one issue I have that isn't complete, but trying to get closure would ultimately end up being more disruptive. Does that make sense?
Makes total sense and I feel the same way.
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jennandrob
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by Diana1215
I think there are some things you will never really have closure on - and some things that will always keep you wondering "What if"
I look at it as - this is the life I was meant to live and try really hard not to look back and wonder too much about the things/people in my past.
Alot of my past is what got me where I am right now and for that I am grateful.
Well said! This is exactly how I feel
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I think the thing that gets me the most upset is that why do I even need closure about something from 9 years ago. It bothers me that I cant let it go... I didnt care about this person much back then, why now? Maybe that is the reason why I want closure... I am a much nicer person now than I was back then.
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bellaro
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by evenedan
Posted by baghag
There is only one issue I have that isn't complete, but trying to get closure would ultimately end up being more disruptive. Does that make sense?
Makes total sense and I feel the same way.
I agree.....
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| Posted 7/13/06 3:52 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
I have a different perspective for this thread…
On one particular relationship I did manage to get closure. Trust me when I tell you that his words still haunt me to this day (6 years later!) Sometimes I wonder if I would have been better off not knowing.
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islandersgirl74
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by Diana1215
I think there are some things you will never really have closure on - and some things that will always keep you wondering "What if"
I look at it as - this is the life I was meant to live and try really hard not to look back and wonder too much about the things/people in my past.
Alot of my past is what got me where I am right now and for that I am grateful.
Did that answer your question at all?
You have a good attitude!
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by Diana1215
I think there are some things you will never really have closure on - and some things that will always keep you wondering "What if"
I look at it as - this is the life I was meant to live and try really hard not to look back and wonder too much about the things/people in my past.
Alot of my past is what got me where I am right now and for that I am grateful.
Did that answer your question at all?
I agree.
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Redhead
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie
Do you have something in your life you still feel you need closure with? Do you try to get it no matter what?
I have one situation left in my life I want to but if I do it would involve contacting an ex which I dont think is the right thing to do. Or is it my life and I should do what means something to me?
Anyone like to comment?
i did....
recently with a friend
but a sad turn of events brought us back together and we had a long chat...
not exactly closure per say but an understanding was reached
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Re: Let's Discuss Closure...
Posted by baghag
There is only one issue I have that isn't complete, but trying to get closure would ultimately end up being more disruptive. Does that make sense?
Same thing for me. Sometimes its better to just leave things in the past alone even if they are still "open". It could cause a whole snowball effect.
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