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FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

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djd711
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FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

I KNOW MOST OF YOU MOMMIES ARE HAVING TROUBLE WITH THE LITTLE ONES STAYING ASLEEP AT NIGHT, I POSTED LAST WEEK IN REF: TO MY DAUGHTER SCREAMING IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND ME TAKING HER OUT OF THE BED TO PUT IN MINE, NOOOOOOOOOOOO MORE

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The Ferber Method helps new parents to get baby to sleep alone. The Ferber method offers a concrete plan to help with the sometimes difficult task of getting baby to sleep
Ferber Method


One of the most important things in getting your baby to sleep properly is for baby to learn to sleep on his or her own. The reason it is so difficult for many parents - why parents of a newborn suffer from so many sleepless nights - is because your baby, at first, isn't used to sleeping on his own, and when he wakes up in the night he cries for his mother: being in the presence of his mother is only way he knows how to get to sleep. It is natural that this transition from sleeping with the mother, to sleeping on his own, will take some time for your baby. Many baby sleep tips involve setting up a strict nighttime routine, and introducing objects - such as stuffed animals - into the bed that your baby can associate with sleep. If you find after some months that your baby is still not able to sleep on his own, you can try what is known as the Ferber method.

Invented by Dr. Richard Ferber, the Ferber method is the most common way of weaning your child away from the mother, in terms of his sleep habits. It is usually successful within a couple of weeks. Nevertheless, it is important that you choose a week where you can afford to lose some sleep to begin the Ferber method. Especially at the beginning of the process, the Ferber method does require that you spend a lot of time listening to your baby crying, and if you attempt it at a time when you are desperate to sleep, you run the risk of breaking down and allowing your child to sleep with you, or sleeping in the room with him. If you do so you risk undoing a lot of work that you will have put into the method.

The first night you attempt the Ferber method, put your child to bed as you normally do. Your baby should be tired but still awake when you put him to bed, so that he is left to fall asleep on his own. After you leave the room, the baby will inevitably start crying. Allow him to cry for about 5 minutes, then re-enter the room to console him. It's important that you stay in the room for only a short time - even if he is still crying - and that you don't pick him up or rock him. This second time you leave the room, wait 10 minutes before returning in the same manner. The third time wait 15 minutes, and set this as a maximum wait time for the rest of the night.

Every time thereafter, enter the room briefly and then allow your child to cry for 15 minutes. Eventually, he will fall asleep on his own during one of the 15 minute intervals in which you are out of the room. The second night, you should begin with a 10 minute wait before re-entering the room, followed by 15 and then 20 minutes. In a similar fashion, increase your initial and subsequent wait times by 5 minutes each night.

Using this method your child will soon learn to go to sleep on his own. Although it can be difficult to listen to your baby cry, understand that the Ferber method is a safe and effective way of getting your baby to learn to sleep on his own.
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STICK TO YOUR GUNS LADIES, I ONLY DID IT FOR ONE NIGHT AND I WENT IN LIKE THREE TIMES 5MIN 10MIN THEN 15 SHE WAS EGH EGH EGH THEN AN HOUR LATER SHE SCREAMED I WENT IN HUGGED HER TOLD HER DADDY IS WATCHING BASEBALL MOMMY IS RIGHT HERE BLAH BLAH BLAH THEN GAVE HER MY TANK TOP WITH PERFUME LOLOLOLOL THEN SHE WENT NIGHTY NIGHT
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OH AND I ALSO LEFT THE DOOR OPEN SO SHE CAN SEE THE TV FLICKER

Message edited 9/9/2007 10:44:15 PM.

Posted 9/9/07 10:43 PM
 
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PrincessP
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

I guess everyone has their own parenting styles bc I couldnt do this method at all.

Posted 9/9/07 11:02 PM
 

mamaA
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

I'm sure it works for some people, just not me and DS. I also think you should add Ferber's recommendations on age etc to inform new mommies that this method isn't appropriate for really young babies. Just so they don't get the wrong idea about trying it too early because their newborns cry in the middle of the night, they're supposed to and need to.

