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Jenhos
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How old is too old to give birth?

The 61 year old mom post got me thinking. I am curious what you all think.

How old is too old?

Message edited 11/10/2012 6:21:40 PM.

Posted 11/10/12 6:21 PM
 
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Mrs213
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How old is too old to give birth?

I think it depends on the individual to be honest and the state of their health...

Posted 11/10/12 6:25 PM
 

BunnyWife
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by Mrs213

I think it depends on the individual to be honest and the state of their health...



I agree. Do I think 60 something is too old? I would think in most cases, yes.

Posted 11/10/12 6:27 PM
 

gina409
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

If u r healthy baby is healthy and ok by doc then go for it no matter what age

Posted 11/10/12 6:39 PM
 

PrincessP
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Its not necessarily the age re: wear/tear on the body, to me its about the time you get to spend with your child. I dont think its fair for a 10 yr old to not have a mother/father.

Posted 11/10/12 7:04 PM
 

myboysmyheart
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How old is too old to give birth?

I think 45 is pushing it. That is my honest opinion. I do not mean to offend anyone. I think that to have a child after this is not fair to the child. Health problems begin as you get upwards in age and it is not fair for a child to see their parents sick at a young age. It is not fair for a child not to be able to play ball with their parent bc he/she is physically unable. Again, not all peoples health deteriorates as early as 45-50, but it is not the same as a 20-30 somethning. My opinion.

Posted 11/10/12 7:07 PM
 

stinger
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

I see this as a woman's choice, so for me, 40 would be max, but I had both kids by 30, so actually that is my max LOL.

I don't have a strong opinion on right or wrong for someone else.

Posted 11/10/12 7:18 PM
 

yankinmanc
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How old is too old to give birth?

Didn't we just elect a president who was giving us control of our reproductive organs, if you can take care of a child and give it love and provi for it, there is no age limit. My moms best friend, same age as my mother, was pregnant at the same time that I was. Would I choose it for myself, no, but they are all happy, healthy and well taken care of. Her body, her choice.

Posted 11/10/12 7:31 PM
 

ANR1211
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How old is too old to give birth?

It was taking me a long time to conceive and I decided that I would only try until I was 35. I did not want to be a first time mother any older than that. That being said, that was MY personal preference. I know people who became first time mothers in their 40s and love it. I think as long as you are willing to put 100% into raising the children you bring into this world and you're healthy, it's fine to give birth at any age.

Posted 11/10/12 7:34 PM
 

gdubs
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How old is too old to give birth?

It is definitely a personal decision and I can't speak for anyone but myself on this one... so for me personally? I told DH I would be willing to try to have children until I was 35-36. That is just because I know "us"... I can't see either of us nearing retirement and just starting to raise a child.

For someone else? Who knows... as long as the person is healthy and able to carry a pregnancy without danger to themselves or the baby and then put the 110% it takes to raise a child then I guess there is no real limit.

Posted 11/10/12 7:41 PM
 

KwaaksNest
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by PrincessP

Its not necessarily the age re: wear/tear on the body, to me its about the time you get to spend with your child. I dont think its fair for a 10 yr old to not have a mother/father.




I agree with this...at a certain age you risk that child not having parents

Posted 11/10/12 7:44 PM
 

MrsM429
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How old is too old to give birth?

I believe if you are healthy and are able to provide and care for a child, then age shouldn't be an issue. It's a personal decision, and there isn't a right or wrong answer IMO. To each his own. As someone who is struggling with infertility for years, I can say that I will keep trying until I am able to have my child- whether that be now at 26, or when I'm in my 40's.

Posted 11/10/12 8:00 PM
 

MrsA1012
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

I would like to be done before 30 and would not TTC after 30 /31 MAX. That's just me, but I think people should try to have kids earlier rather than later. First, you have more stamina/ energy and your younger age makes it more likely that you will get more time with your children.

Posted 11/10/12 8:12 PM
 

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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by KwaaksNest

Posted by PrincessP

Its not necessarily the age re: wear/tear on the body, to me its about the time you get to spend with your child. I dont think its fair for a 10 yr old to not have a mother/father.




I agree with this...at a certain age you risk that child not having parents



I mean I understand the intent here, but wouldn't that be true at ANY age? I know statistically it's obvious that an older age at birth means perhaps less time with the child, but sickness and accidents still come into play at young ages kwim? I think having a child at ANY age, and under ANY circumstances, is an inherent leap of faith.

And I was an older mom (41) and definitely think I was too old for this shit Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon (Pregnancy and newborn stuff = easy peasy. TODDLERHOOD might be the end of me Chat Icon )

Posted 11/10/12 8:17 PM
 

MrsA1012
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by colette

Posted by KwaaksNest

Posted by PrincessP

Its not necessarily the age re: wear/tear on the body, to me its about the time you get to spend with your child. I dont think its fair for a 10 yr old to not have a mother/father.




I agree with this...at a certain age you risk that child not having parents



I mean I understand the intent here, but wouldn't that be true at ANY age? I know statistically it's obvious that an older age at birth means perhaps less time with the child, but sickness and accidents still come into play at young ages kwim? I think having a child at ANY age, and under ANY circumstances, is an inherent leap of faith.

