LIFamilies.com - Long Island, NY


RSS
Articles Business Directory Blog Real Estate Community Forum Shop My Family Contests

Log In Chat Index Search Rules Lingo Create Account

Quick navigation:   

If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Posted By Message
Pages: [1] 2

beautyq115
New Year!

Member since 5/05

13729 total posts

Name:
Me

If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

We were out at the mall today and people were all over them asking how old they were. I say 6 months (they are almost 6 months) but then they get nosy and say they look small for 6 months or ask if they were preemies. I don't feel like getting into the whole story with every stranger who asks.

Message edited 3/31/2010 6:53:48 PM.

Posted 3/31/10 6:53 PM
 
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource

sfp0701
Liam's Mommy!

Member since 1/07

9764 total posts

Name:
Tricia

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Hmmm. Mine was only 3 weeks early but, he was tiny and I did say it all the time.. but, then he caught up right away.

I would just tell them the real age and then move on. People are so nosey!!!

Posted 3/31/10 7:02 PM
 

Jodee
I love my girls

Member since 11/08

1510 total posts

Name:
Danielle

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Real age and continue along with your day... peoples nosey-ness can be really annoying sometimes....

Posted 3/31/10 7:37 PM
 

lvdolphins
My Loves!

Member since 5/05

46292 total posts

Name:

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

My DD was 7 weeks early. She is 10 month (8.5 or so adjusted). She was born at 2lbs 6oz. She is a peanut!
People ask her age all the time!
I think its been only a few times where I've heard "oh she's so tiny"...then I explain it.
I usually get the "Ooh 10 months"...LOL then I simply reply "Yep. 10 months"! Sometimes in my head im like "Yes, really 10 months" because I see the looks on their faces. LOL.

Posted 3/31/10 7:43 PM
 

FelAndJon
needs to update her avatar pic

Member since 6/05

10212 total posts

Name:
Felice (aka LuckyBride2004)

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

DS was 6 1/2 weeks early. When people would ask how old he was, I would tell them his real age. If they made any comments on how small he was, I would answer that he was early and generally leave it at that.

Posted 3/31/10 7:44 PM
 

nickipa
love my boys!

Member since 4/06

5648 total posts

Name:
Nicki

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

hmmm--I think I did either, whatever I felt like---but either way I never got into an explanation with a stranger Chat Icon

Posted 3/31/10 7:52 PM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

real age...people comment on how tiny my one DD is, but I don't really mind.

Posted 3/31/10 7:53 PM
 

ctrain1124
Our Gang!

Member since 8/07

3190 total posts

Name:
C

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Posted by FelAndJon

DS was 6 1/2 weeks early. When people would ask how old he was, I would tell them his real age. If they made any comments on how small he was, I would answer that he was early and generally leave it at that.



All the same, except DS was 5 weeks early.

Posted 3/31/10 7:59 PM
 

PeasandCarrots

Member since 5/07

9579 total posts

Name:
L

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Real age and to be honest I get irritated when people make comments about her. For the longest time my mom and Joe would say she was 4wks youger then she was since she came 4wks early.....ie: she's 6wks when she was 10wks. My response was so will we have her birthday on her due date or her birthday? Then they balk and I say so if she would have been 2wks late does that mean she would really be 12wks? Does that mean she would cut her first tooth earlier, would she sit sooner? I get that preemies look smaller, but IMHO Emmy was not a true preemie. 4wks is not bad and she is right on target with her development. SO what if she looks a bit smaller and so on. I think we live in such a supersized world that peole forgot it wasn't so long ago babies were born at 5,6,7lbs and not 8,9,10lbs. Those were the exception. Sorry for the rant, but it's a touchy subject in my house.

Posted 3/31/10 8:01 PM
 

jinglemommy
I <3 my boys!

Member since 12/06

1389 total posts

Name:
Kelly

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

I always said his real age and then if i go the old"he is so small" I would say well he started at 2 and half pounds so he is huge to me!

Posted 3/31/10 8:05 PM
 

MrsA714
Baby #2 is here!

Member since 8/07

8806 total posts

Name:

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Real age. DD was born 7 weeks early so in the beginning there were a lot of comments about her size but she caught up pretty quickly so it hasn't been an issue lately. When people did comment, I would just tell them she was a preemie.

Message edited 3/31/2010 8:11:40 PM.

Posted 3/31/10 8:07 PM
 

TripletMom
My crazy Trio

Member since 3/09

2246 total posts

Name:
Paula

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

I tell them their real age and the trio were born at 36 weeks..... I get WOW they are so big for 8 months.....Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon You would never know they were so small when they were born if you see them know.....

Posted 3/31/10 8:43 PM
 

MrsDrMatt
Live and RUN like a Ninja!

Member since 5/06

3068 total posts

Name:
MrsDrMatt

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

My twins were born 10 weeks early. In addition, me and the hubby make itty bitty kids (older sister is 2 and weighs 23 pounds). So when we are out I get shocked looks when I tell them their age. I proudly explain (and if you ready any of posts on here, I RARELY explain myself to ANYONE even my family) that they were 2 pounds when they were born and look at them now.

Chat Icon

Posted 4/1/10 9:09 AM
 

DRMom
Two in Blue

Member since 5/05

20223 total posts

Name:
Melissa

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

I always told them real age, but people seem to think they are HUGE! They were pretty big at birth for preemies 5'14 and 6'3

Posted 4/1/10 9:34 AM
 

luvsun27
Check out my cool glasses

Member since 5/05

8135 total posts

Name:
Kim

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

I always said her real age (DD was 7 weeks early). I always got "she's so tiny" and I would just say she was a preemie and that was that.

