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seaside
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
There is another way to look at it, though. I feel I get closer to my children as they age. The days they were born were amazing, but I refuse to think of them as the best. They didn't really know me.
When they're older, they return your love, and even though some move far away, many don't and only get closer with you as they grow. 
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told me she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told me was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
Message edited 9/10/2013 7:42:20 PM.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by MsSissy
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told she was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
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dm24angel
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by Jugglemom
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by MrsO
Posted by bdmom
We cry because we spent 10 minutes packing a thoughtful snack of heart-shaped cheddar cheese blocks with his favorite crackers and a love note for morning snack-time and when we pick him up he says he's hungry - he couldn't eat his snack because "a kid at the table said it looked like cannalopes and I don't eat cannalopes, Mom". 
That is why we cry - seeing them going out and being influenced by others. We can't be there to protect them or help them. It is out of our hands for those hours they are in school.
Unfortunately that is life and I guess older parents know that is what comes with the territory, as much as we hate it. 
ALL parent's know it. But to some it is sad and invokes tears. LOTS about life invokes tears.
SO sad that once again we cannot support each other as mom's and women. But judge each other for some reason to try to make ourselves feel better or superior. That is all that is going on here.
Yes, human's judge each other...and yet some...try to rise above the nonsense and do not.
I have yet to meet that person that doesn't judge others for something. On LIF, in particular it happens to be for everything. But that is life - not everyone is going to like what we do - an invaluable lesson that needs to be taught to children as they venture into school.
Not everyone will support us regardless of whether we are mothers, women, men etc. I think that it is an unrealistic notion. Yes, we should be kind but I do not think anything was said that was particularly unkind.
For some the first day of school is about heartbreak and sadness. For others (like me) it is about excitement (whether it is for your children or yourself). I don't cry at happy moments - that's just me (not my wedding, birth of my kids etc.). Others do - that is fine. While I can't understand it I don't think they are bad people and I doubt others on here feel that those people are.
Perhaps everyone does judge, but MANY go out of their way to try not to. That was not done in this specific thread a few times and to judge a mother for something like crying for missing their child or a similar notion is just awful behavior. And justifying it allows it to continue. We need to be respectful and empower other mom's and women, not begrudge them their feelings....
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by dm24angel
Perhaps everyone does judge, but MANY go out of their way to try not to. That was not done in this specific thread a few times and to judge a mother for something like crying for missing their child or a similar notion is just awful behavior. And justifying it allows it to continue. We need to be respectful and empower other mom's and women, not begrudge them their feelings....
I didn't see much judgement going on in this thread.  And just as the OP couldn't understand why someone would cry, other posters seem baffled as to why one wouldn't. Do you then consider them to be passing judgement on those who don't cry?
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beachgirl
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told me she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told me was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I don't know if its this way for other moms of one, but these milestones are enormously bittersweet. DS' firsts will always be my lasts.
So many mom friends of mine have 2,3,4 kids. They get to experience many times over first days of kindergarten. Losing teeth. Growing from baby to kid.
I only get it once. And he will NEVER see my tears because I think the best gift a parent can give their child is celebrating the person he or she is becoming.
But inside, sometimes the pain of loss is overbearing. And knowing I'll never get to do this again forces me into the moment and take it all in. The joy, and the tears.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by MsSissy
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told me she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told me was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
I am sure I will do the same!
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
I don't know if its this way for other moms of one, but these milestones are enormously bittersweet. DS' firsts will always be my lasts.
So many mom friends of mine have 2,3,4 kids. They get to experience many times over first days of kindergarten. Losing teeth. Growing from baby to kid.
I only get it once. And he will NEVER see my tears because I think the best gift a parent can give their child is celebrating the person he or she is becoming.
But inside, sometimes the pain of loss is overbearing. And knowing I'll never get to do this again forces me into the moment and take it all in. The joy, and the tears.
Same here, I have only DD and I would not change our situation because I love being the mom of an only...it works for us. But knowing I only get to do it once makes it hard, but I also appreciate it that much more, it helps me stay in the moment. Though I confess I didn't cry last year when she started school, or this year. I loved school and I think my excitement for her overrode any tears. So I didn't cry but I definitely understand why some moms do.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by MsSissy
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told me she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told me was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by seaside
There is another way to look at it, though. I feel I get closer to my children as they age. The days they were born were amazing, but I refuse to think of them as the best. They didn't really know me.
When they're older, they return your love, and even though some move far away, many don't and only get closer with you as they grow.
this is such a great point!!!!
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maybebaby
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by Chatham-Chick
Posted by dm24angel
Perhaps everyone does judge, but MANY go out of their way to try not to. That was not done in this specific thread a few times and to judge a mother for something like crying for missing their child or a similar notion is just awful behavior. And justifying it allows it to continue. We need to be respectful and empower other mom's and women, not begrudge them their feelings....
I didn't see much judgement going on in this thread. And just as the OP couldn't understand why someone would cry, other posters seem baffled as to why one wouldn't. Do you then consider them to be passing judgement on those who don't cry?
I don't think anyone is baffled by those who don't...I think we ALL go through emotion and some people hide theirs better than others. There really wasn't judgment until PP stated it was silly and she couldn't understand it. and then comments about how some people make their kids their whole world...I just don't get why it was necessary to write that. 
