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Do you have a rule follower?

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MK2010x2
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Do you have a rule follower?

My oldest follows all the rules, to the point where it is sometimes a problem and I worry about her.


Her two younger siblings have no issue whatsoever breaking the rules.

What can I do?

Posted 8/21/19 3:54 PM
 
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MrsO
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Do you have a rule follower?

Yes my 2nd son likes to follow the rules and is afraid of getting in trouble - the others not so much.

Posted 8/21/19 4:21 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: Do you have a rule follower?

Honestly, I think it's a personality thing.
To this day, I don't like rules and always try to find a way around them.
Someone will say- oh you have to do it this way and for no good reason I'll try to find a way to skirt that rule just because I can. It's like a thing with me.

The best you can do is encourage them to follow important rules- like safety rules, listening at school, doing homework, respecting others, , etc.

For the one that follows the rules to a fault, you can let her know that it's ok to be flexible sometimes and not everything has to be done one way only.
But again, I feel like that is just a type A personality trait to be honest.

Posted 8/21/19 4:23 PM
 

Katareen
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Do you have a rule follower?

Yes, my oldest. She’s always been this way.
I never really thought about it as a problem, she makes my life easier! Always does what she’s supposed to, is great in school, behaves at other’s houses, etc.

Posted 8/21/19 5:16 PM
 

MerryChristmas
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Re: Do you have a rule follower?

Posted by Katareen

Yes, my oldest. She’s always been this way.
I never really thought about it as a problem, she makes my life easier! Always does what she’s supposed to, is great in school, behaves at other’s houses, etc.



I have one like this and feel the same way.

Posted 8/21/19 9:41 PM
 

StaceyWill
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Re: Do you have a rule follower?

Posted by MerryChristmas

Posted by Katareen

Yes, my oldest. She’s always been this way.
I never really thought about it as a problem, she makes my life easier! Always does what she’s supposed to, is great in school, behaves at other’s houses, etc.



I have one like this and feel the same way.



Same. I only have one and she's a total rule follower, goody two shoes and I love it.

OP-curious what you mean that it sometimes causes a problem?

Posted 8/21/19 9:59 PM
 

MK2010x2
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Re: Do you have a rule follower?

For example, when she felt sick and the teacher said that no one is allowed to get up/go to the bathroom during a lesson, she just threw up in her seat because she said "but we weren't allowed to get up".

I feel like she sometimes has anxiety over things that kids her age should just not worry about. Like if I say, I'm going to miss my train, she totally panics and worries that I will get in trouble. Had to talk her down and explain there are more trains and that I won't get in trouble (even when I am not "following the rules"/doing what I'm supposed to do). Or that if I do get in trouble, I just don't really care all that much.

It's not so much I guess that I care that she follows the rules (it's great most of the time), I am concerned that she worries too much. She is 6 years old and I feel like a kid that young should break a rule or two or at least not worry when she does.

Posted 8/21/19 10:31 PM
 

StaceyWill
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Do you have a rule follower?

Awwwww. I totally get it now. DD is a lot like that too. She gets very bad allergies and panicked one morning because they're not supposed to get up too many times in the classroom to get tissues. I told her a few times to get as many tissues as she needs.
So, my advice is (what I do) is tackle every situation as it comes. She has gotten way better, so maybe your DD will outgrow it a bit.
But, like Nell said, I think it's just a personality trait.

Posted 8/21/19 11:10 PM
 

ali120206
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Do you have a rule follower?

Both of my kids are rule followers. My younger DS has no patience for those who don't follow the rules (which is a huge problem in gym class as many break the rules there).

Posted 8/22/19 8:59 AM
 

anonymoususer
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Re: Do you have a rule follower?

I used to. Now he’s 9. Chat Icon


Lol

Posted 8/22/19 9:12 AM
 

nycbuslady
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Do you have a rule follower?

My daughter is a rule follower with other people, but not at home -- LOL!

Posted 8/22/19 10:48 AM
 

MichLiz213
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Do you have a rule follower?

He definitely can be, but I was like that (and still am a good amount of the time).

Posted 8/22/19 1:39 PM
 

MerryChristmas
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Re: Do you have a rule follower?

Posted by MK2010x2

For example, when she felt sick and the teacher said that no one is allowed to get up/go to the bathroom during a lesson, she just threw up in her seat because she said "but we weren't allowed to get up".

I feel like she sometimes has anxiety over things that kids her age should just not worry about. Like if I say, I'm going to miss my train, she totally panics and worries that I will get in trouble. Had to talk her down and explain there are more trains and that I won't get in trouble (even when I am not "following the rules"/doing what I'm supposed to do). Or that if I do get in trouble, I just don't really care all that much.

It's not so much I guess that I care that she follows the rules (it's great most of the time), I am concerned that she worries too much. She is 6 years old and I feel like a kid that young should break a rule or two or at least not worry when she does.




She sounds just like my kid. She will be ok. This is just who they are. I try to reassure her that no one is perfect, its ok to make mistakes, some rules are ok to break if it concerns her safety or wellbeing.
I was exactly the same way as a kid and just like your daughter, threw up at my desk when my teacher told me no one could go to the bathroom or leave the room at the time. I was mortified.
Message me if you ever want to talk.

Posted 8/23/19 10:47 AM
 
 

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