She's 3 1/2 now, and I still get she's so tiny comments, compared to other 3 1/2 year olds Chat Icon

Posted 4/1/10 9:36 AM
 

jes81276
summer fun!

Member since 3/06

4962 total posts

Name:
Jaime

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

I always told them his real age...but if the conversation pursued I would probably have mentioned that he was premature (I always felt like I had to defend his small size and later milestones)...but it's so annoying!

Posted 4/1/10 9:36 AM
 

carlowlou
loving my babies!

Member since 4/08

4594 total posts

Name:
Jen

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

DD was not a preemie. She is a big baby however at 9 months and I get so tired of hearing from complete strangers 75 times a day how big she is for her age. So I round up when complete strangers ask me. I just am so tired of hearing, oh she's a big girl etc etc etc etc ad nauseaum.

Posted 4/1/10 9:44 AM
 

Goldi0218
My miracles!

Member since 12/05

23902 total posts

Name:
Leslie

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Abby wasn't a preemie either, but at 19 months, everyone thinks she is a BRILLIANT one year old because she is so tiny, yet she talks up a storm and counts to 10. It used to bother me, but now I just go with it.

Posted 4/1/10 9:53 AM
 

clwp
Love my girls!

Member since 10/06

2114 total posts

Name:
mommy

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

People are obnoxious... I'd give their real age and if anything is said just say "it's fine, thank you, have a nice day". Everyone has something to say.

Posted 4/1/10 9:59 AM
 

SweetTooth
I'm a tired mommy!

Member since 12/05

20105 total posts

Name:
Lauren

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Mine were not preemies, but they were always very small. I'd tell people their age and I'd get looks or comments like "Oh but they're so small!" I'd just smile and say, "Yes they are "x" months.
People are nosy and rude. It stopped at about 8-9 months, and noone says anything now.
They'll catch up, Kathleen.

Posted 4/1/10 10:18 AM
 

Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)

Member since 5/06

23378 total posts

Name:
remember, when Gulliver traveled....

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Posted by medic6809

Real age and to be honest I get irritated when people make comments about her. For the longest time my mom and Joe would say she was 4wks youger then she was since she came 4wks early.....ie: she's 6wks when she was 10wks. My response was so will we have her birthday on her due date or her birthday? Then they balk and I say so if she would have been 2wks late does that mean she would really be 12wks? Does that mean she would cut her first tooth earlier, would she sit sooner? I get that preemies look smaller, but IMHO Emmy was not a true preemie. 4wks is not bad and she is right on target with her development. SO what if she looks a bit smaller and so on. I think we live in such a supersized world that peole forgot it wasn't so long ago babies were born at 5,6,7lbs and not 8,9,10lbs. Those were the exception. Sorry for the rant, but it's a touchy subject in my house.



I was 10 weeks early and I would be PIZZED if people made me wait until July to celebrate MY birthday!!!

trust me when I tell you all, after a while it will not matter. I promise you I don't look like a preemie now Chat Icon

Posted 4/1/10 10:52 AM
 

MrsS2005
Mom of 3

Member since 11/05

13011 total posts

Name:
Brooke

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

DS wasn't a premature, but he's small for his age. Plus, he didn't get his first tooth until 13.5 months. I think he also still has more of a baby face. People always think he's younger than he really is.

Posted 4/1/10 12:14 PM
 

charon54
My two boys!

Member since 5/05

7244 total posts

Name:
Rebecca

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Posted by medic6809

Real age and to be honest I get irritated when people make comments about her. For the longest time my mom and Joe would say she was 4wks youger then she was since she came 4wks early.....ie: she's 6wks when she was 10wks. My response was so will we have her birthday on her due date or her birthday? Then they balk and I say so if she would have been 2wks late does that mean she would really be 12wks? Does that mean she would cut her first tooth earlier, would she sit sooner? I get that preemies look smaller, but IMHO Emmy was not a true preemie. 4wks is not bad and she is right on target with her development. SO what if she looks a bit smaller and so on. I think we live in such a supersized world that peole forgot it wasn't so long ago babies were born at 5,6,7lbs and not 8,9,10lbs. Those were the exception. Sorry for the rant, but it's a touchy subject in my house.



I agree with your reasoning. DS was two weeks late, we don't consider him 2 weeks older Chat Icon Ironically, he was only 6lbs, 3 oz at birth, so he was tiny when born. Now people think he is older than he is because at 4 months he weighs 16 lbs.

Posted 4/1/10 12:36 PM
 

DancinBarefoot
06ers Rock!!

Member since 1/07

9262 total posts

Name:
The One My Mother Gave Me ;-)

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

I would ignore - or just respond with something like - DUH, they are twins!!

Posted 4/1/10 12:38 PM
 

Maybe-baby
LIF Adolescent

Member since 12/07

774 total posts

Name:

Re: If your baby or babies were premature do you tell random strangers their real age or their adjusted age?

Posted by MrsA714

Real age. DD was born 7 weeks early so in the beginning there were a lot of comments about her size but she caught up pretty quickly so it hasn't been an issue lately. When people did comment, I would just tell them she was a preemie.



Same here with my DD.

Posted 4/1/10 12:59 PM
 
Pages: [1] 2
 
Quick navigation:   
Currently 173320 users on the LIFamilies.com Chat
New Businesses
Carleton Hall of East Islip
J&A Building Services
LaraMae Health Coaching
Sonic Wellness
Julbaby Photography LLC
Ideal Uniforms
Teresa Geraghty Photography
Camelot Dream Homes
Long Island Wedding Boutique
MB Febus- Rodan & Fields
Camp Harbor
Market America-Shop.com
ACM Basement Waterproofing
Travel Tom
Yoga Womb/ SECS talk

      Follow LIWeddings on Facebook

      Follow LIFamilies on Twitter
Long Island Bridal Shows