Having your 3rd child, no baby shower and being team green is hard...

We're obviously not having a baby shower. Nobody got us ANYTHING with our second baby so I definitely don't expect anything with our third. I don't expect gifts at anytime, but thinking how overwhelmed I'm going to be w/stuff we'll need especially if this baby is going to be a girl. I only have boy clothes, and I didn't save any of the accessories. I don't have any baby items anymore because that was 4 yrs ago. We're going to need a lot and it's going to get REALLY pricey for us. Part of me REALLY wants to find out the sex just in case it's a girl. I can't see me going out shopping for what we need right after having a c-section. It's not going to happen. I think it would also give us a chance to get what we need and maybe, just maybe someone would help out. I highly doubt it, but I guess you never know. We just need too much stuff! The only thing we have is the furniture.

But the other part of me still wants it to be a surprise. I just think it will make things harder for us. WDYT???

Message edited 6/11/2010 8:58:28 AM.

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eek! thats a tough one!

if it were me, i would absolutly have to find out the sex exactly for what you are worried about!

if you really really want to stay team green, then i would suggest taking all the boy clothes you have now that can pass on a girl and setting them aside.... and i would go out and start buying some gender nutral clothes for the first few months... that way, when you are recovered from your c-section, you can go out and buy clothes in a few months that are gender specific if you are having a girl

dont you think that family and friends would end up buying you some clothes after the baby is born if it is a girl??

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I wouldn't find out the sex just for shopping purposes. If you want it to be a surprise, then go with that!

Buy a few newborn and 0-3 items for both a baby boy and baby girl. Don't wash them and save the receipt. Either have DH or someone else wash them while you are in the hospital after you have the baby, and return the ones for the opposite sex. Maybe whoever returns them can also pick out a few things for the right sex and exchange instead of return.

Also, if you can, bring a laptop to the hospital. Maybe you can take some time to shop online for the new baby (especially since you will have nurses around to help watch the baby during that time).

I found that for my first, I thought I needed absolutely everything. I really didn't, and with my second used much less. I'm sure the 3rd is the same way. For example, my second never really used a swing. She wasn't a swing baby, but my first was. My first also had 2 swings in different places, exersaucer and jumperoo, bouncy seat, tons of receiving blankets that I never used, etc. I really don't think you need as much as you tend to get and use for your first. Take it day by day and pick up things as you need them depending on your new baby's personality. Also, if you have family around, you can ask them to pick up something for you. Tell them you'll pay, but you never know, maybe they will end up making it a gift. Lots of luck!

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Definitely a tough decision!!!

I have LOTS of thinking to do!

And no, family and friends wouldn't buy us anything. They didn't with the second one. We also don't really have any family down here in NC and hardly get to see our family in NY.

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I would buy all unisex items ! I did this with #3 b/c if we decide to have #4 I don't want to have to buy these items again KWIM? I got all green, yellow, and beige things . Then when you have dc you can buy clothes for whatever sex it is .

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I agree with the pp- we are team green, and I bought mostly neutral stuff but at the beginning of November, I plan on buying a bunch of boy/girl clothes in the 0/3 month range and then I'll just return what I dont need

Do you have friends with kids? We have a lot of friends with boys & girls, so we've also made it known that we will take hand me downs- that will help cut down the costs

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Posted by CaidensMommy

Definitely a tough decision!!!

I have LOTS of thinking to do!

And no, family and friends wouldn't buy us anything. They didn't with the second one. We also don't really have any family down here in NC and hardly get to see our family in NY.

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Re: Having your 3rd child, no baby shower and being team green is hard...

Thanks! You're all making me feel better about staying team green!

And you're right, I didn't use all the things I did with the first with my second. I'm just thinking about all the little things and some big things we're going to need again. Car seat, stroller, possibly a new pack n play since our's got damaged while moving, binkies, bottles, cloths, bathtub, soaps, etc., etc. But, I haven't been to the baby store in a LONG time so maybe I'll go there this weekend and look around and see if there are things that I can get for Team Green. Maybe that will help make me feel better about it. Thanks again!!!

