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cateyemm
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Engagement party etiquette- registry info

What do you think about including registry cards in an engagement party invitation? Does it matter who hosts the party (like the bride's parents vs the bride and groom themselves)?
TIA

Posted 11/1/11 11:19 PM
 
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Christine
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

I am not a fan of registry information being included in any invitation but I am less critical when it's included in an invitation for a party that is held for someone else. For instance, the parents hosting an e-party or a bridal party hosting a wedding shower, etc.

Posted 11/1/11 11:22 PM
 

LadyBugN2Buggies
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info



I kind of like it. I mean, I'm going to give a gift anyway, so why not make my life easier & just give me a list? Chat Icon

Posted 11/1/11 11:26 PM
 

MsSissy
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

I don't mind it at all.
Actually I prefer it.

Im just not a fan of engagement partiesChat Icon

Posted 11/1/11 11:42 PM
 

jilliibabii
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Posted by MsSissy

I don't mind it at all.
Actually I prefer it.

Im just not a fan of engagement partiesChat Icon



Ditto!! Chat Icon

Posted 11/2/11 9:23 AM
 

neener1211
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Technically, etiquette says you're not supposed to bring a gift to an engagement party. They are not customary.

I personally am not a fan of engagement parties. I also don't think they should be putting registry info on an invite for an engagement party.

Posted 11/2/11 9:30 AM
 

TessMike214
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

I don't mind either

Message edited 11/2/2011 11:26:31 AM.

Posted 11/2/11 9:30 AM
 

MySunshine
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Posted by neener1211

Technically, etiquette says you're not supposed to bring a gift to an engagement party. They are not customary.

I personally am not a fan of engagement parties. I also don't think they should be putting registry info on an invite for an engagement party.



ITA

You will be putting the registry info for the bridal shower and inviting pretty much the same people- to me it's just overkill. Let me bring whatever I think is appropriate for an e-party.

Posted 11/2/11 9:34 AM
 

citywife
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

I really don't think engagement presents are necessary or expected, if they are given its a very kind, generous gesture and added bonus for the couple. Including registry info sends the message that you're expecting a gift. For our engagement party (which was really just a dinner with our families), a few people asked our parents if and where we were registered. I think it's best to leave the ball in the invitee's court on this one.

Posted 11/2/11 9:44 AM
 

Lina
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Posted by neener1211

Technically, etiquette says you're not supposed to bring a gift to an engagement party. They are not customary.

I personally am not a fan of engagement parties. I also don't think they should be putting registry info on an invite for an engagement party.



ITA with this. I was married in 09 and refused to have an engagement party. I think it's just another excuse for people to get gifts. It's like "we got engaged, now buy us a gift". Not a fan and definitely not a fan of putting registry cards in the invites- JMO

Posted 11/2/11 9:47 AM
 

jam11308

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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Posted by LadyBugN2Buggies

I kind of like it. I mean, I'm going to give a gift anyway, so why not make my life easier & just give me a list? Chat Icon



This is how I feel!

Posted 11/2/11 10:03 AM
 

dpli
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Personally, I think it's tacky. The only time I think someone should include registry cards is for a shower, bridal or baby.

I think it's fine to register before the party, so if people ask or think to look for a registry, they can buy from it, but putting the cards in there is presumptuous IMO.

Posted 11/2/11 10:46 AM
 

LoveMyHubby605
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Posted by dpli

Personally, I think it's tacky. The only time I think someone should include registry cards is for a shower, bridal or baby.

I think it's fine to register before the party, so if people ask or think to look for a registry, they can buy from it, but putting the cards in there is presumptuous IMO.




I agree.

Posted 11/2/11 11:13 AM
 

cateyemm
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

OK thanks for the confirmation. I just got my second eparty invite with registry information and I was wondering whether I was nuts for thinking this isn't "proper". I know that for plenty of people it's inconsequential. But I had an engagement party so that DH and my family could meet, didn't do registry info and ended up with a lot of gifts anyway. I just think it sends the wrong message. JMHO

Posted 11/2/11 11:32 AM
 

APT910
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

My in-laws through our e-party and we didn't include any registry information, however, so many people asked us where we were registered so we ended up making a small registry and telling the guests who asked about it.

Posted 11/2/11 11:35 AM
 

lynnd126
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

I've never encountered that. We give cash at all the engagement parties we go to and then the couple registers for the shower- cash again at the wedding. I don't think I would really mind though seeing a registry- but tbh I'd probably end up still giving cash just b/c I'm lazy like that. I hate waiting in stupid line at BBB for everything.

In my situation I felt a little funny having an engagement party b/c we were engaged and then married 12 months later with a shower in between so I was afraid of overkill (and then a baby shower only 6 months after that too). We did a big barbeque at our house with close family and friends- maybe like 45 people. It was more kind of to take the edge off our families meeting- really only our moms had met and very briefly. We got mixed gifts- cash and some household things. I wasn't really expecting gifts since it was so informal but I guess since we had given to so many of these people at their own functions they probably felt funny showing up empty handed even if it was a BBQ.

Posted 11/2/11 11:43 AM
 

ave1024
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Engagement parties are Chat Icon enough.

Engagement party invitations with registry cards in them are just plain Chat Icon .

Posted 11/2/11 1:00 PM
 

ali120206
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

Posted by neener1211

Technically, etiquette says you're not supposed to bring a gift to an engagement party. They are not customary.

I personally am not a fan of engagement parties. I also don't think they should be putting registry info on an invite for an engagement party.



ITA

Posted 11/2/11 1:07 PM
 

jlk51496
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

I am personally not a fan..

but

if someone asked I would offer where they are registered for but I wouldn't include it in the invitation..save that for the shower!

Posted 11/2/11 1:35 PM
 

PearlJamChick
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Re: Engagement party etiquette- registry info

I'd be turned off by registry info included in an engagement party invite.

But I'm of the camp that isn't really a fan of big to-do engagement parties.

Posted 11/2/11 1:40 PM
 
 

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