Did my mom start a bad habit after only 1 time?

Last night my parents had DS for the entire night. I delt with the anxiety but knew what was going to happen. My dad accidentially woke DS up when he came home from soccer and when he started cring my mom gave him a full bottle . She said it didnt work and it still took her 2 hours to get him back to sleep. I am that he does not think he is now going to get a bottle everytime he wakes up in the middle of the night. She thinks everytime he cries he needs a bottle . He hasnt had one in the middle of night since he was 6 weeks old and I dont want to start again.

As far as future sleepovers, this is the last one until he can talk. I just dont feel comfortable with him sleeping anywhere else except with us.

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I don't think one time will create a bad habit. I'll for your sake that it doesn't. But really I don't think so. We've had times that Ellie has been up in the middle of the night and we've given her a bottle and she's gone right back to sleeping through after that. I know we took a risk doing it, but it worked out ok.

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honestly i dont think it will turn into a bad habit..i mean all babies are different..but you just have to get him back on your routine..i had dd sleep at my mom's house...a few times already..and to be honest she fed alexandra at a time i normally wouldnt have..but she eventually got back on track..after a day or so..honestly dd was so tough in the beginning..all i needed was sleep..so if grandma wanted to help...it was worth the day to get back on schedule..i guess if you do it again..just let them know what your son needs when he does cry so this way he doenst get messed up..it just may have been because he was out of his own home..

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There have been lots of times, when Emily was sick and was having a hard time sleeping, when we gave her a bottle in the middle of the night to help sooth/calm her before we put her back to sleep. Still, she sleeps well through the night. We might have a rough patch every few months but generally she is a good sleeper. I don't think it will turn into a habit.

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I don't think one time will cause a habit.

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Whenever Ava is going through a growth spurt and wakes in the middle of the night, we feed her. Maybe it'll last a week and only happens on rare occassions, but she always goes back to sleeping the night with no problems. I wouldn't worry. One time isn't going to totally throw him off, and your mom was just trying to do what she thought was best.

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Agree it's not a habit but don't burn your bridges. If he wakes up for her but sleeps for you, still opt for the sleepovers. You need to recharge your batteries before that boy speaks.

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After thinking about what all you guys said you are right. I guess I just felt like she was respecting the way I parent. I wouldnt have cared if she hardly saw him but she see's him alot and she knows how important a schedule is to me. She also told me that she went out and bought formula (she remembered what I use) because she knew it wasnt enough. I gave her his nighttime bottle, morning bottle, and an additional 5oz for cereal and a small 4 oz bottle. She also mentioned when I picked up that she would feed him everytime he cried. I guess I just felt hurt like she didnt trust me and I know she was doing her best. I do appreciate everything she does for us and I dont want to sound ungrateful.

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Sounds to me like you are being a bit defensive. I don't think its about respect, I think she was just trying to get through the night and keep your baby as happy as possible. She just leaned on feeding to give comfort because she wasn't confident like you are that you can soothe other ways. I don't think it will impact your routine any more than the disruption from being with a different caretaker overnight.

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in order to create a "habit" it needs to be done a minimum of 3 times.....same concept with CIO, etc. You'll see a change after 3 days.

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I don't think that one time will create a bad habit, maybe if your DS slept over their house for a week, he would pick up a habit. I wouldn't worry about it. Remember she was a mom of an infant once too, so don't be upset with your parents, your mom was just trying to help him get back to sleep.