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I think if you find out now or you find out when the baby is born.. it is still a surprise! If it were me I would HAVE to know.. but then again I HAVE to know with this one and its my first.. haha. Im impatient.

If you really want to wait then just get gender neutral stuff. The baby is so teeny tiny in the beggingi and would look super cute in greens and yellows. Once you are feeling better you can go buy stuff for the or

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I'll go shopping with you!!!!

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do you have friends that have girls? maybe ask them if you can have the hand me down clothes. we were on team with my 3rd, but my wonderful friends had a sprinkle for me which really helped a lot.
if you know for sure your not getting sprinkled, id start buying stuff now, bottles, diapers, gender neutral clothing, maybe a few girl outfits & keep reciepts.

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Honestly, I would find out, so you can gradually buy clothes and get what you need. Or you can still stay team and just buy a bunch of neutral stuff. It is doable.

The major stuff comes gender neutral anyway, so that wouldn't make a difference.

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We're team with our second. Our families are OOS too and I'm not expecting anything from them.

I wouldn't find out early just for shopping purposes either especially if you really want to not find out. Maybe pick out what bedding you'd want for each sex and just buy a couple sheets to match either set for now.

I bought some clothes but I waited until my last two months because of return policies. DH or MIL will wash them while I'm in the hospital. I dug out some girl stuff from my winter-born DD's collection but it's only necessities. No outfits since they are complete opposite seasons. Either way, I'll do a little online or store shopping after the baby is born.

We needed a pack and play and a carseat but I got those in gender neutral. I could care less about pink or blue carseats but I do like them to match the interior of my car.

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I'd say watch for sales/ collect coupons (BRU) and get gender neutral items now that you know you'll need.

Also- try & go thru the clothes you have now and pick out things that a girl could wear (White onesies/ socks/ other neutral items)

I'm hoping when we have DC #2 that I can go team green and hope to do what I've suggested to you!!

While I'd LOVE a sprinkle when I get PG w/ DC #2, I know it WON'T happen b/c MIL has made it clear we (her daughter and DILs) only get one shower.

Message edited 6/11/2010 10:14:20 AM.

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when are you due?

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My SIL just had her 5th baby and it was the first boy. My MIL threw her a shower for the same reasons you said-her last child before was 3 years ago and she had NOTHING for a boy.

I think it's a tough decision-would you rather have the surprise or the time to plan? For me obviously the latter won out!

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I don't think it would be so bad if a DD wears some boy clothing in the beginning. As long as you don't take pictures in them who will ever know? I wouldn't stress so much!!

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I would have to find out also. Than again I had to find out with this baby and its our first. I think having 2 boys if I were having a girl I would definitely want to know, so I could buy girly things.

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So I just saw your due date. I think the clothes I have from DD will work for you. My niece was born in March and got use of a lot of the PJ's. Don't worry about girl clothes. I can send you what I have.

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Start looking on Craigslist. You don't need to know the sex of the baby for any baby gear (carseat, pack and play, bouncy)

Go to Once Upon a Child. You can get amazing things for dirt cheap.

Start collecting now. I would NOT wait to buy everything once the baby is born if money is tight. You will need that money for diapers, formula etc.

Clothes, IMO, are cheap enough. You can run to Carters and get some onesies for the baby to live in if you don't have anyone around to lend you anything.

I would not wait until the baby is born to do this though. If you want to remain Team Green then just buy Gender neutral things.

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Crashing here

If it does end up being a girl, people seem to love buying girl clothes so you may get lots of girly gifts...I would buy some gender neutral, keep all the receipts ( I avoid BRU if possible since their return policy is little to be desired ) and return whatever you don't need/want...

Also, I did quite a bit of my "girl" shopping online after I had my c-section since I too was team

I would not find out gender because of shopping

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It seems like you post a lot about the sex of the baby. It seems like it is really on your mind and you are a bit nervous about it. If it is REALLY that intense for you, than just find out. It will put your mind at ease and you can prepare.

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