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Mushesgirl
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Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
I have a good friend (we used to be much closer before she had kids) who moved out of state. She is always asking us to come stay with them.
I stayed once when she had 3 kids, now she has 4. It was nice to spend some time with her but I wanted kill when those kids woke me at the crack of dawn.
She knows my aversion for kids but she still wants us to come out to stay with them. sigh. I feel bad always saying "well maybe in the warm weather" or "its not a good time for us right now" or some such thing. WWYD? Do you have friends far away with kids that want you to stay?
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Posted 5/31/10 3:57 PM  |
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maxsgirl
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
Could you maybe rent a hotel room? If its possible, then I would definitely go for a visit and just tell her that you dont want to stay with them b/c you know she already has a "full" house and you dont want to impose?
I stayed at my inlaws when my SIL was visiting with her 1st child and after that experience have refuse to do it again.
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| Posted 5/31/10 4:10 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
I'm afraid she'd be so offended if we got a hotel room. 
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| Posted 5/31/10 4:20 PM |
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Christine
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
I would suck it up for one day to spend time with my friends or just go for the day.
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| Posted 5/31/10 5:16 PM |
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BunnyWife
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
Posted by Mushesgirl
I'm afraid she'd be so offended if we got a hotel room.
I'd be straight with her. You are more comfy in a hotel room and you would prefer to have privacy. You don't need to say you hate when the kids wake you early 
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| Posted 5/31/10 5:22 PM |
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Kara
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
Posted by BunnyWife
Posted by Mushesgirl
I'm afraid she'd be so offended if we got a hotel room.
I'd be straight with her. You are more comfy in a hotel room and you would prefer to have privacy. You don't need to say you hate when the kids wake you early
ITA.
I would just get a hotel room and go visit. Insist that you don't want to put them out and that you really need your privacy -- Or heck, blame it on your DH and his need for privacy.
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| Posted 5/31/10 9:55 PM |
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KittyKatCopper
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
Posted by Kara
I would just get a hotel room and go visit. Insist that you don't want to put them out and that you really need your privacy -- Or heck, blame it on your DH and his need for privacy.
oh i like the "don't want to impose" scenario...i can't stand staying in a house with kids that wake up at the crack of dawn and proceed to stomp around the house..especially when we are guests in the basement (this is the case when we visit SIL and it drives me nuts)...i wish we could stay in a hotel!!!!! Good luck!! 
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| Posted 5/31/10 10:24 PM |
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Nifheim
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
i would suck it up for a weekend but for a week I would stay in a hotel and tell her that you just prefer it that way. Maybe offer her to stay with you for a weekend so she can get away for the kids.
I went away with a bunch of moms and i have to say i couldn't keep up with them. They were doing shots, jumping off the bar/screaming/dancing just completely wacko because they were so happy to get away.
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| Posted 6/1/10 10:00 AM |
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
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Coming from someone who has had child free friends come stay with us and our 3 children:
If you are planning to stay for lets say 4 nights, I would book a hotel near her house for 3 of those nights, and stay at her house for ONE night. Explain to her that you really do not want to put her out, and that while you are on "vacation", you want to be able to sleep in without disrupting her normal routine with her children. Tell her that you will stay one night so you can all hang out, relax, bbq, have some drinks, but that you will spend only one night at her house.
If she gets "offended", thats her problem. Honestly, I have 3 kids, and having a houseguest is disruptive to them. They get excited, they want to visit the person, they have NO idea how to be quiet, etc...
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| Posted 6/1/10 7:29 PM |
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Jackie24
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
I wouldn't do it. If you can afford a hotel I say go for it!
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| Posted 6/1/10 9:32 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
get the hotel room and just tell her that you don't get much time for vacays for you and DH. that you love staying in hotels together and just relaxing and you don't want to impose in any way when you visit.
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| Posted 6/1/10 9:52 PM |
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bird382
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
I usually stay in a hotel in this situation.
However, the last time I did this, the friends asked (in front of their kid, of course) if the kid could stay in the hotel with me overnight.
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| Posted 6/2/10 9:27 AM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
Posted by bird382
I usually stay in a hotel in this situation.
However, the last time I did this, the friends asked (in front of their kid, of course) if the kid could stay in the hotel with me overnight.
That is totally RUDE!!!!
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| Posted 6/4/10 10:46 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
If I were your friend, not only would I not be offended if you wanted to stay in a hotel, I might ask if I could come stay with you for at least one night too!
I only have one child. While I love him to pieces, even I do not enjoy having him wake me at 6:00 am EVERY DAY. I welcome house guests, but I make it clear that my regular household routine can't change all that easily with a 2 year old. My DH has always preferred staying at a hotel, whether children were involved or not, just to have some privacy and a place to wind down at the end of what is usually a long day of visiting.
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| Posted 6/14/10 2:22 PM |
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blondiebabyZ
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
I would suck it up and go...just for a weekend. Late Fri to an early Sunday ya know? And go when its nice so the rugrats will hopefully be outside the house while you catch up with your friends inside lol. I think its very nice to have a friend who moved away and still wants and works to retain a friendship. Most of the time you see people move away and not be bothered.
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| Posted 6/15/10 5:29 PM |
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heathergirl
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
Sometimes I think you have to put your own comforts aside for the sake of your friendship. I wouldn't be bothered so much by this because even though I'm getting woken up by kids, I'm getting to spend time with my friend.
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| Posted 6/16/10 12:09 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Invited to stay with friends with kids-WWYD
thanks for all the input. I've thought about it a lot.
Fortunately we're getting a reprieve for a year, because we are travelling to a bunch of other cities to see other friends without kids, BUT I believe we will suck it up and stay with them.
I think i've thought of a solution tho! EARPLUGS!!
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| Posted 6/17/10 12:13 AM |
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