Message edited 9/10/2007 12:10:23 AM.

Posted 9/10/07 12:07 AM
 

Crismicka
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

We did it and it does work. My babies would cry for hours on end and I would be in their room rocking them and taking turns...when one saw me holding the other one, they would cry louder! I would get so upset that the 3 of us would be crying...this was also lack of sleep and raging hormones.

We ferberized and 3 days later, my DC were going to bed after the 5 minute mark. After a week, I barely had to go in at all after putting them to bed.

It is not as HARSH as you think. You baby is allowed to cry! If you run in every time they whimper, you are not teaching them how to soothe themselves and you are starting a pattern that will exhaust you in the long run!

Posted 9/10/07 8:07 AM
 

Sassyz75
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

i couldn't do it either...d
but i'm happy you had success.

Posted 9/10/07 9:37 AM
 

Tine73

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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

My boss swears by this. I plan on trying it!

Posted 9/10/07 9:43 AM
 

pinkandblue
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

I tried this for about a week with my dd....I have realized that it only take 5 minutes out of my day to rock her to a semi-sleeping mode and then she does not make a peep when I put her down.. This is what I have been doing and so far, so good Chat Icon

Posted 9/10/07 9:51 AM
 

Crismicka
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Posted by stephanief

I tried this for about a week with my dd....I have realized that it only take 5 minutes out of my day to rock her to a semi-sleeping mode and then she does not make a peep when I put her down.. This is what I have been doing and so far, so good Chat Icon



Just from past experience with friends...those 5 minutes might be something you'll do until they are in 1st or 2nd grade! My friend now has to lay with his son every night until he falls asleep, which could take over an hour because he enjoys that time with daddy and if he wakes up in the middle of the night, he crawls into bed with his parents to fall back to sleep. No Thanks!

Posted 9/10/07 10:00 AM
 

michele31
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Age is very important in his method. It is NOT for young babies. Also if your child is sick or has experienced some type of trauma or stress this is not rec'd.

I never did it myself, but I didn't have major sleep issues either.
And I used to rock Molly every night to semi-sleep as a newborn/young baby. I loved that cuddle time. She is 3 and does NOT need me to that anymore. Once she got into her big girl bed she no longer needed that type of help.
If a parent continues to lay with a 2nd grader than that is THEIR issue probably more than their child's.

Message edited 9/10/2007 10:02:25 AM.

Posted 9/10/07 10:00 AM
 

pinkandblue
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Posted by michele31

Age is very important in his method. It is NOT for young babies. Also if your child is sick or has experienced some type of trauma or stress this is not rec'd.

I never did it myself, but I didn't have major sleep issues either.
And I used to rock Molly every night to semi-sleep as a newborn/young baby. I loved that cuddle time. She is 3 and does NOT need me to that anymore. Once she got into her big girl bed she no longer needed that type of help.
If a parent continues to lay with a 2nd grader than that is THEIR issue probably more than their child's.



I agree 100%....everyone needs to do what they are comfortable with. I still put her down awake but very sleepy....it works for us and we are running with it...

Posted 9/10/07 10:07 AM
 

djd711
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Danielle

Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Posted by PrincessP

I guess everyone has their own parenting styles bc I couldnt do this method at all.




I HEAR YA, I COULDNT EITHER AND ESPECIALLY MY FIANCE I CANT HEAR HER CRY I GET SO UPSET BUT HE KEPT WALKING OUTSIDE AND I CLEANED A LITTLE TO KEEP MY EARS TUNED OUT BUT I WENT IN 5 MINUTES, THEN 10 MINUTES, THEN AT 15-16 MINUTES SHE WAS CRYING VERY VERY LITTLE THEN SHE WENT TO SLEEP.

Posted 9/10/07 10:20 AM
 

djd711
LIF Infant

Member since 7/06

265 total posts

Name:
Danielle

Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Posted by Sassyz75

i couldn't do it either...d
but i'm happy you had success.