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Pomegranate5
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by MsSissy
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told me she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told me was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
Since having DD I cry when I see OTHER people's kids reaching these milestones, so I can only imagine what kind of a mess I'll be when it's my own.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by MsSissy
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told me she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told me was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
Awww.
My mom cried at all these things too.
And I am sure I will too as DD grows and hits these milestones.
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| Posted 9/11/13 9:32 AM |
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by meloyellow
this might sound sad to some...but I find my son more interesting and awesome than many adults I know. So yes, I will miss him and most likely cry when he goes to school and finding "other adult things to do" won't be a consolation to that.
Also, with all these crazy stories about child care providers and teachers who can't be trusted...it's downright SCARY to leave your child in someone elses hands and just pray they do a good enough job. Up until this point I have been raising my son and instilling values in him, but when someone else takes over a huge chunk of time like that I will absolutely worry about if he is in good hands.
it has nothing to do with cutting the cord either. I can be happy to let me child grow and be independent and still miss him and worry.
I feel the exact same way as you. 
It is scary to leave them in the care of someone else and to send them into the world. It's hard at the Kindergarten age especially because for many, this is the first time they have been out of our care. But I realize, it will never really "get easy" because I'm always going to worry. Worry if they are being treated well, if they are being cared for, if they are liked, if they are safe, and on and on.
As you said, you hope to God you did the best job you could so once you send them out there on their own they make good, smart choices. And it's not an easy road, there is so much peer pressure and so many outside influences that its scary. Up until this point my DD has had a very innocent, carefree, positive childhood and it saddens me that a little bit of that innocence will be lost every year that she ages.
As a kid and teenager I NEVER understood why my parents were always so emotional about things or why it scared them when we wanted to go out on our own to try new things. But now I get it, I reallllly get it. Being a parent is like having your heart outside of your body. You grow this sweet little peanut inside of you, you give them all the love in your heart, you try your best to be a good mommy and do right by them and that at some point you have to start to let go. It's not easy. I don't think I will ever NOT worry about my children until the day I die. My mom was so right when she said, "You never stop worrying regardless of how old your kids are".
So that's why sending her off to Kindergarten was hard for me. And why it will be hard to see her graduate to middle school, and HS, and go off to college, and get married one day. While they are all happy, wonderful milestones in my child's life they are also reminders that time is fleeting and my babies are not babies anymore.......they are their own little independent people barreling towards adulthood. It's bittersweet for sure.
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dm24angel
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by Chatham-Chick
Posted by dm24angel
Perhaps everyone does judge, but MANY go out of their way to try not to. That was not done in this specific thread a few times and to judge a mother for something like crying for missing their child or a similar notion is just awful behavior. And justifying it allows it to continue. We need to be respectful and empower other mom's and women, not begrudge them their feelings....
I didn't see much judgement going on in this thread. And just as the OP couldn't understand why someone would cry, other posters seem baffled as to why one wouldn't. Do you then consider them to be passing judgement on those who don't cry?
Yep, there's not a $hit ton of judgment but it is the few that makes me sad that we still cannot support a mom regardless of what she does if she is doing a great job at the hardest job. There is a difference between being perplexed and being rude/condescending.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by MsSissy
I cried when my DD went to Kindergarten
I cried when she graduated H.S.
I cried when she graduated S.C.C.C
I cried when I left her in her dorm out in Faribanks, AK
I cried when her boyfriend called to ask for her hand in marriage.
We both cried when I walked her down the aisle.
I cried when she told me she was expecting her 1st child.
I cried when she lost that 1st child.
I cried when she told me was pregnant with each of my grandsons.
She is 29 yrs old and will always be my baby. And when my baby does something big, I cry. I'm silly like that.
And I don't care who knows it or what they think.
So sweet.
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Sash
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I cry when I have to pick my son up.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
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I cry when I have to pick my son up.
LOL!!!!
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I cry when I have to pick my son up.
OMG 
He is not a teenager, is he? From the morning I had with mine, I would be crying too.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
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I cry when I have to pick my son up.
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Sash
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Sash
I cry when I have to pick my son up.
OMG
He is not a teenager, is he? From the morning I had with mine, I would be crying too.
LOL Im glad you ladies found the humor in it.
No he is only 4 almost 5 and just started kindergarten. We already had some rough days and he was home with me for three weeks beforehand to give him a break from Daycare to school. So we were both ready the first day of school.
Now with him having some bad days, I am nervous to pick him up cause im scared of what report i may get.
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sfp0701
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
It's just the growing up. Not a baby and moving on. It's bittersweet. Watching them become the amazing children you have raised but, also losing your baby.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
I don't know if its this way for other moms of one, but these milestones are enormously bittersweet. DS' firsts will always be my lasts.
So many mom friends of mine have 2,3,4 kids. They get to experience many times over first days of kindergarten. Losing teeth. Growing from baby to kid.
I only get it once. And he will NEVER see my tears because I think the best gift a parent can give their child is celebrating the person he or she is becoming.
But inside, sometimes the pain of loss is overbearing. And knowing I'll never get to do this again forces me into the moment and take it all in. The joy, and the tears.
10000%
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