And I was an older mom (41) and definitely think I was too old for this shit Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon (Pregnancy and newborn stuff = easy peasy. TODDLERHOOD might be the end of me Chat Icon )



I agree that it is always a leap of faith, but there are SO MANY illnesses that become much more statistically common with age. So, it is undoubtedly a higher risk. You also have to factor the likelihood of being diagnosed with a condition that isn't fatal but is life limiting/ impairs the quality of life. Sadly, the possibility of this type of diagnosis, also increases with age.

Message edited 11/10/2012 8:26:15 PM.

Posted 11/10/12 8:25 PM
 

MrsA1012
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by yankinmanc

Didn't we just elect a president who was giving us control of our reproductive organs, if you can take care of a child and give it love and provi for it, there is no age limit. My moms best friend, same age as my mother, was pregnant at the same time that I was. Would I choose it for myself, no, but they are all happy, healthy and well taken care of. Her body, her choice.




But is it only her choice when they that choice so enormously affects the life of a child?

Posted 11/10/12 8:27 PM
 

Alli06
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?


For me personally, my cut off is 35. I already have two kids but if I do decide to have a third, I want to be pregnant by 34. If it doesn't happen, I won't have a third.
I have three cousins that have had or are having babies at 40 and 41.
So I would say after 42 is really pushing it. The age of 61 is just insane to me and not fair to the kids. I don't care how young she feels, she will not have the same energy as someone who is 28. I'm 32 and my two kids wipe me out.

Posted 11/10/12 10:14 PM
 

PennyCat
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

My mom will be 60 in a few weeks and offered to be my surrogate. My doctor at the time said she was too old.

Posted 11/10/12 10:43 PM
 

KevinNKristin8-15-08
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by Mrs213

I think it depends on the individual to be honest and the state of their health...

I agree. To some extent though. Like another poster said- I don't think it would be fair to a child to have a child at 60.

For me personally I wouldn't have children past 35. But age really shouldn't matter. I've seen people in the 30's and 40's healthier than people in their 20's!!!!!!! In fact I think I am healthier and more fit in my 30's than my 20's (I ran my first half marathon at almost 31). So it's not really age, but how you take care of yourself that matters. So in a sense there shouldn't be any age limit. It should be determined upon the health of the individual.

I just want to be done before a certain age for my own personal reasons.

Posted 11/10/12 11:56 PM
 

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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by PennyCat

My mom will be 60 in a few weeks and offered to be my surrogate. My doctor at the time said she was too old.



Your Mom is awesome!

Posted 11/11/12 12:50 AM
 

nancy6485
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

I believe it is a completely personal decision. I plan on being done by the time I am 30, i'm 27 now and pg with #2, we are still undecided if we want more; FH and I talk about our plans for our future, traveling, retiring and this is what works for us. If God has other plans for us, than that is okay too.

Message edited 11/11/2012 1:51:25 AM.

Posted 11/11/12 1:50 AM
 

PennyCat
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by nancy6485

I believe it is a completely personal decision. I plan on being done by the time I am 30, i'm 27 now and pg with #2, we are still undecided if we want more; FH and I talk about our plans for our future, traveling, retiring and this is what works for us. If God has other plans for us, than that is okay too.



This was my plan back in the day Chat Icon

I started trying at 25 and thought for sure I'd be done by 30 or maybe go for one more ... Eh, I'm 28 with a house full of cats and no baby on the way (yet).

I've given up on plans, I just hope to have a baby at all! (hopefully before I'm 61!!) Chat Icon

Message edited 11/11/2012 1:53:22 AM.

Posted 11/11/12 1:53 AM
 

nancy6485
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by PennyCat

Posted by nancy6485

I believe it is a completely personal decision. I plan on being done by the time I am 30, i'm 27 now and pg with #2, we are still undecided if we want more; FH and I talk about our plans for our future, traveling, retiring and this is what works for us. If God has other plans for us, than that is okay too.



This was my plan back in the day Chat Icon

I started trying at 25 and thought for sure I'd be done by 30 or maybe go for one more ... Eh, I'm 28 with a house full of cats and no baby on the way (yet).

I've given up on plans, I just hope to have a baby at all! (hopefully before I'm 61!!) Chat Icon



Planning never works anyway! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon you get your Chat Icon soon! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/11/12 2:00 AM
 

PennyCat
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Re: How old is too old to give birth?

Posted by nancy6485

Posted by PennyCat

Posted by nancy6485

I believe it is a completely personal decision. I plan on being done by the time I am 30, i'm 27 now and pg with #2, we are still undecided if we want more; FH and I talk about our plans for our future, traveling, retiring and this is what works for us. If God has other plans for us, than that is okay too.



This was my plan back in the day Chat Icon

I started trying at 25 and thought for sure I'd be done by 30 or maybe go for one more ... Eh, I'm 28 with a house full of cats and no baby on the way (yet).

I've given up on plans, I just hope to have a baby at all! (hopefully before I'm 61!!) Chat Icon



Planning never works anyway! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon you get your Chat Icon soon! Chat Icon Chat Icon



Thanks! As my dh said earlier, we're all full up on cats! Chat Icon

Posted 11/11/12 2:02 AM
 

evrythng4areason
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How old is too old to give birth?

i think it's a completely personal thing

personally, i'd like to be done by 30, but depending on how many we have that may not happen-so I've had to extend my personal "limit" to 35 tops because i want a large family

Posted 11/11/12 7:22 AM
 
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