YOUR TOO CUTE, HEY WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO MOM'S SO I CAN SEE YOU.

Posted 9/10/07 10:22 AM
 

djd711
LIF Infant

Member since 7/06

265 total posts

Name:
Danielle

Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Posted by michele31

Age is very important in his method. It is NOT for young babies. Also if your child is sick or has experienced some type of trauma or stress this is not rec'd.

I never did it myself, but I didn't have major sleep issues either.
And I used to rock Molly every night to semi-sleep as a newborn/young baby. I loved that cuddle time. She is 3 and does NOT need me to that anymore. Once she got into her big girl bed she no longer needed that type of help.
If a parent continues to lay with a 2nd grader than that is THEIR issue probably more than their child's.




WOW I FEEL A LITTLE TENSION WITH THE MOMMY'S ON THIS SUBJECT.

LADIES DON'T GET ME WRONG MY DD IS 15 MONTHS OLD AND SHE STILL GETS HER WARM MILK AT NIGHT, SO MY ROUTINE, BATH, PJ'S, GET MILK, SAY NIGHT NIGHT TO DADDY, THEN WE GO IN HER ROOM WITH THE LIGHTS OFF SHE HOLDS HER BLANKIE AS SHE IS DRINKING HER MILK AND I AM ROCKING HER, THEN SHE IS DONE, SO I CONTINUE TO CUDDLE AND KISS HER (I TAKE IN ALL OF HER YUMMY SMELLS FROM THE BATH) THEN AFTER A FEW MINUTES (STILL AWAKE) I PUT HER DOWN.

Posted 9/10/07 10:26 AM
 

pinkandblue
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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Posted by djd711

Posted by michele31

Age is very important in his method. It is NOT for young babies. Also if your child is sick or has experienced some type of trauma or stress this is not rec'd.

I never did it myself, but I didn't have major sleep issues either.
And I used to rock Molly every night to semi-sleep as a newborn/young baby. I loved that cuddle time. She is 3 and does NOT need me to that anymore. Once she got into her big girl bed she no longer needed that type of help.
If a parent continues to lay with a 2nd grader than that is THEIR issue probably more than their child's.




WOW I FEEL A LITTLE TENSION WITH THE MOMMY'S ON THIS SUBJECT.

LADIES DON'T GET ME WRONG MY DD IS 15 MONTHS OLD AND SHE STILL GETS HER WARM MILK AT NIGHT, SO MY ROUTINE, BATH, PJ'S, GET MILK, SAY NIGHT NIGHT TO DADDY, THEN WE GO IN HER ROOM WITH THE LIGHTS OFF SHE HOLDS HER BLANKIE AS SHE IS DRINKING HER MILK AND I AM ROCKING HER, THEN SHE IS DONE, SO I CONTINUE TO CUDDLE AND KISS HER (I TAKE IN ALL OF HER YUMMY SMELLS FROM THE BATH) THEN AFTER A FEW MINUTES (STILL AWAKE) I PUT HER DOWN.



This is one of the topics that people feel strongly about...just one of those things

Thanks for posting the info. I do the same thing you do which does not sound like 100% CIO to me. Whatever works, right Chat Icon

Posted 9/10/07 10:39 AM
 

Laura1976

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Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

i did it with my 6 month old who had been waking up 3x times a night. the first night she cried for 15 minutes, but then slept for 9 hours, the next night she crried for 10 minutes, slept though the night. since then she only cries a minute and goese right to sleep. i am thrilled!!

Posted 9/10/07 11:07 AM
 

Sassyz75
Turning a new page

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Dina

Re: FERBER METHOD (((WORKS)))

Posted by djd711

Posted by Sassyz75

i couldn't do it either...d
but i'm happy you had success.



YOUR TOO CUTE, HEY WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO MOM'S SO I CAN SEE YOU.



I'm gonna have a 1st bday party for Maddie on 10/28 at her house and of course all you guys are invited!!!!

Posted 9/10/07 11:11 AM
 
 

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